My parents and I do not get along and even going out for help at the counselor. My boyfriend and i have been dating for two years and when i turn 17 i plan on moving out with him, but that would require switching schools with a parents permission. Is there some law where i don't need their consent to switch schools?How can you switch schools without your parents permission at age 17?
Sure. You can become an emancipated minor. Call your state courthouse to find out how. The bad part about doing that is that your parents will no longer be legally or financially responsible for you. That means you will have to pay for everything and anything that you need or want. That includes rent, utilities, food, clothing, computer, internet, cable tv, school supplies, gas, car, health insurance, auto insurance, medical bills, dental bills, etc..... It also means any legal trouble you may get in to, you will be considered an adult. It's not as easy as it sounds to be on your own, even with the acknowledgment that living at home isn't easy. Rather than going out on your own, my suggestion would be to get a part time job to keep yourself busy and away from home as much as possible, of course, making sure you have plenty of time available for school work, which could be accomplished at the local library or a friend's house. I know you don't want to hear this, but unless there is abuse involved, your best bet is to stay home.
Tuesday, August 24, 2010
How do I go about changing my parents birthdays on my birth certificate?
My birth certificate lists them as 3/29 when she was born on 2/29 (just recently found out, and she had to change all her documents) and my dad's says 7/25 and he was born on 1/15.How do I go about changing my parents birthdays on my birth certificate?
Does it really matter that much?? If so I would call vital records office and ask them how to go about that.How do I go about changing my parents birthdays on my birth certificate?
I think your parents will have to change it, not you...and it's very weird that both are wrong...I'd be asking someone about that..
wowowowowow thats so weirdd lol
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How did they screw both of them up? That's really weird.
Does it really matter that much?? If so I would call vital records office and ask them how to go about that.How do I go about changing my parents birthdays on my birth certificate?
I think your parents will have to change it, not you...and it's very weird that both are wrong...I'd be asking someone about that..
wowowowowow thats so weirdd lol
contacttt the place
How did they screw both of them up? That's really weird.
Parents- What family traditions did you pass on or start?
I was just wondering how many families really have traditions that go from one generation to another, or if each family as made has thier own and the old ones get forgotten.Parents- What family traditions did you pass on or start?
A tradition that I started that my family did not, is to have a keepsake box, my parents as soon as I moved out, threw away anything and everything.
For my kids I have their first pics, first letters they've written (alphabet), their first quilt for the crib, first toy etc plus I wrote a journal while I was pregnant (and what a journey it was with my last born), wrote down all my fears, joys and thoughts of them and my wishes for them for the future. I always wished I'd had something handed down in my family and bc I didn't I wanted to start it now.
Another tradition is every xmas eve, we have a big feast of homemade hor'deuves, appetizers, treats and cookies that I start making at noon and we eat all day long, listen to xmas music and watch movies as well play games---the kids look forward to that as much as the big day.
edit--actually so do we :) I always wanted decos for the tree to have passed down...my husbands family does that, we've done the same thing--bought a special ornament that reflects what they're like or who they are like or what they're into --I did the journal bc I want my kids to think of me as ''human''---it's something that I lacked seeing in my parents, making mistakes and owning upto them etc.Parents- What family traditions did you pass on or start?
Well , I'm not a parent yet ( I'm 19 weeks pregnant ). My boyfriend and I don't actually have any family traditions, But we want to implement some.. ie create new ones ! Some of the traditions we want to have are:
1. going out as a family every year to cut down an xmas tree
2. decorating the Christmas tree together
3. creating a special holiday that is just our family and no one else that happens once a year , like , Rivera Lobster Fest ! or something like that ...
4. Celebrate ethnic holidays like st pattys day and teaching the kids about their heritage .. with food and culture
well on my side of the family we don't have any my family really isn't very family oriented so there are none from there,on my hubby's side there are a few like the night before christmas they read christmas stories to all the kids,for halloween my MIL makes a bunch of finger foods and she lets the kids name them whatever they want like mini corn dogs would be frankin fingers grapes would be eyeballs!!! It is so cute,I plan to carry that one on.With my daughter I plan to make a Hope chest and have her give it to her daughter or DIL and then her daughter and so and so on.
we have a lot of xmas traditions that stem from back home in australia.
i make ice cream Christmas cake and have a bbq and go to the beach. Its nice having something from back home to bring to a new country.
We make sure the majority of our cultural/religious traditions have been carried on through our family - it's been important to us, and now they are important to this next generation.
A tradition that I started that my family did not, is to have a keepsake box, my parents as soon as I moved out, threw away anything and everything.
For my kids I have their first pics, first letters they've written (alphabet), their first quilt for the crib, first toy etc plus I wrote a journal while I was pregnant (and what a journey it was with my last born), wrote down all my fears, joys and thoughts of them and my wishes for them for the future. I always wished I'd had something handed down in my family and bc I didn't I wanted to start it now.
Another tradition is every xmas eve, we have a big feast of homemade hor'deuves, appetizers, treats and cookies that I start making at noon and we eat all day long, listen to xmas music and watch movies as well play games---the kids look forward to that as much as the big day.
edit--actually so do we :) I always wanted decos for the tree to have passed down...my husbands family does that, we've done the same thing--bought a special ornament that reflects what they're like or who they are like or what they're into --I did the journal bc I want my kids to think of me as ''human''---it's something that I lacked seeing in my parents, making mistakes and owning upto them etc.Parents- What family traditions did you pass on or start?
Well , I'm not a parent yet ( I'm 19 weeks pregnant ). My boyfriend and I don't actually have any family traditions, But we want to implement some.. ie create new ones ! Some of the traditions we want to have are:
1. going out as a family every year to cut down an xmas tree
2. decorating the Christmas tree together
3. creating a special holiday that is just our family and no one else that happens once a year , like , Rivera Lobster Fest ! or something like that ...
4. Celebrate ethnic holidays like st pattys day and teaching the kids about their heritage .. with food and culture
well on my side of the family we don't have any my family really isn't very family oriented so there are none from there,on my hubby's side there are a few like the night before christmas they read christmas stories to all the kids,for halloween my MIL makes a bunch of finger foods and she lets the kids name them whatever they want like mini corn dogs would be frankin fingers grapes would be eyeballs!!! It is so cute,I plan to carry that one on.With my daughter I plan to make a Hope chest and have her give it to her daughter or DIL and then her daughter and so and so on.
we have a lot of xmas traditions that stem from back home in australia.
i make ice cream Christmas cake and have a bbq and go to the beach. Its nice having something from back home to bring to a new country.
We make sure the majority of our cultural/religious traditions have been carried on through our family - it's been important to us, and now they are important to this next generation.
What is it like to be the parent or sibling of a deaf child?
I am just wondering, out of curiousity, what is it like to be the parent or sibling of a deaf or hard-of-hearing child? How is it different? How is the same? What challenges do/did you face and how do/did you resolve them? Did your child/sibling attend mainstream school or another kind? Any additional constructive comments?What is it like to be the parent or sibling of a deaf child?
I would like to think its pretty much the same as anyone else. they laugh they cry and when they see you they are happy.preventing blackheads
I would like to think its pretty much the same as anyone else. they laugh they cry and when they see you they are happy.
What are my options if non custodial parent does not return the child in Texas?
The father is responsible for transportation for his visitation weekends. He now has decided he didn't want to do the driving since he moved an hour away. What are my options if he decides not to return my son because he doesn't want to drive?
What are my options if non custodial parent does not return the child in Texas?
Remind him of the court order, that if he takes the kids he has to bring them back. If he doesn't then call the Police.What are my options if non custodial parent does not return the child in Texas?
If he does not have custody of the child, and refuses to return him, you can honestly involve the police. And it is almost guarenteed that he wont be alowd around the child for probable ';kidnapping'; charges, that could be activated in the future.
All in all, you can really bust his *** for refusing.
You may be able to raise serious charges against him. You may want to seek some form of legal advice to be sure of your rights. http://www.localtexasattorneys.com/Categ鈥?/a>
Good Luck!
He can be arrested and convicted for kidnaping. Non-custodial is the important term here. He does not have legal custody of the child, and his visitation is ONLY visitation.
It sounds to me like a violation of a court order and you should be able to get him on contempt.
I would speak to my lawyer.
call the police and he'll get in trouble.if he is breaking the court order he'll get in trouble.
What are my options if non custodial parent does not return the child in Texas?
Remind him of the court order, that if he takes the kids he has to bring them back. If he doesn't then call the Police.What are my options if non custodial parent does not return the child in Texas?
If he does not have custody of the child, and refuses to return him, you can honestly involve the police. And it is almost guarenteed that he wont be alowd around the child for probable ';kidnapping'; charges, that could be activated in the future.
All in all, you can really bust his *** for refusing.
You may be able to raise serious charges against him. You may want to seek some form of legal advice to be sure of your rights. http://www.localtexasattorneys.com/Categ鈥?/a>
Good Luck!
He can be arrested and convicted for kidnaping. Non-custodial is the important term here. He does not have legal custody of the child, and his visitation is ONLY visitation.
It sounds to me like a violation of a court order and you should be able to get him on contempt.
I would speak to my lawyer.
call the police and he'll get in trouble.if he is breaking the court order he'll get in trouble.
How do I communicate better with my parents and grandparents?
I live in Singapore and my grandparents live in USA so we talk through Skype every night. Hence, we do not talk much. My parents stay with me in the same house. Sometimes during car rides we do not even exchange a single sentence. How can I solve this? Please do not tell me ';try to communicate more with them'; or another sentence as brief as that. Please explain how do I do that. Thanks in advance.How do I communicate better with my parents and grandparents?
wow. that's tough. maybe sit down with them and ask them if you do something to make them angry and not want to talk to you. if their not angry just explain to them that you feel that you never talk to each other and you want to change that because you love them and want to be able to talk to them but it's hard if your the only one making an effort to do thatHow do I communicate better with my parents and grandparents?
Ask open-ended questions. If they try giving a yes/no answer, ask why and take the opposing side. Debates usually get people talking if they feel strongly enough about something.
first u talk and make them to talk it may be boring for them but u don't give up talk some thing about movies,friends,relatives after some days they will also start talking it works
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wow. that's tough. maybe sit down with them and ask them if you do something to make them angry and not want to talk to you. if their not angry just explain to them that you feel that you never talk to each other and you want to change that because you love them and want to be able to talk to them but it's hard if your the only one making an effort to do thatHow do I communicate better with my parents and grandparents?
Ask open-ended questions. If they try giving a yes/no answer, ask why and take the opposing side. Debates usually get people talking if they feel strongly enough about something.
first u talk and make them to talk it may be boring for them but u don't give up talk some thing about movies,friends,relatives after some days they will also start talking it works
Try to know more about Globe 7, I hope it will be usefull for You..
Take Care..
How common is it for a foster parent to work full time?
If you've had any experience with fostering what are the general thoughts/feelings about foster children being in daycare or preschool? Is this permitted or never allowed? Does one parent have to be home full time? I don't see why this would be as the child will eventually attend school and not be home with the parent anyway. My husband and I are exploring the option of fostering, perhaps in a year or two, and I fear my working full time would make us ineligible foster parents. He works part time, btw.How common is it for a foster parent to work full time?
They will place a child in a home with foster parents who work full-time. Of course, the needs of the child will be evaluated first and those children whose special needs require a full-time stay at home parent would be identified.
One thing to note, is that the reimbursement for being foster parents will never include any kind of additional money to pay for daycare. In most cases, the regular reimbursement received won't even cover the cost of daycare. Day care costs more than what foster parents are paid. Not that money should be the deciding factor, but it is a consideration. For working parents, the state is most likely to place school age children in the home...then the kids would be at school most of the day anyways.
Some of the rules and regulations depend on the state you live in, so your best bet is contact your local CPS or look on your state's website.How common is it for a foster parent to work full time?
While they can't tell you not to, in most cases, it is really frowned upon.
These kids usually have attachment issues and trust issues already, and to place them in child care during the day, especially when they're not in school yet, could be damaging. Keep in mind, if a child is small enough to not yet be in school, it may also be tough to explain to them why they don't have a consistent caregiver.
If the kids are much older, and in school already, it is possible, but please, if they are little, give them the consistency that they so badly need, or choose not to foster. These are not biological children. They do not have an existing attachment that will withstand childcare. These kids need consistent caregivers, at the very least.
You can both work full time. States dont require one parent to stay at home, but they will require a plan (and for them to be made aware of that plan) on what your working schedules will be and what the daycare situation will be. You typically spend more money on a child than you get per month, so most foster parents work. State will pay for medicaid approved daycare and you will be given medicaid healthcare cards for the children, but if you opt for a nicer daycare that doesnt accept medicaid or, go to a dr. that doesnt accept medicaid, you flip the bill.
Good luck.
My husband and I have been fostering for awhile. The agency we went through does an income check to be sure you make enough to meet your monthly needs and are not just living off the money provided for the kids. I work full time during the day and my husband works full time in the evenings. This works well for us and someone is always home for the kids. Fostering involves alot of traveling for appointments, school events and visits. They tell us not to treat our foster children any different than we do our own. The only problem with daycare is the one that you use has to be state certified and each employee has to have fingerprinting and background checks. We had to have our parents fingerprinted and backgrounds done to keep our kids. This is how it is in Ohio. Congrates on thinking about fostering. We love every minute of it. Good luck to you.
Many Foster parents work full time. Parents are required to have consistent schedule (no trick work) so the child has a structured evening routine. The daycare needs to be liscenced through your state and accept county payment as childcare expenses are paid by the county. When choosing a daycare, look for structure and routine and ask if the director and lead teacher have dealt with foster families before. Children dealing with loss and trauma need stability and predictability to feel safe.
Foster kids need time and attention. It is NOT that you can't work, but think about the kids. Going to school is one thing...coming home to a strange, empty house is another. It can take along time for kids to settle into a home....If the idea is to help them ';develop and get past issues;'; leaving them to feel alone is not the best idea.
Also, on a side note, the homes where parent's are not home are alot easier to be disruptive, act-out, etc.
It is most comman for both foster parents to work in my state and it is NOT frowned upon, It is a fact of life. Daycare costs are completely covered. Special needs kids go to daycare also--no difference in placement. One parent does not have to stay home. Single foster ans well as married couples. Why wait---they need you NOW. Call your local state CFS agency for answers that apply to your state.
I am a Foster/Aopted parent from KY you can work ,,there nothing saying you can not work,,,belive me you will need the income ,,lol,,yes state pays alittle but not enough.lol
They will place a child in a home with foster parents who work full-time. Of course, the needs of the child will be evaluated first and those children whose special needs require a full-time stay at home parent would be identified.
One thing to note, is that the reimbursement for being foster parents will never include any kind of additional money to pay for daycare. In most cases, the regular reimbursement received won't even cover the cost of daycare. Day care costs more than what foster parents are paid. Not that money should be the deciding factor, but it is a consideration. For working parents, the state is most likely to place school age children in the home...then the kids would be at school most of the day anyways.
Some of the rules and regulations depend on the state you live in, so your best bet is contact your local CPS or look on your state's website.How common is it for a foster parent to work full time?
While they can't tell you not to, in most cases, it is really frowned upon.
These kids usually have attachment issues and trust issues already, and to place them in child care during the day, especially when they're not in school yet, could be damaging. Keep in mind, if a child is small enough to not yet be in school, it may also be tough to explain to them why they don't have a consistent caregiver.
If the kids are much older, and in school already, it is possible, but please, if they are little, give them the consistency that they so badly need, or choose not to foster. These are not biological children. They do not have an existing attachment that will withstand childcare. These kids need consistent caregivers, at the very least.
You can both work full time. States dont require one parent to stay at home, but they will require a plan (and for them to be made aware of that plan) on what your working schedules will be and what the daycare situation will be. You typically spend more money on a child than you get per month, so most foster parents work. State will pay for medicaid approved daycare and you will be given medicaid healthcare cards for the children, but if you opt for a nicer daycare that doesnt accept medicaid or, go to a dr. that doesnt accept medicaid, you flip the bill.
Good luck.
My husband and I have been fostering for awhile. The agency we went through does an income check to be sure you make enough to meet your monthly needs and are not just living off the money provided for the kids. I work full time during the day and my husband works full time in the evenings. This works well for us and someone is always home for the kids. Fostering involves alot of traveling for appointments, school events and visits. They tell us not to treat our foster children any different than we do our own. The only problem with daycare is the one that you use has to be state certified and each employee has to have fingerprinting and background checks. We had to have our parents fingerprinted and backgrounds done to keep our kids. This is how it is in Ohio. Congrates on thinking about fostering. We love every minute of it. Good luck to you.
Many Foster parents work full time. Parents are required to have consistent schedule (no trick work) so the child has a structured evening routine. The daycare needs to be liscenced through your state and accept county payment as childcare expenses are paid by the county. When choosing a daycare, look for structure and routine and ask if the director and lead teacher have dealt with foster families before. Children dealing with loss and trauma need stability and predictability to feel safe.
Foster kids need time and attention. It is NOT that you can't work, but think about the kids. Going to school is one thing...coming home to a strange, empty house is another. It can take along time for kids to settle into a home....If the idea is to help them ';develop and get past issues;'; leaving them to feel alone is not the best idea.
