Parents: How do you teach your kids to handle pain once it happens?

I'm not talking about keeping their hand away from a stove or light socket - that's avoiding pain. I mean once they've fallen or gotten hit. Do you coddle them, or tell them to toughen up? Describe any strategies you've used.Parents: How do you teach your kids to handle pain once it happens?
My girls have always been very good at simply AVOIDING pain, my son on the other hand, not so much...during his football games, wrestling tournaments, BMX Biking our Philosophy (His and Mine) is '; If there's no bone showing or blood spurting, then suck it up and walk it off';, he knows if he is TRULY INJURED I will be right there...if he is a little HURT he'll get over it...in the 11 years he has been playing Sports he has had only 1 true injury and that was last year in a State Wrestling Tournament Medal Round, he came down HARD on his right shoulder, instantly breaking his Clavicle..he looked over at me and his Coaches and gave a NOD...we KNEW he was INJURED not just hurt and needed help...we immediately came to his aid and off to the Hospital we went!Parents: How do you teach your kids to handle pain once it happens?
It depends on whether or not i saw it, the sound of the cry, the look on their face etc.


I can always tell iff they r truly hurt by the sound of the cry though. If they r just tired, took a stumble, and more upset than hurt i just tell them to chill, they'll be ok and then i feed them or put them to bed, basically just give them what they need. If they r really hurt i coddle them. I always tell them i love them whether they r truly hurt or not.
Whatever you do, don't say ';toughen up';. If your kid is really hurt, then you will come across as uncaring and insensitive. Acknowledge their pain and be empathetic. Certainly give hugs and kisses. Don't freak and make a bigger deal of it than it needs to be either.





Let them know that experiencing pain is a mark of growing up and they have put a notch on their belt. They may find that validating and that will give them a healthy perspective on feeling pain.
ugh that is tough, because if my son falls and is crying well yeah i got cuddle him but if he does something by just falling and crying (not in a bad painfull way) i will normally just say get up and try again or something but i do cuddle him in situations like when he fell in the tube and busted his mouth open , but i think i was still crying more than him lol
If it's something small like a little scuff of the knee (no blood) or just a little tumble, then I'll say something like '; Oh, get up. brush it off, you're a big guy';. But if there's blood or something major, than I try to stay as calm as possible to avoid getting him any more worked up than he is and I go straight to addressing the issue: cleaning the wound, getting a band aid, etc.
Keep calm about it and make light of the subject. Something like saying ';that was a nice one'; or ';that will be a bruise'; lets them know your aware of the hurt but that it's not a major issue.
depends how much it hurts... if my son falls and starts to whine and isnt actually hurt i just smile and say ';ut Oh... you are okay and smile..'; if he bangs his head off something then i rush over and kiss it all better
If I stay calm, the situation stays calm. If I freak out, they freak out. I try to tell him pain is apart of life and he will be okay.