Also, on a side note, the homes where parent's are not home are alot easier to be disruptive, act-out, etc.
It is most comman for both foster parents to work in my state and it is NOT frowned upon, It is a fact of life. Daycare costs are completely covered. Special needs kids go to daycare also--no difference in placement. One parent does not have to stay home. Single foster ans well as married couples. Why wait---they need you NOW. Call your local state CFS agency for answers that apply to your state.
I am a Foster/Aopted parent from KY you can work ,,there nothing saying you can not work,,,belive me you will need the income ,,lol,,yes state pays alittle but not enough.lol
What are the benefits of student-led parent conferences?
What are the benefits of student-led parent conferences?
I'm a teacher and I'm just wondering. I've heard about student-led conferences using powerpoint slides but I'm not really sure how to that with kindergartners. Did it work for any of you?What are the benefits of student-led parent conferences?
I can see that it might make students take the value of their work more seriously.
As a parent, however, I hate them. I really want to use the 10 minutes I am allowed with the teacher to find out how my kids are REALLY doing. I find that sometimes you want to talk to the teacher without your child there, especially if they are having soical concerns. I often go to the ';child led'; conference, and then call the school to book another meeting with the teacher or Learning Resource Teacher.What are the benefits of student-led parent conferences?
isnt that where the parents have all control over their childs progress and future choices?
Powerpoint for kindergartners?????
This is the craziest thing I've ever heard of!!!!!
No, it's not going to work, ;but I certainly want some of whatever the person who came up with this idea was smoking.
Don't know of any. Students need to be students, parents are their advocates, and teachers ought to teach. Parents can and should inquire about the progress of their child. Teachers should readily notify the parents of concerns with the student. Students should live, grow and learn.
With kindergardeners? Well, maybe just have lots of open space and stations and the kid can walk around telling their parents what happens. There can also be a place where teachers can just sit and answer questions or have a conference upon the parent's request.
It's already hard enough to convey to parents necessary info about their kids, as they bring the kid in and often all the other siblings. I think it would be much more work than the actual value, for kdg. That would take so much time and work to produce, that teaching time may be wasted.
Well being a student myself, Student- lead conf. worked out fine. For me to build confidence, in front of peole I trust and would give me constructive critisim.
As for kinders i'd say it's to early and still their attn span is improving they need to focus on that then in about 1 and 2 grade teach them the way to perfect english and speech which should include presentations and socially active roles and group discussions. But don't over-do it too
Good luck and hopefully you understand the point of view of a student.
i dont know
I'm a teacher and I'm just wondering. I've heard about student-led conferences using powerpoint slides but I'm not really sure how to that with kindergartners. Did it work for any of you?What are the benefits of student-led parent conferences?
I can see that it might make students take the value of their work more seriously.
As a parent, however, I hate them. I really want to use the 10 minutes I am allowed with the teacher to find out how my kids are REALLY doing. I find that sometimes you want to talk to the teacher without your child there, especially if they are having soical concerns. I often go to the ';child led'; conference, and then call the school to book another meeting with the teacher or Learning Resource Teacher.What are the benefits of student-led parent conferences?
isnt that where the parents have all control over their childs progress and future choices?
Powerpoint for kindergartners?????
This is the craziest thing I've ever heard of!!!!!
No, it's not going to work, ;but I certainly want some of whatever the person who came up with this idea was smoking.
Don't know of any. Students need to be students, parents are their advocates, and teachers ought to teach. Parents can and should inquire about the progress of their child. Teachers should readily notify the parents of concerns with the student. Students should live, grow and learn.
With kindergardeners? Well, maybe just have lots of open space and stations and the kid can walk around telling their parents what happens. There can also be a place where teachers can just sit and answer questions or have a conference upon the parent's request.
It's already hard enough to convey to parents necessary info about their kids, as they bring the kid in and often all the other siblings. I think it would be much more work than the actual value, for kdg. That would take so much time and work to produce, that teaching time may be wasted.
Well being a student myself, Student- lead conf. worked out fine. For me to build confidence, in front of peole I trust and would give me constructive critisim.
As for kinders i'd say it's to early and still their attn span is improving they need to focus on that then in about 1 and 2 grade teach them the way to perfect english and speech which should include presentations and socially active roles and group discussions. But don't over-do it too
Good luck and hopefully you understand the point of view of a student.
i dont know
How is child support factored if custodial parent doesn't work?
I'm curious because my boyfriend's ex doesn't work, and not because she was laid off. Technically, she's at zero-income (living off a roommate).
So my question is, when the custodial parent doesn't work, is a home-maker for example, do they count as zero-income? I remember reading somewhere that their income is then calculated by what they could earn according to their education, but not sure if this is true.
I live in Iowa, in the US if that helps.How is child support factored if custodial parent doesn't work?
They do that on fathers, but not so often on mothers. It would create little change to the base payment he pays, but it would decrease the percent pays on extras, such as insurance. This will teach him how to deal on child support issues.
You need to know that the child support guidelines are not set in stone. They are just guidelines. You can make a case for not paying so much.
1988 Public Law Record
SEC. 103. STATE GUIDELINES FOR CHILD SUPPORT AWARD AMOUNTS.
(A)(a) GUIDELINES TO CREATE REBUTTABLE PRESUMPTION.-Section 467(b)
of the Social Security Act is amended-
(1) by inserting (1) after (b):
(2) by striking, ';but need not be binding upon such judges or other officials;'; and
(3) by adding at the end the following new paragraph:
(4) ';There shall be a REBUTTABLE presumption, in any judicial or administrative proceeding for the award of child support, that the amount of the award which would result from the application of such guidelines is the correct amount of child support to be awarded. A written finding or specific finding on the record that the application of the guidelines would be unjust or inappropriate in a particular case, as determined under criteria established the State, shall be sufficient to rebut the presumption is that case.';
You need to file a motion to modify your child support. If you are current in your support, you can do this by making an official request for a modification at the child support enforcement office under the provisions of Public Law 12.
If there are arrears, contact the Clerk of the Court and request forms for filing for a modification, Pro Se.
You will need to get a copy of the child support guidelines and worksheet from child support enforcement to determine if you have cause for a reduction. There needs to be at least a 20% difference in his payment.
NEVER pay your child support directly to the mother as it can be considered a gift and not support. Always pay threw the court.
If you want to learn how to do all this go to Dads House in Yahoo Groups. When you join, you鈥檒l receive a link to an educational manual that will teach you what you need to know. Take the time to learn what you can and should do.
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So my question is, when the custodial parent doesn't work, is a home-maker for example, do they count as zero-income? I remember reading somewhere that their income is then calculated by what they could earn according to their education, but not sure if this is true.
I live in Iowa, in the US if that helps.How is child support factored if custodial parent doesn't work?
They do that on fathers, but not so often on mothers. It would create little change to the base payment he pays, but it would decrease the percent pays on extras, such as insurance. This will teach him how to deal on child support issues.
You need to know that the child support guidelines are not set in stone. They are just guidelines. You can make a case for not paying so much.
1988 Public Law Record
SEC. 103. STATE GUIDELINES FOR CHILD SUPPORT AWARD AMOUNTS.
(A)(a) GUIDELINES TO CREATE REBUTTABLE PRESUMPTION.-Section 467(b)
of the Social Security Act is amended-
(1) by inserting (1) after (b):
(2) by striking, ';but need not be binding upon such judges or other officials;'; and
(3) by adding at the end the following new paragraph:
(4) ';There shall be a REBUTTABLE presumption, in any judicial or administrative proceeding for the award of child support, that the amount of the award which would result from the application of such guidelines is the correct amount of child support to be awarded. A written finding or specific finding on the record that the application of the guidelines would be unjust or inappropriate in a particular case, as determined under criteria established the State, shall be sufficient to rebut the presumption is that case.';
You need to file a motion to modify your child support. If you are current in your support, you can do this by making an official request for a modification at the child support enforcement office under the provisions of Public Law 12.
If there are arrears, contact the Clerk of the Court and request forms for filing for a modification, Pro Se.
You will need to get a copy of the child support guidelines and worksheet from child support enforcement to determine if you have cause for a reduction. There needs to be at least a 20% difference in his payment.
NEVER pay your child support directly to the mother as it can be considered a gift and not support. Always pay threw the court.
If you want to learn how to do all this go to Dads House in Yahoo Groups. When you join, you鈥檒l receive a link to an educational manual that will teach you what you need to know. Take the time to learn what you can and should do.
http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/Dad鈥?/a>
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What happens when two parents are separated and the parent with the baby has to go back to work?
does the non resident parent split the cost of nursery costs with the working parent? he also works, so it's not an option for him to look after the baby. He has just left her, and she is 6 months pregnant. She is trying to work out the implications and the costs she will need to take on herself now.What happens when two parents are separated and the parent with the baby has to go back to work?
Gonna have to sit down with him and discuss it like adults. If not possible, see a solicitor/arbitrator/citizens advice dude...What happens when two parents are separated and the parent with the baby has to go back to work?
The non-custodial parent should have to pay child support. When the judge calculates the child support, they include the nursery cost in that amount.
Not usually, the cost will come out of the money the nonresident parent gives to the upkeep of the child.
They should split the cost of childcare. If one of them makes more money then they might need to pay for more of it.preventing blackheads
Gonna have to sit down with him and discuss it like adults. If not possible, see a solicitor/arbitrator/citizens advice dude...What happens when two parents are separated and the parent with the baby has to go back to work?
The non-custodial parent should have to pay child support. When the judge calculates the child support, they include the nursery cost in that amount.
Not usually, the cost will come out of the money the nonresident parent gives to the upkeep of the child.
They should split the cost of childcare. If one of them makes more money then they might need to pay for more of it.
How do i get out of my parents cell phone contract?
I want to get my own contract so i can have texting and internet(we don't have that on r plan cause it's too expensive and my parents aren't going to pay for it). Anyways, is there anyway i can break the contract or do i have to wait until the contracts up. We have a 2 year contract.How do i get out of my parents cell phone contract?
You will have to pay an early temination fee to close down your line. Typically, the fee is $175 or $200 less $5 for each completed month of the contract. Before you even contemplate this, make sure you're eligible for your own contract. You have to be 18 to sign a contract and you have to pass a credit check or pay a security deposit that can run as high as $800.How do i get out of my parents cell phone contract?
it depends on youre service provider. you might be able to change it on the contract, or if youre in the middle of a contract pay an early termination fee (ive heard can be $200 or so). or just wait until youre contracts up.
If you're 18 and can afford it, you buy your own contract. If you're not, you wait.
You will have to pay an early temination fee to close down your line. Typically, the fee is $175 or $200 less $5 for each completed month of the contract. Before you even contemplate this, make sure you're eligible for your own contract. You have to be 18 to sign a contract and you have to pass a credit check or pay a security deposit that can run as high as $800.How do i get out of my parents cell phone contract?
it depends on youre service provider. you might be able to change it on the contract, or if youre in the middle of a contract pay an early termination fee (ive heard can be $200 or so). or just wait until youre contracts up.
If you're 18 and can afford it, you buy your own contract. If you're not, you wait.
What is the illness called when a parent purposely makes a child sick?
My step sister's mother does this. We have been fighting with her for years. My sister is only 6 and can't do a thing. I want to know what this is called. Her mother took a mental test and I want to know what the results mean when they come back.What is the illness called when a parent purposely makes a child sick?
Munchausen syndrome by proxyWhat is the illness called when a parent purposely makes a child sick?
Besides immaturity I don't know what else is going on. But that is a part of it. I've seen this as well and I do grieve for the child who must waste so much of their life's energy overcoming the damage.
I pray they are able to see though the parental scam and keep a hold on their own self worth.
It is called Munchausen by proxy Syndrome
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Munchausen syndrome by proxyWhat is the illness called when a parent purposely makes a child sick?
Besides immaturity I don't know what else is going on. But that is a part of it. I've seen this as well and I do grieve for the child who must waste so much of their life's energy overcoming the damage.
I pray they are able to see though the parental scam and keep a hold on their own self worth.
It is called Munchausen by proxy Syndrome
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How do I persuade my persuade my parents for a horse?
I would help pay for it but I need some advice on how to persuade them.How do I persuade my persuade my parents for a horse?
Okay well I have been in the exact same position as you. I even asked the same question as you on Yahoo answers a few months ago. I made a leaflet with livery ideas, how it would fit into my life, the benefits etc. I then made a spreadsheet of all the costs so my parents knew I had researched it and was serious. I also made a powerpoint presentation with info and pics and a cake for them to eat! I know this isn't the exact answer you are looking for because when people said this to me I didn't like the idea but loaning a pony is definately the way forward. My parents agreed to me loaning a gorge pony who has imporved my riding so much and is like my own. He is better than one I could buy as he has lots of experience and can teach me the ropes so that I am ready for a horse of my own. My parents are realising this and I think will let me have my own when the loan is up. So don't give up on the idea of loaning is it is cost-effective even though you think you can afford it although it will take more time to get your own horse, you will be a better rider and will be able to buy a horse that you will be able to have for years to come. I hope this helps and don't feel dis-heartened - you'll get your horse some day! Good luck!How do I persuade my persuade my parents for a horse?
First of all make sure you have a way to generate an income once you actually have the horse. If you're to young to get a job, or don't think you will be able to get one, ask around at stables you are thinking about boarding at. Often a stable will allow you to clean stalls and help around the barn to help pay your horse's board. This also gives you valuable experience about learning to care for horses.
Secondly, just point out to your parents that if you have a horse you'll be spending a lot of time at the bard; ie a place with almost constant adult supervision. It's hard to get in trouble while you're there, and they'll no where you are at all times. Also, you might also want to give them some information about the health benefits of riding, a little research will show them that you are ready and committed to the work that goes with horses. Both of these were strong factors in convincing my mom to let me buy my two horses.
Have you taken lessons? If you have, have you gone consistently without complaining? If you don't take lessons, ask your parents to let you have lessons. You might find that you aren't ready for the responsibilities of a horse. If you complain or refuse to go, then they will feel that you aren't mature enough for a horse.
If you have been consistent in going to lessons, then take up other responsibilities around the house. If your parents see that you are responsiblr, they might change their mind
well i just got a horse last week :D an amazing little black morgan that i lovee
but what i did was save tonnns of money, and kind of gave my parents hints like constantly saying how much i loved the horse and everything. Then, when they finally said that they would consider it, I made a plan about how much money I would pay each month and how much money it woulc cost for everthing else, to show that I was ready to take it on., and to show my responsibility. GOOD LUCK!!!
Dont get a horse yet because they are very expensive. Try a part time lease because they are only about 200 to 300 dollars. If you think you can commit to a horse then try showing your parents what all you can do then talk to your riding teacher about suggestions on cutting down the price.
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I am in the same postion. But I am getting one in a year. You need to save about 6000-7000 dollars for one year. I dont know about you but, that would take me years to save! You dont want to get a horse if you dont have the money. I reccomend waiting until you make an agreement with your parents! Espeically if the horse gets sick...vet bills are EXPENSIVE!
Good Luck!
DONT BUY UNTIL YOU HAVE MORE THAN ENOUGH MONEY! That is the #1 reason people have to sell there horses because they dont have the time or money to save ones life when it is sick. Please wait until you have more than enough. I may sound mean but I am being serious. This isnt a one day thing. This is a lifetime expense.
Yeah. I know you would help pay for it, but do you have any idea how expensive and time consuming the upkeep of a horse is? Unless you make a whole bucket-load of money, which I highly doubt (as I assume you are a child), you will not be able to contribute significantly to its care.
yah...Like the other person up there said...save money first...and don't just save an amount that's EXACTLY the same price as the horse...you might even need more for like bills...or renting a stall for your horse, treats...etc.
Also, it's going to be a BIG responsibility to even rent a stall and keep your horse there because some stables don't take good care for the horses. High quality stables require ALOT of money.
I've been to this stable once and ALL their horses were starving. You could even see their ribs O.o
Well...think about the savings first before you persuade your parents to buy your horse
I hope this helped ^^
lol i was in the same situation a year ago. saving up money does help, and even getting them to agree to leasing for a little while would be good. what i did is told my parents how having a horse would get me outside, and make me more responsible. then i went online and kept looking at horses for sale in my area and if i found one, i would show it to them and just kept nagging them into it. now i've had my horse for over a year! :D
The way I showed mine, was firstly that I would be committed and responsible. Money wasn't the problem!!! I needed to show them that my love for horses was a permanent thing and not just a thing that I will stop having interest in a couple of months/ year!!!
make a sob story that u dont have any friends and u have a kind of bond with horses and it will teach u responsibility and patience and that summer is comein up and u wont have anything to do all summer long without a horse.
i would tell them all the things that horses can help you with....
for example...
responsibily... because you have to feed it and take care of it...
and....
love... because you have to love your horse...
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Okay well I have been in the exact same position as you. I even asked the same question as you on Yahoo answers a few months ago. I made a leaflet with livery ideas, how it would fit into my life, the benefits etc. I then made a spreadsheet of all the costs so my parents knew I had researched it and was serious. I also made a powerpoint presentation with info and pics and a cake for them to eat! I know this isn't the exact answer you are looking for because when people said this to me I didn't like the idea but loaning a pony is definately the way forward. My parents agreed to me loaning a gorge pony who has imporved my riding so much and is like my own. He is better than one I could buy as he has lots of experience and can teach me the ropes so that I am ready for a horse of my own. My parents are realising this and I think will let me have my own when the loan is up. So don't give up on the idea of loaning is it is cost-effective even though you think you can afford it although it will take more time to get your own horse, you will be a better rider and will be able to buy a horse that you will be able to have for years to come. I hope this helps and don't feel dis-heartened - you'll get your horse some day! Good luck!How do I persuade my persuade my parents for a horse?
First of all make sure you have a way to generate an income once you actually have the horse. If you're to young to get a job, or don't think you will be able to get one, ask around at stables you are thinking about boarding at. Often a stable will allow you to clean stalls and help around the barn to help pay your horse's board. This also gives you valuable experience about learning to care for horses.
Secondly, just point out to your parents that if you have a horse you'll be spending a lot of time at the bard; ie a place with almost constant adult supervision. It's hard to get in trouble while you're there, and they'll no where you are at all times. Also, you might also want to give them some information about the health benefits of riding, a little research will show them that you are ready and committed to the work that goes with horses. Both of these were strong factors in convincing my mom to let me buy my two horses.
Have you taken lessons? If you have, have you gone consistently without complaining? If you don't take lessons, ask your parents to let you have lessons. You might find that you aren't ready for the responsibilities of a horse. If you complain or refuse to go, then they will feel that you aren't mature enough for a horse.
If you have been consistent in going to lessons, then take up other responsibilities around the house. If your parents see that you are responsiblr, they might change their mind
well i just got a horse last week :D an amazing little black morgan that i lovee
but what i did was save tonnns of money, and kind of gave my parents hints like constantly saying how much i loved the horse and everything. Then, when they finally said that they would consider it, I made a plan about how much money I would pay each month and how much money it woulc cost for everthing else, to show that I was ready to take it on., and to show my responsibility. GOOD LUCK!!!
Dont get a horse yet because they are very expensive. Try a part time lease because they are only about 200 to 300 dollars. If you think you can commit to a horse then try showing your parents what all you can do then talk to your riding teacher about suggestions on cutting down the price.
PLEASE READ EVEN THOUGH IT IS LONG!
I am in the same postion. But I am getting one in a year. You need to save about 6000-7000 dollars for one year. I dont know about you but, that would take me years to save! You dont want to get a horse if you dont have the money. I reccomend waiting until you make an agreement with your parents! Espeically if the horse gets sick...vet bills are EXPENSIVE!
Good Luck!
DONT BUY UNTIL YOU HAVE MORE THAN ENOUGH MONEY! That is the #1 reason people have to sell there horses because they dont have the time or money to save ones life when it is sick. Please wait until you have more than enough. I may sound mean but I am being serious. This isnt a one day thing. This is a lifetime expense.
Yeah. I know you would help pay for it, but do you have any idea how expensive and time consuming the upkeep of a horse is? Unless you make a whole bucket-load of money, which I highly doubt (as I assume you are a child), you will not be able to contribute significantly to its care.
yah...Like the other person up there said...save money first...and don't just save an amount that's EXACTLY the same price as the horse...you might even need more for like bills...or renting a stall for your horse, treats...etc.
Also, it's going to be a BIG responsibility to even rent a stall and keep your horse there because some stables don't take good care for the horses. High quality stables require ALOT of money.
I've been to this stable once and ALL their horses were starving. You could even see their ribs O.o
Well...think about the savings first before you persuade your parents to buy your horse
I hope this helped ^^
lol i was in the same situation a year ago. saving up money does help, and even getting them to agree to leasing for a little while would be good. what i did is told my parents how having a horse would get me outside, and make me more responsible. then i went online and kept looking at horses for sale in my area and if i found one, i would show it to them and just kept nagging them into it. now i've had my horse for over a year! :D
The way I showed mine, was firstly that I would be committed and responsible. Money wasn't the problem!!! I needed to show them that my love for horses was a permanent thing and not just a thing that I will stop having interest in a couple of months/ year!!!
make a sob story that u dont have any friends and u have a kind of bond with horses and it will teach u responsibility and patience and that summer is comein up and u wont have anything to do all summer long without a horse.
i would tell them all the things that horses can help you with....
for example...
responsibily... because you have to feed it and take care of it...
and....
love... because you have to love your horse...
Blackmail
How accurate are DNA tests, when one parent is deceased and the DNA is done on the grandparents?
My daughter was pregnant when her boyfriend of 10 yrs died in a river rafting accident in June 3 yrs ago. Neither one of them knew of the pregnancy at the time. She gave birth to a beautiful baby boy only one day after her deceased boyfriend's birthday in September. A DNA test was done of the paternal grandparents, but was inconclusive. (paternal grandfather may not be the biological parent of the deceased). Should another DNA test be done on grandmother and other siblings?How accurate are DNA tests, when one parent is deceased and the DNA is done on the grandparents?
Yes. they need to do another DNA on Grandmother and if he had any Brothers and Sisters also. In that way they can identify some of DNA cell and molecules that are in the same line of parenting relative. To explain easy for you to understand In the DNA of the baby father, brother or sister they will find some, molecule, and chromosomes and cell that will be identical at the ones for the baby. In that case they can identified that the baby is related to there brother and be the baby father. This is a very expensive test. Find a very Good Reputable Forensic Medicine lab to have this test done. But it can be done.
I Hope you get to do this soon and prove that the baby. Find baby picture of your boyfriend and compare with your baby鈥檚 picture in that way you will see the resemblance in the family lineage. Good luck to you. I tell you this because of my personal experience with my father. When his father died .The family was denying that daddy was there son. But when they start looking at the family tree and pictures of my grandfather. It came out to light some picture of grandfather when he was young and it was the spitting image of my father they could it be twins. After that there were no more questions about it.
Yes. they need to do another DNA on Grandmother and if he had any Brothers and Sisters also. In that way they can identify some of DNA cell and molecules that are in the same line of parenting relative. To explain easy for you to understand In the DNA of the baby father, brother or sister they will find some, molecule, and chromosomes and cell that will be identical at the ones for the baby. In that case they can identified that the baby is related to there brother and be the baby father. This is a very expensive test. Find a very Good Reputable Forensic Medicine lab to have this test done. But it can be done.
I Hope you get to do this soon and prove that the baby. Find baby picture of your boyfriend and compare with your baby鈥檚 picture in that way you will see the resemblance in the family lineage. Good luck to you. I tell you this because of my personal experience with my father. When his father died .The family was denying that daddy was there son. But when they start looking at the family tree and pictures of my grandfather. It came out to light some picture of grandfather when he was young and it was the spitting image of my father they could it be twins. After that there were no more questions about it.
What is the best advice for a parent with new born before flu season?
I have a new born (4 months) at home and a kid starting her kindergarten this year. Obviously we are concerned about the H1N1 news out there and how bad it is going to get come fall (In USA).
Given this situation what is the best advice i can get to protect my child specially the new born as he is too young and his sister could potentially carry, god knows what, from her school.
Appreciate your inputs and help.What is the best advice for a parent with new born before flu season?
The biggest source of disease spreading is children your daughter's age. For example, the flu most commonly infects children her age, but most commonly kills newborns or the elderly, not children her age. But it is for that reason that flu shots for children your daughter's age are pushed so heavily, to protect newborns and the elderly.
Teach your daughter strict hand hygeine. If she gets sick, try to make sure she uses a separate bathroom and stays away from the baby. Be conscious of any public place where lots of people touch - doorknobs, light switches, shopping cart handles, even those plastic pens you sign credit cards with now. Anything that lots of people tough, try to use some hand sanitizer (which does have some efficacy against viruses) afterwards. Since your son if 4 months old, you should get him the flu shot when he is 6 months old. Also get your daughter and you and your husband the shot as soon as the vaccine is available (late Sept).
As far as the Swine flu, don't worry too much about it as it is relatively mild. It is mutating to potentially more dangerous strains, but those likely won't turn into another pandemic by this winter.What is the best advice for a parent with new born before flu season?
Wash everyone's hand's often. Disinfect used items like phones, door handles, tv remotes, backpacks, pencil boxes. Teach the school aged child about things like not sharing drinks or food, how to cover her mouth in her elbow when she sneezes or coughs(hopefully this is being taught at school already). Wipe down grocery carts before sitting your child in them, wipe down fast food restaurant tables before letting the child eat off them.
When taking the baby out, just pull the sun shade down and cover the rest of the open space with a light weight blanket to avoid those pesky people who want to touch and get right up in your baby's face.
I'm sure I'm going to get TD for this advice, but this is what I practice and my children are rarely sick.
Congrats on the little one!
Given this situation what is the best advice i can get to protect my child specially the new born as he is too young and his sister could potentially carry, god knows what, from her school.
Appreciate your inputs and help.What is the best advice for a parent with new born before flu season?
The biggest source of disease spreading is children your daughter's age. For example, the flu most commonly infects children her age, but most commonly kills newborns or the elderly, not children her age. But it is for that reason that flu shots for children your daughter's age are pushed so heavily, to protect newborns and the elderly.
Teach your daughter strict hand hygeine. If she gets sick, try to make sure she uses a separate bathroom and stays away from the baby. Be conscious of any public place where lots of people touch - doorknobs, light switches, shopping cart handles, even those plastic pens you sign credit cards with now. Anything that lots of people tough, try to use some hand sanitizer (which does have some efficacy against viruses) afterwards. Since your son if 4 months old, you should get him the flu shot when he is 6 months old. Also get your daughter and you and your husband the shot as soon as the vaccine is available (late Sept).
As far as the Swine flu, don't worry too much about it as it is relatively mild. It is mutating to potentially more dangerous strains, but those likely won't turn into another pandemic by this winter.What is the best advice for a parent with new born before flu season?
Wash everyone's hand's often. Disinfect used items like phones, door handles, tv remotes, backpacks, pencil boxes. Teach the school aged child about things like not sharing drinks or food, how to cover her mouth in her elbow when she sneezes or coughs(hopefully this is being taught at school already). Wipe down grocery carts before sitting your child in them, wipe down fast food restaurant tables before letting the child eat off them.
When taking the baby out, just pull the sun shade down and cover the rest of the open space with a light weight blanket to avoid those pesky people who want to touch and get right up in your baby's face.
I'm sure I'm going to get TD for this advice, but this is what I practice and my children are rarely sick.
Congrats on the little one!
How to manage childminding as a single parent in Toronto?
I am a single mother, German, planning on relocating to Toronto. What do you do with a seven year old during your working hours. Is a single mother ';normal'; for canadian standards or are there (religious) predjudices?How to manage childminding as a single parent in Toronto?
I am not German or canadian but I think the answer would be the same the world over. Some schools have a child care center for after school children to be cared for until their parent arrives. Some day care centers go and pick up the child from school and keep them until a parent comes to get them.
I would check with the school first and see if they have a child care program. If not, find a child care center that will go to the child's school and pick them up. How to manage childminding as a single parent in Toronto?
I'm Canadian, and live fairly close to Toronto. There's plenty of single moms here, it's totally normal for canadian standards. I'm a single mom of 2, I'm also a Christian, and I've never felt judged by anyone at my church.
A 7 year old will be in school full-day, which is 6.5 hours plus however long the bus ride is. If you require care beyond that there's many options such as a home-daycare, school-age daycare centre, teenage babysitter, after-school programs run out of the school or community centres, Boys %26amp; Girls Clubs. You may also qualify for daycare subsidy, which is a government program that will cover most of your daycare costs. Good Luckpreventing blackheads
I am not German or canadian but I think the answer would be the same the world over. Some schools have a child care center for after school children to be cared for until their parent arrives. Some day care centers go and pick up the child from school and keep them until a parent comes to get them.
I would check with the school first and see if they have a child care program. If not, find a child care center that will go to the child's school and pick them up. How to manage childminding as a single parent in Toronto?
I'm Canadian, and live fairly close to Toronto. There's plenty of single moms here, it's totally normal for canadian standards. I'm a single mom of 2, I'm also a Christian, and I've never felt judged by anyone at my church.
A 7 year old will be in school full-day, which is 6.5 hours plus however long the bus ride is. If you require care beyond that there's many options such as a home-daycare, school-age daycare centre, teenage babysitter, after-school programs run out of the school or community centres, Boys %26amp; Girls Clubs. You may also qualify for daycare subsidy, which is a government program that will cover most of your daycare costs. Good Luck
How do I help my 2 year old adjust from a 2 parent home to a single parent home?
My kids father and I recently seperated and it hasn't been a smooth transition. Does anyone have any tips to help my baby through this? The father still sees the child everyday cause he babysits while I'm at work.How do I help my 2 year old adjust from a 2 parent home to a single parent home?
If your child's schedule doesn't change, and if you can keep yourself and your husband relaxed and normal around the child, the transition shouldn't be too difficult for the child. We adults are the ones who make it tough because we are stressed out by what the kids may be going through. Just keep things in the child's life as normal as possible, that'll help the most.How do I help my 2 year old adjust from a 2 parent home to a single parent home?
Come on! The child won't even notice - it's 2yo not a 6 or 7yo.He will forget in a few days.
My parents divorced when I was very young, and I can tell you children have this knack for blaming themselves. You can never go wrong by making quality time, especially if both parents can be involved, though I know this isn't always the best thing. Alot of love, extra attention and just being normal. My parents told me exactly why they split up, and all it did was confuse me more. I know honesty is good, but to a certain extent, I don't think children need to know everything, I know I wish I hadn't. There are alot of really good support groups to, even for you child, where they can play with other children going through the same thing. Good luck and I hope everything works out for the best for you and yours!
Yeah, reconcile with the father so the kid will have a stable home.
tell dad that U want 2 keep the story the same. tell the baby that mommy %26amp; daddy are going 2 have 2 houses %26amp; live in different places. remind her that she gets 2 see both of U %26amp; that it is ok that U r a family apart. that sometimes people need 2 live this way. that U %26amp; daddy are not happy living 2gether, but that U r happy living apart. they will want U both 2 be happy. so this is the best way 2 put it 4 now. when they get older it can be expanded upon. they r pretty smart %26amp; will ask if U will ever be a family 2gether again. this is when U say U do not know or maybe or no probably not. if either of U move on in Ur personal life, U will need 2 explain that now mommy or daddy has found some1 that they want 2 share with %26amp; that there is now more people that love them %26amp; that is great. if U r ok with it they will be ok with it. it will only be as difficult as U make it. learn 2 let go %26amp; share, there is always enough love. good luck, been there, did it, my daughter is now 13 %26amp; well adjusted. her father %26amp; I divorced when she was 3.
If your child's schedule doesn't change, and if you can keep yourself and your husband relaxed and normal around the child, the transition shouldn't be too difficult for the child. We adults are the ones who make it tough because we are stressed out by what the kids may be going through. Just keep things in the child's life as normal as possible, that'll help the most.How do I help my 2 year old adjust from a 2 parent home to a single parent home?
Come on! The child won't even notice - it's 2yo not a 6 or 7yo.He will forget in a few days.
My parents divorced when I was very young, and I can tell you children have this knack for blaming themselves. You can never go wrong by making quality time, especially if both parents can be involved, though I know this isn't always the best thing. Alot of love, extra attention and just being normal. My parents told me exactly why they split up, and all it did was confuse me more. I know honesty is good, but to a certain extent, I don't think children need to know everything, I know I wish I hadn't. There are alot of really good support groups to, even for you child, where they can play with other children going through the same thing. Good luck and I hope everything works out for the best for you and yours!
Yeah, reconcile with the father so the kid will have a stable home.
tell dad that U want 2 keep the story the same. tell the baby that mommy %26amp; daddy are going 2 have 2 houses %26amp; live in different places. remind her that she gets 2 see both of U %26amp; that it is ok that U r a family apart. that sometimes people need 2 live this way. that U %26amp; daddy are not happy living 2gether, but that U r happy living apart. they will want U both 2 be happy. so this is the best way 2 put it 4 now. when they get older it can be expanded upon. they r pretty smart %26amp; will ask if U will ever be a family 2gether again. this is when U say U do not know or maybe or no probably not. if either of U move on in Ur personal life, U will need 2 explain that now mommy or daddy has found some1 that they want 2 share with %26amp; that there is now more people that love them %26amp; that is great. if U r ok with it they will be ok with it. it will only be as difficult as U make it. learn 2 let go %26amp; share, there is always enough love. good luck, been there, did it, my daughter is now 13 %26amp; well adjusted. her father %26amp; I divorced when she was 3.
How common is it that non-custodial parents think of child support as child care?
It seems unrealistic to expect to know everything in your child's life when you live 2000 miles away. I would expect a childcare provider to give an accounting of my child's activities but I never ask my ex-husband to do so during our son's visitation with him. Any one else have similar issues with a co-parent who's just a plain jerk?How common is it that non-custodial parents think of child support as child care?
I think I need more detail to answer. If my co-parent harped on me constantly to know the innate details of my child's life, I would quickly become frustrated and resentful. I would expect to be trusted to care for my child's daily needs, and only need to share moderate to major news.
However, in my personal situation, my ';co-parent'; is not at all interested in what's going in our child's life. Even when she (or I) call to tell him news, he is disinterested, and certainly never requests information. I would, of course, prefer to think he gives a sh*t what happens in her life.
I suppose the ideal is a happy medium, where the NCP trusts you to handle the task of being the PCP, but wants to keep informed in on all the big stuff.How common is it that non-custodial parents think of child support as child care?
I don't really understand the question. The first part child support is suppose to go to care for the child, not to buy the custodial parent new clothes and a new car (yes you need transportation but if you have a nice car that runs you don't need to buy a new suv)
The second part its not unreasonable to want to know what your kids are doing for either parent, but a play by play would be unreasonable.
I guess I didn't answer your question b/c I don't really know what the question was. Sorry.
I don't co-parent. I have full custody and do not let her take the kids any more. My ex-wife is not trustworthy to have the kids.
It seems that you are the one who is being unreasonable. Why do you need a daily accounting of your child's activities when with the other parent? Are you THAT needy and controlling? If so, perhaps work on resolving those issues before they become stifling to both you and your child. Give both dad and kid a break - let them enjoy each other.
I think I need more detail to answer. If my co-parent harped on me constantly to know the innate details of my child's life, I would quickly become frustrated and resentful. I would expect to be trusted to care for my child's daily needs, and only need to share moderate to major news.
However, in my personal situation, my ';co-parent'; is not at all interested in what's going in our child's life. Even when she (or I) call to tell him news, he is disinterested, and certainly never requests information. I would, of course, prefer to think he gives a sh*t what happens in her life.
I suppose the ideal is a happy medium, where the NCP trusts you to handle the task of being the PCP, but wants to keep informed in on all the big stuff.How common is it that non-custodial parents think of child support as child care?
I don't really understand the question. The first part child support is suppose to go to care for the child, not to buy the custodial parent new clothes and a new car (yes you need transportation but if you have a nice car that runs you don't need to buy a new suv)
The second part its not unreasonable to want to know what your kids are doing for either parent, but a play by play would be unreasonable.
I guess I didn't answer your question b/c I don't really know what the question was. Sorry.
I don't co-parent. I have full custody and do not let her take the kids any more. My ex-wife is not trustworthy to have the kids.
It seems that you are the one who is being unreasonable. Why do you need a daily accounting of your child's activities when with the other parent? Are you THAT needy and controlling? If so, perhaps work on resolving those issues before they become stifling to both you and your child. Give both dad and kid a break - let them enjoy each other.
What can 4 siblings do when the parents have willed the bulk of their property to one child?
My parents are in their mid-eighties and my mother is very partial to my sister. I don't think the rest of us are supposed to know about this, but (long story) I found out.What can 4 siblings do when the parents have willed the bulk of their property to one child?
is the sister who stands to inherit the care provider? if so then this is fair and consider it her just rewards for putting her life on hold to care for the parents in their old age. I take care of my parents my siblings can not be bothered. I will not inherit anything but maybe their debt but my siblings think I am favorite and sometimes can be quite hurt full and petty. The thing is, they are not here for the lovely things that go along with helping the parents, like the accidents when they can not get to the bathroom on time or the confusion and the embarrassment they go through when things do not go right. My siblings rarely even answer the phone when I call and God forbid I need a break or would want a couple of hours to myself. Maybe you might want to consider building a better relationship with the parents, be there for them, even when they do not remember you and love them even if they wet themselves. If she is the caregiver, she has sacrificed a great deal already. I suspect your sister is the primary caregiver and has been there for your parents while everyone else was out living their lives. I could be wrong of course... BUt if your parents are in the 80's and they are partial to her there is likely a reason. find out what it is and there is the answer.What can 4 siblings do when the parents have willed the bulk of their property to one child?
Either you get over it or when the will comes into effect, get a lawyer to fight the case. You will probably have to show in court that you have contributed to caring for your parents and perhaps you will get a favourable ruling. However, things will get pretty ugly if you sister decides to fight you to the bitter end.
my advice would be just to get oevr it. i hate seeing families ruining their relationships and not enjoying the last years of their paren'ts lives by worrying over who is goign to get what. does it really matter??? absolutely not. you just continue to work hard and save and be responsible financially yourself. of course, it's a slap in the face if a parent intentionally chooses one sibling over another. but there is nothing you can do about it. and arguing and being angry will just destroy relationships and make you even poorer by taking away your greatest riches- family. nothing and I mean NOTHING is worth losing family over. amd arguing about a will and inheritance of temporary things is silly and immature! the money would be nice to have but it's just money and will run out one day. it can never replace what you lose through anger.
If your parents are in their 80's then you are a little old to stomp and cry that she got more than you.
Confront them. Ask if there's a reason. Other than that, you cant do anything. Other than let it bother you for the rest of your life.
Contest the will, get a good laywer.
Earn much more than that urself... Make ur life even better than their's and take care of them.. Only then they wud realize their mistake.. (if any) :)
l
If that's their decion u can't do anything about it just work and earn ur own properties..life is not always fair..
is the sister who stands to inherit the care provider? if so then this is fair and consider it her just rewards for putting her life on hold to care for the parents in their old age. I take care of my parents my siblings can not be bothered. I will not inherit anything but maybe their debt but my siblings think I am favorite and sometimes can be quite hurt full and petty. The thing is, they are not here for the lovely things that go along with helping the parents, like the accidents when they can not get to the bathroom on time or the confusion and the embarrassment they go through when things do not go right. My siblings rarely even answer the phone when I call and God forbid I need a break or would want a couple of hours to myself. Maybe you might want to consider building a better relationship with the parents, be there for them, even when they do not remember you and love them even if they wet themselves. If she is the caregiver, she has sacrificed a great deal already. I suspect your sister is the primary caregiver and has been there for your parents while everyone else was out living their lives. I could be wrong of course... BUt if your parents are in the 80's and they are partial to her there is likely a reason. find out what it is and there is the answer.What can 4 siblings do when the parents have willed the bulk of their property to one child?
Either you get over it or when the will comes into effect, get a lawyer to fight the case. You will probably have to show in court that you have contributed to caring for your parents and perhaps you will get a favourable ruling. However, things will get pretty ugly if you sister decides to fight you to the bitter end.
my advice would be just to get oevr it. i hate seeing families ruining their relationships and not enjoying the last years of their paren'ts lives by worrying over who is goign to get what. does it really matter??? absolutely not. you just continue to work hard and save and be responsible financially yourself. of course, it's a slap in the face if a parent intentionally chooses one sibling over another. but there is nothing you can do about it. and arguing and being angry will just destroy relationships and make you even poorer by taking away your greatest riches- family. nothing and I mean NOTHING is worth losing family over. amd arguing about a will and inheritance of temporary things is silly and immature! the money would be nice to have but it's just money and will run out one day. it can never replace what you lose through anger.
If your parents are in their 80's then you are a little old to stomp and cry that she got more than you.
Confront them. Ask if there's a reason. Other than that, you cant do anything. Other than let it bother you for the rest of your life.
Contest the will, get a good laywer.
Earn much more than that urself... Make ur life even better than their's and take care of them.. Only then they wud realize their mistake.. (if any) :)
l
If that's their decion u can't do anything about it just work and earn ur own properties..life is not always fair..
How to drink energy drinks behind my parents back?
I had a monster a couple times but i got in trouble for drinking it. It is like a drug for me! I need it! Im craving it! My parents wont let me have them so how can i buy them and drink them behind my parents back?How to drink energy drinks behind my parents back?
There isn't an age limit to buy it like cigarettes and alcohol so go to the store and buy it yourself and if you don't want to get caught by your parent's drink it at school and have your friends buy it...personally I wouldn't recommend hiding this from your parent's. Why not talk to them and see if they would let you have like one a day?How to drink energy drinks behind my parents back?
Energy Drinks aren't good for you at all.Sure they may tast good,but it increase blood pressure and Heart Rate
Over 30 percent of teenagers, and 34 percent of 18- to 24-year-olds, consume energy drinks on a regular basis, according to a report by the Marin Institute. These drinks are heavily marketed to teens as a harmless way to boost energy, but in reality they've been linked to serious health effects.
Still, in 2006 alone, energy drinks brought in more than $3.2 billion in sales, and up to 500 new energy drink products were introduced worldwide. And sales continue to grow, despite the largely unpublicized risks.
The obvious danger stems from the high levels of caffeine (some energy drinks contain up to 300 mg of caffeine, compared with 80 mg for a typical cup of coffee), which can lead to:
Increased anxiety and panic attacks
Increased blood pressure
Bowel irritability
Insomnia
Increased gastric acid
Meanwhile, ingesting 500 mg or more of caffeine (the amount easily ingested in four to eight servings of typical energy drinks) can lead to caffeine intoxication that can cause:
Vomiting
Sweating
Palpitations
Chest mains
Neurological symptoms
Diarrhea
Insomnia
However, there are even more concerning risks surrounding these drinks that parents and teens need to be aware of.
as much as i love energy drinks myself i realize they are very bad for me..
there is a reason your rents wont let you drink them.
the glucose(sugar) in them causes your body to stop burning fat because it now has glucose to burn. this could potentially make you fat....
if a caffiene buzz is what you are looking for you may want to purchase some caffeine pills from a gas station they are like 2 to 4 dollars... they will satisfy you because you are addicted to the caffiene which IS a drug.
though you seem young so i would not take a whole one at first to assess your tolerance.
Getting addicting to caffiene at a young age is not healthy at all and could lead to your body becoming very worn out very young. natural energy gained from carbs and fruit and things is much better for you and tends to last longer..
and those healthy things also boost your metabolism causing you to lose weight if you are fat...
Energy drinks can be really harmful in excess and maybe with your apparent addiction its best that you cut back. I'd switch to coffee or even a good cup of tea can help you get your caffine fix until you can buy your own energy drinks. if your parents are still governing your life like that, your probably too young to be consuming that much caffine. you'll stunt your growth!
you and a buddy (or just you) shud just walk or skate or something to a nearby gas station or grocery store and buy one and drink it on the way home....it will be gone by the time your parents see you :D OR
have a friend buy some, whose parents will let them, and go to THEIR house to drink them. your parents wont know.
good luck :D
It been proved that its not good for kids and the elderly, if you live under your parents roof then you must be a kid, so don't drink it...Go buy some juice or something I recommend pomegranate juice the good stuff not that junk with the added sugar ';HFCS';
I know you don't like my answer but i'm just being honest with you.
Well going to a gas station and buying one without them knowing shouldn't be that difficult. I would however advise against it. Not only would you be going against your parents rules but, also that stuff is not good for you. One of 12 year old daughters was getting it at a friend's house. She would crash really bad a few hours later and after we told her no more - she was craving it. But, she got over the cravings pretty quickly.
Did you ever stop to think that they dont want you to drink it bc you are a MONSTER yourself?
Do you know the meaning of social responsibility?
It means to take consideration of your own actions for the sake of people in your surroundings...
In your language it means: No brat.. You're too hyper on them and your parents hate it!
hahaha well energy drinks are terrible for you anyways and not to mention full of calories so if I were you I'd try to kick the habit. Or if it's just the energy you want maybe your parents would let you have coffee or at least a coke or something
Go to the store.... open the fridge thing and go to the counter.
Take out your wallet (or money clip... but neither are needed) and the nice person (or an idiot if its Pathmark or sweet bay) will say $2.79 please
You then take some money out of whatevers holding it... hand it to the person and say thanks, have a nice day.
And open the cap and drink it..... Not that difficult.
When you're out, walking around, hanging out with friends or w/e, just buy one and drink it and dispose of the can before you go home. If you're with your parents, get one and pour it into a cup that you can carry around with you. Say it's ginger ale.
Obviously, don't drink it. That's where addiction starts, and that's bad, and will cost you more than money. Chew gum or something. Plus, monsters are disgusting, I've never had one but they smell like medicine.
need is a strong word.
may i suggest not drinking them??
maybe you should listen to your parents.
take a sec to read your paragraph and see how desparate you are for just some drink!!!
come on boy!!!
not trying to be rude..just OPEN YOUR EYES and close ur mouth
It's not nice. But go to the store with your friends, and buy some and drink them before you get back and just throw the can away. Make sure your breath don't smell like them though, that's how I got caught. It wasn't pretty ..
Buy it at the store. pay for it. drink it right outside the store. throw the can away.
Or
stop drinking it because it is bad for you.
Go to the store and bring a small bag with you, buy the energy drink(s), put them in the bag and then hide them right when you get home.
give a friend the money and tell them to buy it for you and have him give it to you in school a drink in during lunch time
It ain't nothing man! You too one day could be like Tyrone!!! Watch this documentry of none other than me. It's Tyrone Baby!!! : http://www.videovat.com/videos/1480/dave-chappelle-red-balls.aspx
my mom is like that but i get my dad to buy mine. but if you can go to a store after school buy one and put it in your backpack so they won't see it.
Haha, well, you can tell your parents your hanging out with friends, and hang out with friends, and buy a monster and drink it? haha :)
Go to the store, buy it, and drink it before you get home... hope it doenst make you hyper cuz your parents will so know... or just resist the urge....
You shouldn't drink monster. It's bad and you're addicted, so you should stop while you can.
if you can buy them without them knowing just put it in a soda bottle like a mountain dew and they wont be able to tell the difference
Duh, sneak out and then drink out.
Just go to your friend's house or after school.
Ta da.
i really lol'd
tell them its not illegal and you can drink whatever the hell you want.
go to the store and buy them and drink them b4 you come home make sure u go home AFTER youve goten hyper :L
LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL.
Listen to your parents or just get small energy drink cans
How about you abide by their rules instead?
Those things are not at all healthy.
maybe its a good thing they wont let you drink it, those things are nasty, and you sound slightly obsesed lol
Your parents want whats best for you so simple answer dont drink it!
There isn't an age limit to buy it like cigarettes and alcohol so go to the store and buy it yourself and if you don't want to get caught by your parent's drink it at school and have your friends buy it...personally I wouldn't recommend hiding this from your parent's. Why not talk to them and see if they would let you have like one a day?How to drink energy drinks behind my parents back?
Energy Drinks aren't good for you at all.Sure they may tast good,but it increase blood pressure and Heart Rate
Over 30 percent of teenagers, and 34 percent of 18- to 24-year-olds, consume energy drinks on a regular basis, according to a report by the Marin Institute. These drinks are heavily marketed to teens as a harmless way to boost energy, but in reality they've been linked to serious health effects.
Still, in 2006 alone, energy drinks brought in more than $3.2 billion in sales, and up to 500 new energy drink products were introduced worldwide. And sales continue to grow, despite the largely unpublicized risks.
The obvious danger stems from the high levels of caffeine (some energy drinks contain up to 300 mg of caffeine, compared with 80 mg for a typical cup of coffee), which can lead to:
Increased anxiety and panic attacks
Increased blood pressure
Bowel irritability
Insomnia
Increased gastric acid
Meanwhile, ingesting 500 mg or more of caffeine (the amount easily ingested in four to eight servings of typical energy drinks) can lead to caffeine intoxication that can cause:
Vomiting
Sweating
Palpitations
Chest mains
Neurological symptoms
Diarrhea
Insomnia
However, there are even more concerning risks surrounding these drinks that parents and teens need to be aware of.
as much as i love energy drinks myself i realize they are very bad for me..
there is a reason your rents wont let you drink them.
the glucose(sugar) in them causes your body to stop burning fat because it now has glucose to burn. this could potentially make you fat....
if a caffiene buzz is what you are looking for you may want to purchase some caffeine pills from a gas station they are like 2 to 4 dollars... they will satisfy you because you are addicted to the caffiene which IS a drug.
though you seem young so i would not take a whole one at first to assess your tolerance.
Getting addicting to caffiene at a young age is not healthy at all and could lead to your body becoming very worn out very young. natural energy gained from carbs and fruit and things is much better for you and tends to last longer..
and those healthy things also boost your metabolism causing you to lose weight if you are fat...
Energy drinks can be really harmful in excess and maybe with your apparent addiction its best that you cut back. I'd switch to coffee or even a good cup of tea can help you get your caffine fix until you can buy your own energy drinks. if your parents are still governing your life like that, your probably too young to be consuming that much caffine. you'll stunt your growth!
you and a buddy (or just you) shud just walk or skate or something to a nearby gas station or grocery store and buy one and drink it on the way home....it will be gone by the time your parents see you :D OR
have a friend buy some, whose parents will let them, and go to THEIR house to drink them. your parents wont know.
good luck :D
It been proved that its not good for kids and the elderly, if you live under your parents roof then you must be a kid, so don't drink it...Go buy some juice or something I recommend pomegranate juice the good stuff not that junk with the added sugar ';HFCS';
I know you don't like my answer but i'm just being honest with you.
Well going to a gas station and buying one without them knowing shouldn't be that difficult. I would however advise against it. Not only would you be going against your parents rules but, also that stuff is not good for you. One of 12 year old daughters was getting it at a friend's house. She would crash really bad a few hours later and after we told her no more - she was craving it. But, she got over the cravings pretty quickly.
Did you ever stop to think that they dont want you to drink it bc you are a MONSTER yourself?
Do you know the meaning of social responsibility?
It means to take consideration of your own actions for the sake of people in your surroundings...
In your language it means: No brat.. You're too hyper on them and your parents hate it!
hahaha well energy drinks are terrible for you anyways and not to mention full of calories so if I were you I'd try to kick the habit. Or if it's just the energy you want maybe your parents would let you have coffee or at least a coke or something
Go to the store.... open the fridge thing and go to the counter.
Take out your wallet (or money clip... but neither are needed) and the nice person (or an idiot if its Pathmark or sweet bay) will say $2.79 please
You then take some money out of whatevers holding it... hand it to the person and say thanks, have a nice day.
And open the cap and drink it..... Not that difficult.
When you're out, walking around, hanging out with friends or w/e, just buy one and drink it and dispose of the can before you go home. If you're with your parents, get one and pour it into a cup that you can carry around with you. Say it's ginger ale.
Obviously, don't drink it. That's where addiction starts, and that's bad, and will cost you more than money. Chew gum or something. Plus, monsters are disgusting, I've never had one but they smell like medicine.
need is a strong word.
may i suggest not drinking them??
maybe you should listen to your parents.
take a sec to read your paragraph and see how desparate you are for just some drink!!!
come on boy!!!
not trying to be rude..just OPEN YOUR EYES and close ur mouth
It's not nice. But go to the store with your friends, and buy some and drink them before you get back and just throw the can away. Make sure your breath don't smell like them though, that's how I got caught. It wasn't pretty ..
Buy it at the store. pay for it. drink it right outside the store. throw the can away.
Or
stop drinking it because it is bad for you.
Go to the store and bring a small bag with you, buy the energy drink(s), put them in the bag and then hide them right when you get home.
give a friend the money and tell them to buy it for you and have him give it to you in school a drink in during lunch time
It ain't nothing man! You too one day could be like Tyrone!!! Watch this documentry of none other than me. It's Tyrone Baby!!! : http://www.videovat.com/videos/1480/dave-chappelle-red-balls.aspx
my mom is like that but i get my dad to buy mine. but if you can go to a store after school buy one and put it in your backpack so they won't see it.
Haha, well, you can tell your parents your hanging out with friends, and hang out with friends, and buy a monster and drink it? haha :)
Go to the store, buy it, and drink it before you get home... hope it doenst make you hyper cuz your parents will so know... or just resist the urge....
You shouldn't drink monster. It's bad and you're addicted, so you should stop while you can.
if you can buy them without them knowing just put it in a soda bottle like a mountain dew and they wont be able to tell the difference
Duh, sneak out and then drink out.
Just go to your friend's house or after school.
Ta da.
i really lol'd
tell them its not illegal and you can drink whatever the hell you want.
go to the store and buy them and drink them b4 you come home make sure u go home AFTER youve goten hyper :L
LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL.
Listen to your parents or just get small energy drink cans
How about you abide by their rules instead?
Those things are not at all healthy.
maybe its a good thing they wont let you drink it, those things are nasty, and you sound slightly obsesed lol
Your parents want whats best for you so simple answer dont drink it!
What should the children do for their parents 45th wedding anniversary? Is it appropriate to host a party?
We didn't celebrate the 40th, and the 45th is coming up this year. Should we invite their friends to a party or dinner, or just keep it in the family. Or should we do nothing because its not one of the ';decade'; years?What should the children do for their parents 45th wedding anniversary? Is it appropriate to host a party?
I am always for a party. So what if it isn't the decade years. Enjoy life. I would look at the budget. Decide if you want a small family gathering or a larger party with friends included. Some people rent a banquet room at a restuarant and have the dinner and party there for an intimate family gathering. For a larger party, you may could rent a party room or hall, a banquet room at your church. Decorate it however you wish. I have seen where blank cards are sent out to the guests and are asked to write something about the couple that is memorable etc. and then a scrapbook is made and given to the couple at the party. Their face expressions are priceless.What should the children do for their parents 45th wedding anniversary? Is it appropriate to host a party?
Yes, it is very appropriate to host a party in honor of your parents anniversary, and it can be in whatever size and style you wish and your budget will permit...that it's not an ';even decade'; will only add to the surprise of your plans.
Don鈥檛 worry about the Decade years... no one is promised tomorrow what if they don鈥檛 make it the decade year and you miss out ( no offense). Always celebrate your parents relationship... especially now a days folks are always married an remarried and divorced. have a party invite a load of folks and have a great time. Buy your mom a bouquet and a garter and have them throw it.. just like at a real wedding!
Of course do something. Everyone has a decade party. See if you can suprise them with people from the first wedding. People will help with food and if you specify no gifts except from say any of their kids(you....) most are even more willing to help with food, time location....ect.
I am always for a party. So what if it isn't the decade years. Enjoy life. I would look at the budget. Decide if you want a small family gathering or a larger party with friends included. Some people rent a banquet room at a restuarant and have the dinner and party there for an intimate family gathering. For a larger party, you may could rent a party room or hall, a banquet room at your church. Decorate it however you wish. I have seen where blank cards are sent out to the guests and are asked to write something about the couple that is memorable etc. and then a scrapbook is made and given to the couple at the party. Their face expressions are priceless.What should the children do for their parents 45th wedding anniversary? Is it appropriate to host a party?
Yes, it is very appropriate to host a party in honor of your parents anniversary, and it can be in whatever size and style you wish and your budget will permit...that it's not an ';even decade'; will only add to the surprise of your plans.
Don鈥檛 worry about the Decade years... no one is promised tomorrow what if they don鈥檛 make it the decade year and you miss out ( no offense). Always celebrate your parents relationship... especially now a days folks are always married an remarried and divorced. have a party invite a load of folks and have a great time. Buy your mom a bouquet and a garter and have them throw it.. just like at a real wedding!
Of course do something. Everyone has a decade party. See if you can suprise them with people from the first wedding. People will help with food and if you specify no gifts except from say any of their kids(you....) most are even more willing to help with food, time location....ect.
How do I declair independency from my parents on my taxes?
While filling out taxes on turbo tax, is there anything that asks about independent status or how do i do that?How do I declair independency from my parents on my taxes?
if your parents have the right to claim you on their taxes, they can do that. and there is no way to get around it. if you have truly been on your own for at least 7 months last year, then there is a box on there that asks if you can be claimed as a dependent. if not checked, then they assume your not (unless your parents try to claim you, then you get a letter from the IRS later)How do I declair independency from my parents on my taxes?
If you parents qualify to claim you as a dependent you can't stop them from doing so. They get first pick if they're entitled to the exemption.
You ';declare'; independence by attaining age 19 (or 24 if a full-time student), moving out of the house, and supporting yourself.
there is a question that says can anyone claim you
as a dependent
If you are under 19 and your parents provided more than half of your support and you lived with them for at least half of 2006 then you are not eligible to take your own exemption. If you supported yourself (meaning you provided your own food, rent, clothing, etc.) -- even if you lived with them -- then you can take your own exemption. Your personal exemption is worth $3,300, which means that amount will be deducted from your income and you will not have to pay taxes on it.
if your parents have the right to claim you on their taxes, they can do that. and there is no way to get around it. if you have truly been on your own for at least 7 months last year, then there is a box on there that asks if you can be claimed as a dependent. if not checked, then they assume your not (unless your parents try to claim you, then you get a letter from the IRS later)How do I declair independency from my parents on my taxes?
If you parents qualify to claim you as a dependent you can't stop them from doing so. They get first pick if they're entitled to the exemption.
You ';declare'; independence by attaining age 19 (or 24 if a full-time student), moving out of the house, and supporting yourself.
there is a question that says can anyone claim you
as a dependent
If you are under 19 and your parents provided more than half of your support and you lived with them for at least half of 2006 then you are not eligible to take your own exemption. If you supported yourself (meaning you provided your own food, rent, clothing, etc.) -- even if you lived with them -- then you can take your own exemption. Your personal exemption is worth $3,300, which means that amount will be deducted from your income and you will not have to pay taxes on it.
What age can someone legally overide their parents decision on medication?
I live in the UK btw.
Say if my parents didn't want me to be medicated for a health condition, what age can my decision overide theirs?What age can someone legally overide their parents decision on medication?
I am not sure what it is in the UK, but it is usually 18 in the US, and it is 20 in the country I live in now. It is usually called the age of consent, and it is usually the age when you can drink, smoke, vote, drive a car, get married without your parents' permission, etc. Sometimes those are different, but sometimes they are the same.
It appears to be 16 in the UK, by the way, according to the link below. The link says that you have to appear to be making a mature choice for a doctor to follow your instructions over your parents'. You should consider that.
Let me give you some advice. You should tell your doctor that you want to give informed consent. He, I think, will then be ethically obligated to explain to you what is wrong with you and why he is medicating you. If you listen to his explanation and you agree, you might be able to accept care. I would also suggest that you write down your reasons for seeking and accepting care and send copies of them to the doctor, I dont know... do you call it a council??or local government? or other notable person who might help you or take your side... a teacher maybe? The first thing your parents will say is that you are whacko, so show your doctor and others that you are not. If you write it down, you will not have to scream and cry.
Oh well. Good luck. Your parents probably want what is best for you. Do not forget that.What age can someone legally overide their parents decision on medication?
I have a feeling that you might want birth control? There might be free clinics or other ways of getting that without using a family doctor. That is usually true because birth control medication has social benefits and is not dangerous if used properly.
Age doesn't really matter...if u have the funding to get medicated.
I say until you have the money to get medical help then I think it's OK.
What I don't get is that your parents are supposed to support you with that condition whatever it is.
The best thing to do is save or get a job or ask for the government's help
When your an adult,18.
Say if my parents didn't want me to be medicated for a health condition, what age can my decision overide theirs?What age can someone legally overide their parents decision on medication?
I am not sure what it is in the UK, but it is usually 18 in the US, and it is 20 in the country I live in now. It is usually called the age of consent, and it is usually the age when you can drink, smoke, vote, drive a car, get married without your parents' permission, etc. Sometimes those are different, but sometimes they are the same.
It appears to be 16 in the UK, by the way, according to the link below. The link says that you have to appear to be making a mature choice for a doctor to follow your instructions over your parents'. You should consider that.
Let me give you some advice. You should tell your doctor that you want to give informed consent. He, I think, will then be ethically obligated to explain to you what is wrong with you and why he is medicating you. If you listen to his explanation and you agree, you might be able to accept care. I would also suggest that you write down your reasons for seeking and accepting care and send copies of them to the doctor, I dont know... do you call it a council??or local government? or other notable person who might help you or take your side... a teacher maybe? The first thing your parents will say is that you are whacko, so show your doctor and others that you are not. If you write it down, you will not have to scream and cry.
Oh well. Good luck. Your parents probably want what is best for you. Do not forget that.What age can someone legally overide their parents decision on medication?
I have a feeling that you might want birth control? There might be free clinics or other ways of getting that without using a family doctor. That is usually true because birth control medication has social benefits and is not dangerous if used properly.
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Age doesn't really matter...if u have the funding to get medicated.
I say until you have the money to get medical help then I think it's OK.
What I don't get is that your parents are supposed to support you with that condition whatever it is.
The best thing to do is save or get a job or ask for the government's help
When your an adult,18.
Parents what would you say in a letter to a teacher that was teaching Evolution?
If you found out that your son or daughter was going to be taught evolution in their science class and you wanted to write a letter to the particular teacher, what would you say?
Would you agree or disagree to having your child be taught evolution? Why? Explain.
Thank you for all of your opinions!Parents what would you say in a letter to a teacher that was teaching Evolution?
I would thank them for doing their job as a Science teacher - Evolution is a fact (it's the exact a to b to c to d etc... 'nitty gritty's' that's the ';theory'; part of it).Parents what would you say in a letter to a teacher that was teaching Evolution?
Wow, DUMB answer. NO FACT WHATSOEVER!
I would thank them!!
Firstly, regardless of belief, keeping religion out of public schools. How do you think kids who are a different religion or no religion feel being taught the way of other religions? I feel that is offensive and clearly crosses the religion being kept out of the state line.
Secondly, for being reasonable and looking at all the scientific, indesputable truth that organisms need to evolve to survive on this ever changing planet. There are fossils in the rock layers, carbon dating, we've seen certain species evolve over our lifetime, common sense, comparing the similaries between different members of a species or different species, etc.
By the way, for all you who think there is only one way that would support your god, why can't he have created evolution?? Organisms would die out without being able to adapt to the world around them, couldn't it be a god given gift?
School is for learning and science, NOT religious teachings that quite frankly have little basis. Public schools should not in any way be religiously affiliated.
It is a scientific theory, so why should there be an issue with teaching a scientific theory in a science class? Why should the teachers be forced to teach something that isn't a scientific theory, but rather a religious belief? Should we then teach every single religion's creation story as well? Because that is the slippery slope that this begins to go down. And there is no problem with having a personal disagreement with the theory, but you know what, it's a personal disagreement, not one that needs to affect the entire science curriculum nation wide. If you want intelligent design taught, go to a christian school. That's what I would say.
Thank the teacher for doing their job. Evolution is every bit of a valid theory as gravity in the scientific world. There is undeniable proof. A current time example? Why does the flu virus keep coming back after we vaccinate? Because it is evolving. A strain with a mutation that allows it to survive is what is left to continue on. Now we have a new vaccination to create. As Dobzhansky said ';Nothing in Biology Makes Sense Except in the Light of Evolution'; Your child will have a more difficult time understanding things like genetics and ecology if they are not exposed to evolution. Also, if evolution being against religion is your fear, there are people who have their religion but accept evolution as the scientific theory it is. The source below is a National Geographic article addressing this. Please let your child learn about this important scientific theory.
In most cases it is not the teacher's choice what is taught or not taught in the classroom. If you have a problem with the curriculum then your letter needs to be addressed to your child's principal if it is a private school or the superintendent if it is a public school. I have worked in school systems that have avoided the issue of evolution and those that have addressed it. My job as the teacher is to inform the students of information and make sure that they understand the curriculum. The curriculum has already been written by educators with years of experience and knowledge about age-appropriate lesson planning. If your child's curriculum includes evolution, then it is because the school board (Who are in most cases elected officials) decided that was what best represented the views in your community.
I would not be against my child being taught evolution, as long as it is not presented as a fact. It's called the ';Theory of Evolution'; for a reason, and telling someone it's a fact doesn't make it one. The fact is that science has never proven it to be true. Actually, the more scientists try to find support for that theory, the more questions come up, and the less true it looks.
If schools want to teach the arguments in favor of evolution, then they ought to teach the arguments against it as well. There are MANY. If they don't present all the evidence on both sides, then they are not respecting the various religious affiliations of the students.
Regarding what I would mention to the teacher - I have a few books in my home that have quotes from respected scientists who doubt the theory of evolution, stating why. I would schedule a meeting with the teacher to respectfully share this information, remind him/her of the responsibility to teach accurate information, and encourage him/her to present the evolution as it really is - an idea that cannot be proven.
My next step would depend on the response I get. Bottom line, I would not allow my child to be taught something in school that contradicts what they are learning at home. We are Christian, and believe in Creation.
If this was in the UK, then NOT teaching evolution would be a cause for concern, and a teacher teaching creation outside RE class would be considered a nutcase.
People in some answers seem to have no grasp of the meaning of the word ';theory';. In everyday language, it means conjecture, guessing, but in scientific terms it means something else. The scientific word for conjecture is ';hypothesis';. Is it called the ';hypothesis of evolution';? No. Because in scientific terms, ';theories'; are tested mathematically, or by some other proof, or by observation or just plain logic. The ';proof'; of evolution as a theory lies in 150 years of observation, and of logic used in making sense of real evidence. It is far more than simply guesswork.
People who know absolutely nothing about scientific theories reject it off-hand purely on the basis of the word ';theory';, but would the same people reject the THEORY of Universal Gravitation? Or Pythagoras' THEOREM?
Your state board of education decides what your teacher will teach. The teacher really has no say in what will be taught in the classroom. If you want to write a letter, it should go to the school board, not the teacher.
Personally I would want my child to be taught evolution because (and I say this as someone who actually understands evolution) it is science. Creationism is no more science than astrology or necromancy or alchemy, and I wouldn't want my child learning those in school either.
They are taught the *theory* of evolution; the students are not forced to believe it. Teachers make it very clear that you must learn it, not believe in it.
Whether you want your child to believe it, to not believe it, or to figure it out on his or her own, wouldn't you want your child to understand it, first? How can you expect someone to form an educated opionion about a topic that they have been shielded from?
Come on... are you joking me? There is scientific proof that evolution exists!!!! A few hundred years ago the catholic church killed a guy for heresy because he could prove that the Earth revolved around the sun and that the Earth WASN'T the center of the universe which is what they were teaching everybody. The Catholic church refused to admit they were wrong until 1999.
I would thank the teacher for teaching such an important and interesting subject.
I would not be a happy camper if I had a child who was being taught about creationism instead of evolution.
I think the main problem with creationism is that its defenders are ignorant of what evolution really is. Most of the creationists I've heard of seem to think evolution means we ';came from monkeys'; or that we ';came from chimps';. They clearly don't understand the principles...
I would write to that teacher and tell them that since my student attends public school I have no right to assert a particular religious belief on the rest of the class.
I would tell the teacher if I was a truly concerned parent I would instruct my student about our family's beliefs at home or in a private school that eschews our beliefs. I would not waste the teacher's time with a controversy where none exists.....
What will be next...not teaching about dinosaurs (some do not believe they existed) not teaching about microscopes, atoms, biology, chemistry...etc...Many religions have feelings about those items as well...That's why there are private schools and homeschools
I wouldn't say anything. Obviously the parent in question has chosen to educate their child in a public school setting where the theory of evolution is part of the curriculum.
Now, said parents are very welcome to pull their child and send them to a private or religious school, but until then, take your child to church so they can get both points of view.
This whole argument is growing Verrrrry old.
I would write them a letter congratulating them for going over such a touchy subject. I would hope they would be knowledgeable enough in it to help the student really understand whats behind its theory. I think evolution is such an interesting topic, and touchy at that.
People should know what it is, evolution is always a possibility.
That's my opinion. Given my complete thumbs up for the thought of evolution, I am prepared for the thumbs done, from some closed minded people =)
I would thank them for teaching something that is founded in scientific proof.
Cavemen are real. Surely that is indisputable.
Current man, does not look like cavemen. Which means...we have evolved.
That in itself, proves the basis of evolution. I won't say we started as monkeys. But evolution does occur.
Therefore, it's 100% legit to teach.
(because, you know.....it makes more sense to believe a cosmic and omnipotent being slammed everything together and created reality....than to say a bunch of atoms slammed together and created reality....last I checked, we can prove atoms.....)
i would simply ask that he/she would leave god and religion out of the topic.
i wouldn't want my child to be ignorant to the subject, but i also wouldn't want my child to not believe in a religion.
something i learned at a very early age was that religion and sciences should either coexist perfectly (like god caused the big bang, and one day to him could be like millions of years to us) or that they should never intermix (study both, but don't question how they disagree with each other). the question that made it all clear to me was dinosaurs. were do they fit in with religion? you've seen their remains, how do you not believe that they didn't exist? but if they did, then on what day were they created, because i don't remember anything about them in the bible?
a believe in god is something personal, and every person has a different belief. but any religion was written by man, and mankind has made many errors, so logicaly speaking, any religion has room for errors. and it's hard to argue with evolution, especially when there is so much proof of it. but religion is something that you don't need proof of.
so to anwer your question, i would just ask that the teacher not say that religion is false, and that god doesn't exist. but i would also encourage the teacher to keep teaching evolution. and make sure that you teach your child about religion and faith at home.
';Thanks for teaching science in the classroom.
Love,
Parent';
The second you teach Creationism/Intelligent Design (call it what you will), in America, you're breaking the first amendment, as long as you're in public school. If your, child is private school, go nuts, that's where your money is going, do what you please.
I can certainly understand your concern. I'm no evolutionary biologist or anything, but in my opinion, the principles of evolution don't necessarily contradict our faith. What happens is uneducated and misinformed people who are against the faith try to use it to ';disprove'; the existence of God -- and that is just so stupid to me!
Here's my advice: Use the internet to seek out maybe a very good Christian, private high school in your city or elsewhere (for instance Episcopal High School in Houston would be a good one). Most of these schools the faculty are Christians (in many cases they actually have to acknowledge their faith before they are hired). Seek out a faculty member who teaches biology, and seek their council about your concerns. They may or may not teach the principles of evolution, but they likely have dealt with this concern (from within) and can give you intelligent and relevant advice about your concern.
Dear Sir/Madam,
I am writing to congratulate you on your great lesson plans on the subject of evolution. Now she has learned about evolution she can pass all her exams and if you can keep up all your good work she should pass the next test A*.
Yours Sincerely,
(YOUR NAME HERE)
Science lessons are for Science.
RE is for god.
As Matt said, I would tell them they need to emphasize the fact that its a theory. And hay, you people who are saying youd thank them you arent helping answer the ? because she is obviously concerned that her child is being told this stuff she doesnt believe in. We dont teach Christian 101 to you so we have the right to complain!
Thanks, Mr/Mrs/Ms Science teacher, for being scientifically accurate. Why not throw in climate change while we're at it? It's my son/daughter that will have to take care of the environment since my generation hasn't.
*not that i'm a parent, but that's what i'd say, because it's the TRUTH, PEOPLE*
Dear teacher, thank you for having some common sense.
If you do feel the need to complain because of your narrow minded opinions, you do not write to the teacher unless you know she is doing this without the authority of the school.
I would say ';Thank you for teaching my son/daughter the best explanatory framework we have for understanding most biological facts we see. It's been well supported through 150 years of reasearch and has no credible scientific criticism.'; Something along those lines.
I wouldn't actually write a letter to the teacher because it's not like a teacher is the only one who can teach. I'd tell my child what I believe and tell him/her that I don't believe that man came about from monkeys by chance and a series of explosions. I'd teach my child what I know to be right.
I think my child can be taught evolution vaguely but not as a fact. Teachers can teach about atheism and religion in the classroom as long as they don't say that either is fact. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions.
Evolution is only an opinion, teachers are just supposed to teach what is in the curriculum, each School Boards Curriculum should be available online, and you can find out if that is under the curriculum. I myself do not belief in the teach of something that is nonsense and unfounded, I am sure they could find there time to teach something else that is factual and worth learning. Good Luck, I never remember having to learn that in science, sounds a little far fetched to me....
As to Gypsy, evolution is NOT founded in scientific truth, that is why it is called the ';Theory of Evolution.'; Even Darwin, before he died, wrote a letter stating that he doesn't even believe for sure all that he taught, that is just a theory.
I am so priveliged to be able to send my child to private school this year (his first year). I hope that we can afford to do this every year. However, I would have to tell my child that we believe that God created the earth and all that was in it and he said that it was good. Therefore, we do not believe in evolution. I would have to tell my child that the people who wrote the science book do not believe in God and are searching for other answers to their questions. I would tell him that evolutions is just one way that some people think the world and all that are in it could have come to be.
I went 2 years to a ';Christian'; university and our science profs. taught evolution there. We argued points with the prof. to the point where he had no more answers to fight back with and eventually told us to knock it off, that we were being overbaring. Can you believe that? Instead of admitting that what he was teaching is wrong (especailly at a so-called ';Christian'; school!) he couldn't fight back anymore so he told us to knock it off. And I guess b/c he has his PHD and we were mere undergrad students, we just had to bow down and take him as gospel.
Anyway, sorry about my rant...I wouldn't write a letter to the teacher. She/he is teaching what he has to. I would write a letter to your principal, superintendant, the school board and the state. Make phone calls to your representatives. Writing a letter to the teacher isn't going to solve anything. It may even make things worse for your child. He/she may take things out on the poor kid b/c he has complaining parents.
Here is EXACTLY what I would say:
You are teaching my child something that is a theory, not scientific truth. I don't want her to be near your false teaching and I want her somewhere else during these lectures.
Now, I will not force my religion upon you, but I know it is correct by FACT. Everything I see in this world, and one day you will know too, that you were wrong.
If you refuse to do with my daughter as I say, I will enroll her in a different school, or consider home schooling.
Thank you,
___________
I DISAGREE and I disagree because no one knows if it is fact. I have true evidence of my faith, from healing an arm before my eyes to the hummingbird in my yard. This is my fact.
Scientists make up what they say is true. A lot of time, also, they say ';possibly'; or ';maybe';. PLUS a lot of things they base their things of off are from the Bible. Other religions do this, too.
Made my point. Ready for thumbs down. I know what I am doing, and that is that.
I hope to see you in Heaven.
I believe that evolution should be taught in school. Do I believe that man came from an ape? No! Why are apes not evolving into men? I do think there is an amount of evolution that takes place mainly from adapting to ones environment. Why not teach some religion origins in school, since it has been written about so much. I would let my child be taught evolution, but I would talk to them about it and religion at home afterwords.
As a teacher...parents certainly have an option
You can opt for a different set of lessons. Similar to sex ed classes. You can conscientously object to what is being taught. You can't make a teacher NOT teach the subject...but you can opt your child out of it.
Totally against anyone teaching my children evolution. I have 3 teens in high school and I've told them numerous times if the teacher ever tries to teach them evolution to tell the teacher my mom says we don't come from apes and then go to the office and call me.
Dont--just talk to your kids about it. say, do good on the tests and pay attention only to get a good grade. Dont take i up with the teacher. Most teachers dont even want to teach it. It is the criculum so they have to.
Just tell your kids that it is totally bogas and they should believe it.
Would you agree or disagree to having your child be taught evolution? Why? Explain.
Thank you for all of your opinions!Parents what would you say in a letter to a teacher that was teaching Evolution?
I would thank them for doing their job as a Science teacher - Evolution is a fact (it's the exact a to b to c to d etc... 'nitty gritty's' that's the ';theory'; part of it).Parents what would you say in a letter to a teacher that was teaching Evolution?
Wow, DUMB answer. NO FACT WHATSOEVER!
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I would thank them!!
Firstly, regardless of belief, keeping religion out of public schools. How do you think kids who are a different religion or no religion feel being taught the way of other religions? I feel that is offensive and clearly crosses the religion being kept out of the state line.
Secondly, for being reasonable and looking at all the scientific, indesputable truth that organisms need to evolve to survive on this ever changing planet. There are fossils in the rock layers, carbon dating, we've seen certain species evolve over our lifetime, common sense, comparing the similaries between different members of a species or different species, etc.
By the way, for all you who think there is only one way that would support your god, why can't he have created evolution?? Organisms would die out without being able to adapt to the world around them, couldn't it be a god given gift?
School is for learning and science, NOT religious teachings that quite frankly have little basis. Public schools should not in any way be religiously affiliated.
It is a scientific theory, so why should there be an issue with teaching a scientific theory in a science class? Why should the teachers be forced to teach something that isn't a scientific theory, but rather a religious belief? Should we then teach every single religion's creation story as well? Because that is the slippery slope that this begins to go down. And there is no problem with having a personal disagreement with the theory, but you know what, it's a personal disagreement, not one that needs to affect the entire science curriculum nation wide. If you want intelligent design taught, go to a christian school. That's what I would say.
Thank the teacher for doing their job. Evolution is every bit of a valid theory as gravity in the scientific world. There is undeniable proof. A current time example? Why does the flu virus keep coming back after we vaccinate? Because it is evolving. A strain with a mutation that allows it to survive is what is left to continue on. Now we have a new vaccination to create. As Dobzhansky said ';Nothing in Biology Makes Sense Except in the Light of Evolution'; Your child will have a more difficult time understanding things like genetics and ecology if they are not exposed to evolution. Also, if evolution being against religion is your fear, there are people who have their religion but accept evolution as the scientific theory it is. The source below is a National Geographic article addressing this. Please let your child learn about this important scientific theory.
In most cases it is not the teacher's choice what is taught or not taught in the classroom. If you have a problem with the curriculum then your letter needs to be addressed to your child's principal if it is a private school or the superintendent if it is a public school. I have worked in school systems that have avoided the issue of evolution and those that have addressed it. My job as the teacher is to inform the students of information and make sure that they understand the curriculum. The curriculum has already been written by educators with years of experience and knowledge about age-appropriate lesson planning. If your child's curriculum includes evolution, then it is because the school board (Who are in most cases elected officials) decided that was what best represented the views in your community.
I would not be against my child being taught evolution, as long as it is not presented as a fact. It's called the ';Theory of Evolution'; for a reason, and telling someone it's a fact doesn't make it one. The fact is that science has never proven it to be true. Actually, the more scientists try to find support for that theory, the more questions come up, and the less true it looks.
If schools want to teach the arguments in favor of evolution, then they ought to teach the arguments against it as well. There are MANY. If they don't present all the evidence on both sides, then they are not respecting the various religious affiliations of the students.
Regarding what I would mention to the teacher - I have a few books in my home that have quotes from respected scientists who doubt the theory of evolution, stating why. I would schedule a meeting with the teacher to respectfully share this information, remind him/her of the responsibility to teach accurate information, and encourage him/her to present the evolution as it really is - an idea that cannot be proven.
My next step would depend on the response I get. Bottom line, I would not allow my child to be taught something in school that contradicts what they are learning at home. We are Christian, and believe in Creation.
If this was in the UK, then NOT teaching evolution would be a cause for concern, and a teacher teaching creation outside RE class would be considered a nutcase.
People in some answers seem to have no grasp of the meaning of the word ';theory';. In everyday language, it means conjecture, guessing, but in scientific terms it means something else. The scientific word for conjecture is ';hypothesis';. Is it called the ';hypothesis of evolution';? No. Because in scientific terms, ';theories'; are tested mathematically, or by some other proof, or by observation or just plain logic. The ';proof'; of evolution as a theory lies in 150 years of observation, and of logic used in making sense of real evidence. It is far more than simply guesswork.
People who know absolutely nothing about scientific theories reject it off-hand purely on the basis of the word ';theory';, but would the same people reject the THEORY of Universal Gravitation? Or Pythagoras' THEOREM?
Your state board of education decides what your teacher will teach. The teacher really has no say in what will be taught in the classroom. If you want to write a letter, it should go to the school board, not the teacher.
Personally I would want my child to be taught evolution because (and I say this as someone who actually understands evolution) it is science. Creationism is no more science than astrology or necromancy or alchemy, and I wouldn't want my child learning those in school either.
They are taught the *theory* of evolution; the students are not forced to believe it. Teachers make it very clear that you must learn it, not believe in it.
Whether you want your child to believe it, to not believe it, or to figure it out on his or her own, wouldn't you want your child to understand it, first? How can you expect someone to form an educated opionion about a topic that they have been shielded from?
Come on... are you joking me? There is scientific proof that evolution exists!!!! A few hundred years ago the catholic church killed a guy for heresy because he could prove that the Earth revolved around the sun and that the Earth WASN'T the center of the universe which is what they were teaching everybody. The Catholic church refused to admit they were wrong until 1999.
I would thank the teacher for teaching such an important and interesting subject.
I would not be a happy camper if I had a child who was being taught about creationism instead of evolution.
I think the main problem with creationism is that its defenders are ignorant of what evolution really is. Most of the creationists I've heard of seem to think evolution means we ';came from monkeys'; or that we ';came from chimps';. They clearly don't understand the principles...
I would write to that teacher and tell them that since my student attends public school I have no right to assert a particular religious belief on the rest of the class.
I would tell the teacher if I was a truly concerned parent I would instruct my student about our family's beliefs at home or in a private school that eschews our beliefs. I would not waste the teacher's time with a controversy where none exists.....
What will be next...not teaching about dinosaurs (some do not believe they existed) not teaching about microscopes, atoms, biology, chemistry...etc...Many religions have feelings about those items as well...That's why there are private schools and homeschools
I wouldn't say anything. Obviously the parent in question has chosen to educate their child in a public school setting where the theory of evolution is part of the curriculum.
Now, said parents are very welcome to pull their child and send them to a private or religious school, but until then, take your child to church so they can get both points of view.
This whole argument is growing Verrrrry old.
I would write them a letter congratulating them for going over such a touchy subject. I would hope they would be knowledgeable enough in it to help the student really understand whats behind its theory. I think evolution is such an interesting topic, and touchy at that.
People should know what it is, evolution is always a possibility.
That's my opinion. Given my complete thumbs up for the thought of evolution, I am prepared for the thumbs done, from some closed minded people =)
I would thank them for teaching something that is founded in scientific proof.
Cavemen are real. Surely that is indisputable.
Current man, does not look like cavemen. Which means...we have evolved.
That in itself, proves the basis of evolution. I won't say we started as monkeys. But evolution does occur.
Therefore, it's 100% legit to teach.
(because, you know.....it makes more sense to believe a cosmic and omnipotent being slammed everything together and created reality....than to say a bunch of atoms slammed together and created reality....last I checked, we can prove atoms.....)
i would simply ask that he/she would leave god and religion out of the topic.
i wouldn't want my child to be ignorant to the subject, but i also wouldn't want my child to not believe in a religion.
something i learned at a very early age was that religion and sciences should either coexist perfectly (like god caused the big bang, and one day to him could be like millions of years to us) or that they should never intermix (study both, but don't question how they disagree with each other). the question that made it all clear to me was dinosaurs. were do they fit in with religion? you've seen their remains, how do you not believe that they didn't exist? but if they did, then on what day were they created, because i don't remember anything about them in the bible?
a believe in god is something personal, and every person has a different belief. but any religion was written by man, and mankind has made many errors, so logicaly speaking, any religion has room for errors. and it's hard to argue with evolution, especially when there is so much proof of it. but religion is something that you don't need proof of.
so to anwer your question, i would just ask that the teacher not say that religion is false, and that god doesn't exist. but i would also encourage the teacher to keep teaching evolution. and make sure that you teach your child about religion and faith at home.
';Thanks for teaching science in the classroom.
Love,
Parent';
The second you teach Creationism/Intelligent Design (call it what you will), in America, you're breaking the first amendment, as long as you're in public school. If your, child is private school, go nuts, that's where your money is going, do what you please.
I can certainly understand your concern. I'm no evolutionary biologist or anything, but in my opinion, the principles of evolution don't necessarily contradict our faith. What happens is uneducated and misinformed people who are against the faith try to use it to ';disprove'; the existence of God -- and that is just so stupid to me!
Here's my advice: Use the internet to seek out maybe a very good Christian, private high school in your city or elsewhere (for instance Episcopal High School in Houston would be a good one). Most of these schools the faculty are Christians (in many cases they actually have to acknowledge their faith before they are hired). Seek out a faculty member who teaches biology, and seek their council about your concerns. They may or may not teach the principles of evolution, but they likely have dealt with this concern (from within) and can give you intelligent and relevant advice about your concern.
Dear Sir/Madam,
I am writing to congratulate you on your great lesson plans on the subject of evolution. Now she has learned about evolution she can pass all her exams and if you can keep up all your good work she should pass the next test A*.
Yours Sincerely,
(YOUR NAME HERE)
Science lessons are for Science.
RE is for god.
As Matt said, I would tell them they need to emphasize the fact that its a theory. And hay, you people who are saying youd thank them you arent helping answer the ? because she is obviously concerned that her child is being told this stuff she doesnt believe in. We dont teach Christian 101 to you so we have the right to complain!
Thanks, Mr/Mrs/Ms Science teacher, for being scientifically accurate. Why not throw in climate change while we're at it? It's my son/daughter that will have to take care of the environment since my generation hasn't.
*not that i'm a parent, but that's what i'd say, because it's the TRUTH, PEOPLE*
Dear teacher, thank you for having some common sense.
If you do feel the need to complain because of your narrow minded opinions, you do not write to the teacher unless you know she is doing this without the authority of the school.
I would say ';Thank you for teaching my son/daughter the best explanatory framework we have for understanding most biological facts we see. It's been well supported through 150 years of reasearch and has no credible scientific criticism.'; Something along those lines.
I wouldn't actually write a letter to the teacher because it's not like a teacher is the only one who can teach. I'd tell my child what I believe and tell him/her that I don't believe that man came about from monkeys by chance and a series of explosions. I'd teach my child what I know to be right.
I think my child can be taught evolution vaguely but not as a fact. Teachers can teach about atheism and religion in the classroom as long as they don't say that either is fact. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions.
Evolution is only an opinion, teachers are just supposed to teach what is in the curriculum, each School Boards Curriculum should be available online, and you can find out if that is under the curriculum. I myself do not belief in the teach of something that is nonsense and unfounded, I am sure they could find there time to teach something else that is factual and worth learning. Good Luck, I never remember having to learn that in science, sounds a little far fetched to me....
As to Gypsy, evolution is NOT founded in scientific truth, that is why it is called the ';Theory of Evolution.'; Even Darwin, before he died, wrote a letter stating that he doesn't even believe for sure all that he taught, that is just a theory.
I am so priveliged to be able to send my child to private school this year (his first year). I hope that we can afford to do this every year. However, I would have to tell my child that we believe that God created the earth and all that was in it and he said that it was good. Therefore, we do not believe in evolution. I would have to tell my child that the people who wrote the science book do not believe in God and are searching for other answers to their questions. I would tell him that evolutions is just one way that some people think the world and all that are in it could have come to be.
I went 2 years to a ';Christian'; university and our science profs. taught evolution there. We argued points with the prof. to the point where he had no more answers to fight back with and eventually told us to knock it off, that we were being overbaring. Can you believe that? Instead of admitting that what he was teaching is wrong (especailly at a so-called ';Christian'; school!) he couldn't fight back anymore so he told us to knock it off. And I guess b/c he has his PHD and we were mere undergrad students, we just had to bow down and take him as gospel.
Anyway, sorry about my rant...I wouldn't write a letter to the teacher. She/he is teaching what he has to. I would write a letter to your principal, superintendant, the school board and the state. Make phone calls to your representatives. Writing a letter to the teacher isn't going to solve anything. It may even make things worse for your child. He/she may take things out on the poor kid b/c he has complaining parents.
Here is EXACTLY what I would say:
You are teaching my child something that is a theory, not scientific truth. I don't want her to be near your false teaching and I want her somewhere else during these lectures.
Now, I will not force my religion upon you, but I know it is correct by FACT. Everything I see in this world, and one day you will know too, that you were wrong.
If you refuse to do with my daughter as I say, I will enroll her in a different school, or consider home schooling.
Thank you,
___________
I DISAGREE and I disagree because no one knows if it is fact. I have true evidence of my faith, from healing an arm before my eyes to the hummingbird in my yard. This is my fact.
Scientists make up what they say is true. A lot of time, also, they say ';possibly'; or ';maybe';. PLUS a lot of things they base their things of off are from the Bible. Other religions do this, too.
Made my point. Ready for thumbs down. I know what I am doing, and that is that.
I hope to see you in Heaven.
I believe that evolution should be taught in school. Do I believe that man came from an ape? No! Why are apes not evolving into men? I do think there is an amount of evolution that takes place mainly from adapting to ones environment. Why not teach some religion origins in school, since it has been written about so much. I would let my child be taught evolution, but I would talk to them about it and religion at home afterwords.
As a teacher...parents certainly have an option
You can opt for a different set of lessons. Similar to sex ed classes. You can conscientously object to what is being taught. You can't make a teacher NOT teach the subject...but you can opt your child out of it.
Totally against anyone teaching my children evolution. I have 3 teens in high school and I've told them numerous times if the teacher ever tries to teach them evolution to tell the teacher my mom says we don't come from apes and then go to the office and call me.
Dont--just talk to your kids about it. say, do good on the tests and pay attention only to get a good grade. Dont take i up with the teacher. Most teachers dont even want to teach it. It is the criculum so they have to.
Just tell your kids that it is totally bogas and they should believe it.
Parents what would you say in a letter to a teacher that was teaching Evolution?
If you found out that your son or daughter was going to be taught evolution in their science class and you wanted to write a letter to the particular teacher, what would you say?
Would you agree or disagree to having your child be taught evolution? Why? Explain.
Thank you for all of your opinions!Parents what would you say in a letter to a teacher that was teaching Evolution?
I would thank them for doing their job as a Science teacher - Evolution is a fact (it's the exact a to b to c to d etc... 'nitty gritty's' that's the ';theory'; part of it).Parents what would you say in a letter to a teacher that was teaching Evolution?
Wow, DUMB answer. NO FACT WHATSOEVER!
I would thank them!!
Firstly, regardless of belief, keeping religion out of public schools. How do you think kids who are a different religion or no religion feel being taught the way of other religions? I feel that is offensive and clearly crosses the religion being kept out of the state line.
Secondly, for being reasonable and looking at all the scientific, indesputable truth that organisms need to evolve to survive on this ever changing planet. There are fossils in the rock layers, carbon dating, we've seen certain species evolve over our lifetime, common sense, comparing the similaries between different members of a species or different species, etc.
By the way, for all you who think there is only one way that would support your god, why can't he have created evolution?? Organisms would die out without being able to adapt to the world around them, couldn't it be a god given gift?
School is for learning and science, NOT religious teachings that quite frankly have little basis. Public schools should not in any way be religiously affiliated.
It is a scientific theory, so why should there be an issue with teaching a scientific theory in a science class? Why should the teachers be forced to teach something that isn't a scientific theory, but rather a religious belief? Should we then teach every single religion's creation story as well? Because that is the slippery slope that this begins to go down. And there is no problem with having a personal disagreement with the theory, but you know what, it's a personal disagreement, not one that needs to affect the entire science curriculum nation wide. If you want intelligent design taught, go to a christian school. That's what I would say.
Thank the teacher for doing their job. Evolution is every bit of a valid theory as gravity in the scientific world. There is undeniable proof. A current time example? Why does the flu virus keep coming back after we vaccinate? Because it is evolving. A strain with a mutation that allows it to survive is what is left to continue on. Now we have a new vaccination to create. As Dobzhansky said ';Nothing in Biology Makes Sense Except in the Light of Evolution'; Your child will have a more difficult time understanding things like genetics and ecology if they are not exposed to evolution. Also, if evolution being against religion is your fear, there are people who have their religion but accept evolution as the scientific theory it is. The source below is a National Geographic article addressing this. Please let your child learn about this important scientific theory.
In most cases it is not the teacher's choice what is taught or not taught in the classroom. If you have a problem with the curriculum then your letter needs to be addressed to your child's principal if it is a private school or the superintendent if it is a public school. I have worked in school systems that have avoided the issue of evolution and those that have addressed it. My job as the teacher is to inform the students of information and make sure that they understand the curriculum. The curriculum has already been written by educators with years of experience and knowledge about age-appropriate lesson planning. If your child's curriculum includes evolution, then it is because the school board (Who are in most cases elected officials) decided that was what best represented the views in your community.
I would not be against my child being taught evolution, as long as it is not presented as a fact. It's called the ';Theory of Evolution'; for a reason, and telling someone it's a fact doesn't make it one. The fact is that science has never proven it to be true. Actually, the more scientists try to find support for that theory, the more questions come up, and the less true it looks.
If schools want to teach the arguments in favor of evolution, then they ought to teach the arguments against it as well. There are MANY. If they don't present all the evidence on both sides, then they are not respecting the various religious affiliations of the students.
Regarding what I would mention to the teacher - I have a few books in my home that have quotes from respected scientists who doubt the theory of evolution, stating why. I would schedule a meeting with the teacher to respectfully share this information, remind him/her of the responsibility to teach accurate information, and encourage him/her to present the evolution as it really is - an idea that cannot be proven.
My next step would depend on the response I get. Bottom line, I would not allow my child to be taught something in school that contradicts what they are learning at home. We are Christian, and believe in Creation.
If this was in the UK, then NOT teaching evolution would be a cause for concern, and a teacher teaching creation outside RE class would be considered a nutcase.
People in some answers seem to have no grasp of the meaning of the word ';theory';. In everyday language, it means conjecture, guessing, but in scientific terms it means something else. The scientific word for conjecture is ';hypothesis';. Is it called the ';hypothesis of evolution';? No. Because in scientific terms, ';theories'; are tested mathematically, or by some other proof, or by observation or just plain logic. The ';proof'; of evolution as a theory lies in 150 years of observation, and of logic used in making sense of real evidence. It is far more than simply guesswork.
People who know absolutely nothing about scientific theories reject it off-hand purely on the basis of the word ';theory';, but would the same people reject the THEORY of Universal Gravitation? Or Pythagoras' THEOREM?
Your state board of education decides what your teacher will teach. The teacher really has no say in what will be taught in the classroom. If you want to write a letter, it should go to the school board, not the teacher.
Personally I would want my child to be taught evolution because (and I say this as someone who actually understands evolution) it is science. Creationism is no more science than astrology or necromancy or alchemy, and I wouldn't want my child learning those in school either.
They are taught the *theory* of evolution; the students are not forced to believe it. Teachers make it very clear that you must learn it, not believe in it.
Whether you want your child to believe it, to not believe it, or to figure it out on his or her own, wouldn't you want your child to understand it, first? How can you expect someone to form an educated opionion about a topic that they have been shielded from?
Come on... are you joking me? There is scientific proof that evolution exists!!!! A few hundred years ago the catholic church killed a guy for heresy because he could prove that the Earth revolved around the sun and that the Earth WASN'T the center of the universe which is what they were teaching everybody. The Catholic church refused to admit they were wrong until 1999.
I would thank the teacher for teaching such an important and interesting subject.
I would not be a happy camper if I had a child who was being taught about creationism instead of evolution.
I think the main problem with creationism is that its defenders are ignorant of what evolution really is. Most of the creationists I've heard of seem to think evolution means we ';came from monkeys'; or that we ';came from chimps';. They clearly don't understand the principles...
I would write to that teacher and tell them that since my student attends public school I have no right to assert a particular religious belief on the rest of the class.
I would tell the teacher if I was a truly concerned parent I would instruct my student about our family's beliefs at home or in a private school that eschews our beliefs. I would not waste the teacher's time with a controversy where none exists.....
What will be next...not teaching about dinosaurs (some do not believe they existed) not teaching about microscopes, atoms, biology, chemistry...etc...Many religions have feelings about those items as well...That's why there are private schools and homeschools
I wouldn't say anything. Obviously the parent in question has chosen to educate their child in a public school setting where the theory of evolution is part of the curriculum.
Now, said parents are very welcome to pull their child and send them to a private or religious school, but until then, take your child to church so they can get both points of view.
This whole argument is growing Verrrrry old.
I would write them a letter congratulating them for going over such a touchy subject. I would hope they would be knowledgeable enough in it to help the student really understand whats behind its theory. I think evolution is such an interesting topic, and touchy at that.
People should know what it is, evolution is always a possibility.
That's my opinion. Given my complete thumbs up for the thought of evolution, I am prepared for the thumbs done, from some closed minded people =)
I would thank them for teaching something that is founded in scientific proof.
Cavemen are real. Surely that is indisputable.
Current man, does not look like cavemen. Which means...we have evolved.
That in itself, proves the basis of evolution. I won't say we started as monkeys. But evolution does occur.
Therefore, it's 100% legit to teach.
(because, you know.....it makes more sense to believe a cosmic and omnipotent being slammed everything together and created reality....than to say a bunch of atoms slammed together and created reality....last I checked, we can prove atoms.....)
i would simply ask that he/she would leave god and religion out of the topic.
i wouldn't want my child to be ignorant to the subject, but i also wouldn't want my child to not believe in a religion.
something i learned at a very early age was that religion and sciences should either coexist perfectly (like god caused the big bang, and one day to him could be like millions of years to us) or that they should never intermix (study both, but don't question how they disagree with each other). the question that made it all clear to me was dinosaurs. were do they fit in with religion? you've seen their remains, how do you not believe that they didn't exist? but if they did, then on what day were they created, because i don't remember anything about them in the bible?
a believe in god is something personal, and every person has a different belief. but any religion was written by man, and mankind has made many errors, so logicaly speaking, any religion has room for errors. and it's hard to argue with evolution, especially when there is so much proof of it. but religion is something that you don't need proof of.
so to anwer your question, i would just ask that the teacher not say that religion is false, and that god doesn't exist. but i would also encourage the teacher to keep teaching evolution. and make sure that you teach your child about religion and faith at home.
';Thanks for teaching science in the classroom.
Love,
Parent';
The second you teach Creationism/Intelligent Design (call it what you will), in America, you're breaking the first amendment, as long as you're in public school. If your, child is private school, go nuts, that's where your money is going, do what you please.
I can certainly understand your concern. I'm no evolutionary biologist or anything, but in my opinion, the principles of evolution don't necessarily contradict our faith. What happens is uneducated and misinformed people who are against the faith try to use it to ';disprove'; the existence of God -- and that is just so stupid to me!
Here's my advice: Use the internet to seek out maybe a very good Christian, private high school in your city or elsewhere (for instance Episcopal High School in Houston would be a good one). Most of these schools the faculty are Christians (in many cases they actually have to acknowledge their faith before they are hired). Seek out a faculty member who teaches biology, and seek their council about your concerns. They may or may not teach the principles of evolution, but they likely have dealt with this concern (from within) and can give you intelligent and relevant advice about your concern.
Dear Sir/Madam,
I am writing to congratulate you on your great lesson plans on the subject of evolution. Now she has learned about evolution she can pass all her exams and if you can keep up all your good work she should pass the next test A*.
Yours Sincerely,
(YOUR NAME HERE)
Science lessons are for Science.
RE is for god.
As Matt said, I would tell them they need to emphasize the fact that its a theory. And hay, you people who are saying youd thank them you arent helping answer the ? because she is obviously concerned that her child is being told this stuff she doesnt believe in. We dont teach Christian 101 to you so we have the right to complain!
Thanks, Mr/Mrs/Ms Science teacher, for being scientifically accurate. Why not throw in climate change while we're at it? It's my son/daughter that will have to take care of the environment since my generation hasn't.
*not that i'm a parent, but that's what i'd say, because it's the TRUTH, PEOPLE*
Dear teacher, thank you for having some common sense.
If you do feel the need to complain because of your narrow minded opinions, you do not write to the teacher unless you know she is doing this without the authority of the school.
I would say ';Thank you for teaching my son/daughter the best explanatory framework we have for understanding most biological facts we see. It's been well supported through 150 years of reasearch and has no credible scientific criticism.'; Something along those lines.
I wouldn't actually write a letter to the teacher because it's not like a teacher is the only one who can teach. I'd tell my child what I believe and tell him/her that I don't believe that man came about from monkeys by chance and a series of explosions. I'd teach my child what I know to be right.
I think my child can be taught evolution vaguely but not as a fact. Teachers can teach about atheism and religion in the classroom as long as they don't say that either is fact. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions.
Evolution is only an opinion, teachers are just supposed to teach what is in the curriculum, each School Boards Curriculum should be available online, and you can find out if that is under the curriculum. I myself do not belief in the teach of something that is nonsense and unfounded, I am sure they could find there time to teach something else that is factual and worth learning. Good Luck, I never remember having to learn that in science, sounds a little far fetched to me....
As to Gypsy, evolution is NOT founded in scientific truth, that is why it is called the ';Theory of Evolution.'; Even Darwin, before he died, wrote a letter stating that he doesn't even believe for sure all that he taught, that is just a theory.
I am so priveliged to be able to send my child to private school this year (his first year). I hope that we can afford to do this every year. However, I would have to tell my child that we believe that God created the earth and all that was in it and he said that it was good. Therefore, we do not believe in evolution. I would have to tell my child that the people who wrote the science book do not believe in God and are searching for other answers to their questions. I would tell him that evolutions is just one way that some people think the world and all that are in it could have come to be.
I went 2 years to a ';Christian'; university and our science profs. taught evolution there. We argued points with the prof. to the point where he had no more answers to fight back with and eventually told us to knock it off, that we were being overbaring. Can you believe that? Instead of admitting that what he was teaching is wrong (especailly at a so-called ';Christian'; school!) he couldn't fight back anymore so he told us to knock it off. And I guess b/c he has his PHD and we were mere undergrad students, we just had to bow down and take him as gospel.
Anyway, sorry about my rant...I wouldn't write a letter to the teacher. She/he is teaching what he has to. I would write a letter to your principal, superintendant, the school board and the state. Make phone calls to your representatives. Writing a letter to the teacher isn't going to solve anything. It may even make things worse for your child. He/she may take things out on the poor kid b/c he has complaining parents.
Here is EXACTLY what I would say:
You are teaching my child something that is a theory, not scientific truth. I don't want her to be near your false teaching and I want her somewhere else during these lectures.
Now, I will not force my religion upon you, but I know it is correct by FACT. Everything I see in this world, and one day you will know too, that you were wrong.
If you refuse to do with my daughter as I say, I will enroll her in a different school, or consider home schooling.
Thank you,
___________
I DISAGREE and I disagree because no one knows if it is fact. I have true evidence of my faith, from healing an arm before my eyes to the hummingbird in my yard. This is my fact.
Scientists make up what they say is true. A lot of time, also, they say ';possibly'; or ';maybe';. PLUS a lot of things they base their things of off are from the Bible. Other religions do this, too.
Made my point. Ready for thumbs down. I know what I am doing, and that is that.
I hope to see you in Heaven.
I believe that evolution should be taught in school. Do I believe that man came from an ape? No! Why are apes not evolving into men? I do think there is an amount of evolution that takes place mainly from adapting to ones environment. Why not teach some religion origins in school, since it has been written about so much. I would let my child be taught evolution, but I would talk to them about it and religion at home afterwords.
As a teacher...parents certainly have an option
You can opt for a different set of lessons. Similar to sex ed classes. You can conscientously object to what is being taught. You can't make a teacher NOT teach the subject...but you can opt your child out of it.
Totally against anyone teaching my children evolution. I have 3 teens in high school and I've told them numerous times if the teacher ever tries to teach them evolution to tell the teacher my mom says we don't come from apes and then go to the office and call me.
Dont--just talk to your kids about it. say, do good on the tests and pay attention only to get a good grade. Dont take i up with the teacher. Most teachers dont even want to teach it. It is the criculum so they have to.
Just tell your kids that it is totally bogas and they should believe it.
Would you agree or disagree to having your child be taught evolution? Why? Explain.
Thank you for all of your opinions!Parents what would you say in a letter to a teacher that was teaching Evolution?
I would thank them for doing their job as a Science teacher - Evolution is a fact (it's the exact a to b to c to d etc... 'nitty gritty's' that's the ';theory'; part of it).Parents what would you say in a letter to a teacher that was teaching Evolution?
Wow, DUMB answer. NO FACT WHATSOEVER!
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I would thank them!!
Firstly, regardless of belief, keeping religion out of public schools. How do you think kids who are a different religion or no religion feel being taught the way of other religions? I feel that is offensive and clearly crosses the religion being kept out of the state line.
Secondly, for being reasonable and looking at all the scientific, indesputable truth that organisms need to evolve to survive on this ever changing planet. There are fossils in the rock layers, carbon dating, we've seen certain species evolve over our lifetime, common sense, comparing the similaries between different members of a species or different species, etc.
By the way, for all you who think there is only one way that would support your god, why can't he have created evolution?? Organisms would die out without being able to adapt to the world around them, couldn't it be a god given gift?
School is for learning and science, NOT religious teachings that quite frankly have little basis. Public schools should not in any way be religiously affiliated.
It is a scientific theory, so why should there be an issue with teaching a scientific theory in a science class? Why should the teachers be forced to teach something that isn't a scientific theory, but rather a religious belief? Should we then teach every single religion's creation story as well? Because that is the slippery slope that this begins to go down. And there is no problem with having a personal disagreement with the theory, but you know what, it's a personal disagreement, not one that needs to affect the entire science curriculum nation wide. If you want intelligent design taught, go to a christian school. That's what I would say.
Thank the teacher for doing their job. Evolution is every bit of a valid theory as gravity in the scientific world. There is undeniable proof. A current time example? Why does the flu virus keep coming back after we vaccinate? Because it is evolving. A strain with a mutation that allows it to survive is what is left to continue on. Now we have a new vaccination to create. As Dobzhansky said ';Nothing in Biology Makes Sense Except in the Light of Evolution'; Your child will have a more difficult time understanding things like genetics and ecology if they are not exposed to evolution. Also, if evolution being against religion is your fear, there are people who have their religion but accept evolution as the scientific theory it is. The source below is a National Geographic article addressing this. Please let your child learn about this important scientific theory.
In most cases it is not the teacher's choice what is taught or not taught in the classroom. If you have a problem with the curriculum then your letter needs to be addressed to your child's principal if it is a private school or the superintendent if it is a public school. I have worked in school systems that have avoided the issue of evolution and those that have addressed it. My job as the teacher is to inform the students of information and make sure that they understand the curriculum. The curriculum has already been written by educators with years of experience and knowledge about age-appropriate lesson planning. If your child's curriculum includes evolution, then it is because the school board (Who are in most cases elected officials) decided that was what best represented the views in your community.
I would not be against my child being taught evolution, as long as it is not presented as a fact. It's called the ';Theory of Evolution'; for a reason, and telling someone it's a fact doesn't make it one. The fact is that science has never proven it to be true. Actually, the more scientists try to find support for that theory, the more questions come up, and the less true it looks.
If schools want to teach the arguments in favor of evolution, then they ought to teach the arguments against it as well. There are MANY. If they don't present all the evidence on both sides, then they are not respecting the various religious affiliations of the students.
Regarding what I would mention to the teacher - I have a few books in my home that have quotes from respected scientists who doubt the theory of evolution, stating why. I would schedule a meeting with the teacher to respectfully share this information, remind him/her of the responsibility to teach accurate information, and encourage him/her to present the evolution as it really is - an idea that cannot be proven.
My next step would depend on the response I get. Bottom line, I would not allow my child to be taught something in school that contradicts what they are learning at home. We are Christian, and believe in Creation.
If this was in the UK, then NOT teaching evolution would be a cause for concern, and a teacher teaching creation outside RE class would be considered a nutcase.
People in some answers seem to have no grasp of the meaning of the word ';theory';. In everyday language, it means conjecture, guessing, but in scientific terms it means something else. The scientific word for conjecture is ';hypothesis';. Is it called the ';hypothesis of evolution';? No. Because in scientific terms, ';theories'; are tested mathematically, or by some other proof, or by observation or just plain logic. The ';proof'; of evolution as a theory lies in 150 years of observation, and of logic used in making sense of real evidence. It is far more than simply guesswork.
People who know absolutely nothing about scientific theories reject it off-hand purely on the basis of the word ';theory';, but would the same people reject the THEORY of Universal Gravitation? Or Pythagoras' THEOREM?
Your state board of education decides what your teacher will teach. The teacher really has no say in what will be taught in the classroom. If you want to write a letter, it should go to the school board, not the teacher.
Personally I would want my child to be taught evolution because (and I say this as someone who actually understands evolution) it is science. Creationism is no more science than astrology or necromancy or alchemy, and I wouldn't want my child learning those in school either.
They are taught the *theory* of evolution; the students are not forced to believe it. Teachers make it very clear that you must learn it, not believe in it.
Whether you want your child to believe it, to not believe it, or to figure it out on his or her own, wouldn't you want your child to understand it, first? How can you expect someone to form an educated opionion about a topic that they have been shielded from?
Come on... are you joking me? There is scientific proof that evolution exists!!!! A few hundred years ago the catholic church killed a guy for heresy because he could prove that the Earth revolved around the sun and that the Earth WASN'T the center of the universe which is what they were teaching everybody. The Catholic church refused to admit they were wrong until 1999.
I would thank the teacher for teaching such an important and interesting subject.
I would not be a happy camper if I had a child who was being taught about creationism instead of evolution.
I think the main problem with creationism is that its defenders are ignorant of what evolution really is. Most of the creationists I've heard of seem to think evolution means we ';came from monkeys'; or that we ';came from chimps';. They clearly don't understand the principles...
I would write to that teacher and tell them that since my student attends public school I have no right to assert a particular religious belief on the rest of the class.
I would tell the teacher if I was a truly concerned parent I would instruct my student about our family's beliefs at home or in a private school that eschews our beliefs. I would not waste the teacher's time with a controversy where none exists.....
What will be next...not teaching about dinosaurs (some do not believe they existed) not teaching about microscopes, atoms, biology, chemistry...etc...Many religions have feelings about those items as well...That's why there are private schools and homeschools
I wouldn't say anything. Obviously the parent in question has chosen to educate their child in a public school setting where the theory of evolution is part of the curriculum.
Now, said parents are very welcome to pull their child and send them to a private or religious school, but until then, take your child to church so they can get both points of view.
This whole argument is growing Verrrrry old.
I would write them a letter congratulating them for going over such a touchy subject. I would hope they would be knowledgeable enough in it to help the student really understand whats behind its theory. I think evolution is such an interesting topic, and touchy at that.
People should know what it is, evolution is always a possibility.
That's my opinion. Given my complete thumbs up for the thought of evolution, I am prepared for the thumbs done, from some closed minded people =)
I would thank them for teaching something that is founded in scientific proof.
Cavemen are real. Surely that is indisputable.
Current man, does not look like cavemen. Which means...we have evolved.
That in itself, proves the basis of evolution. I won't say we started as monkeys. But evolution does occur.
Therefore, it's 100% legit to teach.
(because, you know.....it makes more sense to believe a cosmic and omnipotent being slammed everything together and created reality....than to say a bunch of atoms slammed together and created reality....last I checked, we can prove atoms.....)
i would simply ask that he/she would leave god and religion out of the topic.
i wouldn't want my child to be ignorant to the subject, but i also wouldn't want my child to not believe in a religion.
something i learned at a very early age was that religion and sciences should either coexist perfectly (like god caused the big bang, and one day to him could be like millions of years to us) or that they should never intermix (study both, but don't question how they disagree with each other). the question that made it all clear to me was dinosaurs. were do they fit in with religion? you've seen their remains, how do you not believe that they didn't exist? but if they did, then on what day were they created, because i don't remember anything about them in the bible?
a believe in god is something personal, and every person has a different belief. but any religion was written by man, and mankind has made many errors, so logicaly speaking, any religion has room for errors. and it's hard to argue with evolution, especially when there is so much proof of it. but religion is something that you don't need proof of.
so to anwer your question, i would just ask that the teacher not say that religion is false, and that god doesn't exist. but i would also encourage the teacher to keep teaching evolution. and make sure that you teach your child about religion and faith at home.
';Thanks for teaching science in the classroom.
Love,
Parent';
The second you teach Creationism/Intelligent Design (call it what you will), in America, you're breaking the first amendment, as long as you're in public school. If your, child is private school, go nuts, that's where your money is going, do what you please.
I can certainly understand your concern. I'm no evolutionary biologist or anything, but in my opinion, the principles of evolution don't necessarily contradict our faith. What happens is uneducated and misinformed people who are against the faith try to use it to ';disprove'; the existence of God -- and that is just so stupid to me!
Here's my advice: Use the internet to seek out maybe a very good Christian, private high school in your city or elsewhere (for instance Episcopal High School in Houston would be a good one). Most of these schools the faculty are Christians (in many cases they actually have to acknowledge their faith before they are hired). Seek out a faculty member who teaches biology, and seek their council about your concerns. They may or may not teach the principles of evolution, but they likely have dealt with this concern (from within) and can give you intelligent and relevant advice about your concern.
Dear Sir/Madam,
I am writing to congratulate you on your great lesson plans on the subject of evolution. Now she has learned about evolution she can pass all her exams and if you can keep up all your good work she should pass the next test A*.
Yours Sincerely,
(YOUR NAME HERE)
Science lessons are for Science.
RE is for god.
As Matt said, I would tell them they need to emphasize the fact that its a theory. And hay, you people who are saying youd thank them you arent helping answer the ? because she is obviously concerned that her child is being told this stuff she doesnt believe in. We dont teach Christian 101 to you so we have the right to complain!
Thanks, Mr/Mrs/Ms Science teacher, for being scientifically accurate. Why not throw in climate change while we're at it? It's my son/daughter that will have to take care of the environment since my generation hasn't.
*not that i'm a parent, but that's what i'd say, because it's the TRUTH, PEOPLE*
Dear teacher, thank you for having some common sense.
If you do feel the need to complain because of your narrow minded opinions, you do not write to the teacher unless you know she is doing this without the authority of the school.
I would say ';Thank you for teaching my son/daughter the best explanatory framework we have for understanding most biological facts we see. It's been well supported through 150 years of reasearch and has no credible scientific criticism.'; Something along those lines.
I wouldn't actually write a letter to the teacher because it's not like a teacher is the only one who can teach. I'd tell my child what I believe and tell him/her that I don't believe that man came about from monkeys by chance and a series of explosions. I'd teach my child what I know to be right.
I think my child can be taught evolution vaguely but not as a fact. Teachers can teach about atheism and religion in the classroom as long as they don't say that either is fact. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions.
Evolution is only an opinion, teachers are just supposed to teach what is in the curriculum, each School Boards Curriculum should be available online, and you can find out if that is under the curriculum. I myself do not belief in the teach of something that is nonsense and unfounded, I am sure they could find there time to teach something else that is factual and worth learning. Good Luck, I never remember having to learn that in science, sounds a little far fetched to me....
As to Gypsy, evolution is NOT founded in scientific truth, that is why it is called the ';Theory of Evolution.'; Even Darwin, before he died, wrote a letter stating that he doesn't even believe for sure all that he taught, that is just a theory.
I am so priveliged to be able to send my child to private school this year (his first year). I hope that we can afford to do this every year. However, I would have to tell my child that we believe that God created the earth and all that was in it and he said that it was good. Therefore, we do not believe in evolution. I would have to tell my child that the people who wrote the science book do not believe in God and are searching for other answers to their questions. I would tell him that evolutions is just one way that some people think the world and all that are in it could have come to be.
I went 2 years to a ';Christian'; university and our science profs. taught evolution there. We argued points with the prof. to the point where he had no more answers to fight back with and eventually told us to knock it off, that we were being overbaring. Can you believe that? Instead of admitting that what he was teaching is wrong (especailly at a so-called ';Christian'; school!) he couldn't fight back anymore so he told us to knock it off. And I guess b/c he has his PHD and we were mere undergrad students, we just had to bow down and take him as gospel.
Anyway, sorry about my rant...I wouldn't write a letter to the teacher. She/he is teaching what he has to. I would write a letter to your principal, superintendant, the school board and the state. Make phone calls to your representatives. Writing a letter to the teacher isn't going to solve anything. It may even make things worse for your child. He/she may take things out on the poor kid b/c he has complaining parents.
Here is EXACTLY what I would say:
You are teaching my child something that is a theory, not scientific truth. I don't want her to be near your false teaching and I want her somewhere else during these lectures.
Now, I will not force my religion upon you, but I know it is correct by FACT. Everything I see in this world, and one day you will know too, that you were wrong.
If you refuse to do with my daughter as I say, I will enroll her in a different school, or consider home schooling.
Thank you,
___________
I DISAGREE and I disagree because no one knows if it is fact. I have true evidence of my faith, from healing an arm before my eyes to the hummingbird in my yard. This is my fact.
Scientists make up what they say is true. A lot of time, also, they say ';possibly'; or ';maybe';. PLUS a lot of things they base their things of off are from the Bible. Other religions do this, too.
Made my point. Ready for thumbs down. I know what I am doing, and that is that.
I hope to see you in Heaven.
I believe that evolution should be taught in school. Do I believe that man came from an ape? No! Why are apes not evolving into men? I do think there is an amount of evolution that takes place mainly from adapting to ones environment. Why not teach some religion origins in school, since it has been written about so much. I would let my child be taught evolution, but I would talk to them about it and religion at home afterwords.
As a teacher...parents certainly have an option
You can opt for a different set of lessons. Similar to sex ed classes. You can conscientously object to what is being taught. You can't make a teacher NOT teach the subject...but you can opt your child out of it.
Totally against anyone teaching my children evolution. I have 3 teens in high school and I've told them numerous times if the teacher ever tries to teach them evolution to tell the teacher my mom says we don't come from apes and then go to the office and call me.
Dont--just talk to your kids about it. say, do good on the tests and pay attention only to get a good grade. Dont take i up with the teacher. Most teachers dont even want to teach it. It is the criculum so they have to.
Just tell your kids that it is totally bogas and they should believe it.
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