I'm a single mom with one child and would like to know what is the minimum amount of income I would need to make in order to qualify for earned income credit on that child?Whats the minimum amount of income a single parent with a child to file for a tax return?
If you earned between $1 and $50, you would get $9 in Earned Income Credit (EIC). The amount of EIC increases as the amount of earned income increases - until you hit $8050 in earned income. Between $8050 and $14,850, the EIC amount is $2747. Once you earn more than $14,850, the EIC amount slowly decreases until you hit $32,000, at which point it is phased out completely.
All of these figures are based on filing as Single or Head of Household, with one child qualifying for EIC. They are also the figures that would have been used to file a 2006 return - the 2007 EIC table is not yet published, but will be fairly similar to this.
Hope this helps!Whats the minimum amount of income a single parent with a child to file for a tax return?
to get the max its about $14,000 - $15,000
i think $7,000 is when you start getting eligible for the earned income
but it could change for the next year
Friday, November 25, 2011
My parents have forced me to take vyvanse the adhd proactive drug. How can i not loose weight?
I really dont want to loose weight what can i do?My parents have forced me to take vyvanse the adhd proactive drug. How can i not loose weight?
I have the same problem. I take Vyvanse and my appetite is suppressed while on it. What I do now is just force myself to eat even when I am not hungry. As my doctor said it is not that you aren't hungry its that your body doesn't think its hungry. So far my weight has stayed about the same.My parents have forced me to take vyvanse the adhd proactive drug. How can i not loose weight?
Make sure to keep on eating 3 regular healthy meals a day. Try taking healthy yet high energy snacks like almonds.
Hopefully, with time you'll get used to the medication.
Vyvanse like all stimulants is a powerful medication. If you are suffering from ADHD symptoms, it could be quite useful.
I have the same problem. I take Vyvanse and my appetite is suppressed while on it. What I do now is just force myself to eat even when I am not hungry. As my doctor said it is not that you aren't hungry its that your body doesn't think its hungry. So far my weight has stayed about the same.My parents have forced me to take vyvanse the adhd proactive drug. How can i not loose weight?
Make sure to keep on eating 3 regular healthy meals a day. Try taking healthy yet high energy snacks like almonds.
Hopefully, with time you'll get used to the medication.
Vyvanse like all stimulants is a powerful medication. If you are suffering from ADHD symptoms, it could be quite useful.
My parents are financially irresponsible and want me to cosign a personal loan. What should I do?
My parents (in-law's, actually) are in their late 50's, and should be preparing for retirement. In stead, they are spending erratically, racking up massive credit card debt, remodeling their home, etc. Yesterday they asked me to cosign a personal loan, which they plan to use to pay back a payday advance from a predatory lender. How to I help my parents without jeopardizing my financial security, too? Any money I give (I don't lend money to family) is that much less I have for my kid's college accounts.My parents are financially irresponsible and want me to cosign a personal loan. What should I do?
Oh boy, what a mess to be in. On the one hand, you want to help and be accommodating since after all, these are your wife's parents. On the other hand, if you say ';no'; you could strain relations between you and the in-laws, not to mention your wife.
However, to protect your own credit, absolutely do not co-sign on a personal loan ~ever~ with these people. From what I've read, they will probably default on the loan leaving you stuck with paying the tab if you want to preserve your credit. If you want to give them the money that's fine; however, this sets up a precedence that you will give them money when asked, therefore enabling them to continue spending foolishly.
My ex is like your in-laws and my grown sons have a great way of handling their dad's financial irresponsibility:
First, they never hand their dad cash but will buy him groceries or fill up his gas tank whenever he asks for money. If he asks for additional funds, they always reply ';Sorry Dad, that's all I have to spare.';
Secondly, when ever their Dad runs short, they will sit down with him and discuss his spending habits %26amp; bills, and help him develop a strategy for reducing debt. This debt reduction plan may even include having a garage sale, or selling off a car.
You could try this with your inlaws, and even offer to pay for them to go in for credit counseling, but never, ever give them cash or co-sign on a loan. Once you start, you'll be setting yourself up for a lifetime of phone calls and visits from them whining for financial help.
My parents are financially irresponsible and want me to cosign a personal loan. What should I do?
Don't do it. Tell them you don't lend money to anyone, family included. They have made their bed and they should lie in it.
If they try to manipulate you, just tell them you'll prevent them from seeing their grandchildren.
You shouldn't touch this co-signer thingy with a 12 foot barge pole. The only family you are responsible for are the ones under your own roof.
Best wishes, and be strong.
Marcus,
NO, NO, NO and NO! Please do not cosign. It is like co-signing for an inexperienced teen. Practice tough love, much as they would for you if your roles were reversed. Sometimes you have to let them fall clear to the bottom before humility and life kicks in some reality. Your wife will have to understand. Refer them to a debt counselor/consolidation agency and tell them the buck stops here and now. They will be upset with you...What can you really say? I feel for you because you are between a rock and a hard place. Suggest mom and dad in law, health permitting, get a second job. I wish you loads of luck.
DO NOT DO IT! The fact that they need a cosigner at all at their age says it all. You would be jeopardizing your family's future. If you decide to give (lend) them a large amount of money, ask for a Second Trust deed against their house. That way, when they pass away, you may have an opportunity to recoup some of that money.
DO NOT DO IT!!! If they don't repay the loan, the lender will come after YOU and it will negatively affect your credit and will hurt your chances of your financial security in the future. As you said, they are very financially irresponsible and can get you down that path too...
Do not co-sign. Distance yourself from them as much as you can
Do NOT do it!!!!! In their 50s and needing a cosigner? That is sad.
Under no circumstances should you co-sign a personal loan for your inlaws. You already know that chances are they will default on this loan too and then you would be held liable 100% to pay it back.
Not to mention their ';late payments'; and default could hurt your credit score.
Simply tell them a little white lie:
Mainly that your own credit isn't good enough to qualify you as a Co-signer. Case closed. Let them move on to the next prospective family victim.
They will never learn financial responsibility if the family keeps bailing them out. And one more thing.... Never do financial deals with your family and best friends. It has an 80% chance of ruining your relationship with your inlaws and friends.
If you have the cash and feel sorry for them then send a money order to the loan sharks to keep their payments up to date.
But make sure that there is no way that this could be interpreted as you assuming responsibility for their payments. One reason for using a money order and not your personal checks.
Oh boy, what a mess to be in. On the one hand, you want to help and be accommodating since after all, these are your wife's parents. On the other hand, if you say ';no'; you could strain relations between you and the in-laws, not to mention your wife.
However, to protect your own credit, absolutely do not co-sign on a personal loan ~ever~ with these people. From what I've read, they will probably default on the loan leaving you stuck with paying the tab if you want to preserve your credit. If you want to give them the money that's fine; however, this sets up a precedence that you will give them money when asked, therefore enabling them to continue spending foolishly.
My ex is like your in-laws and my grown sons have a great way of handling their dad's financial irresponsibility:
First, they never hand their dad cash but will buy him groceries or fill up his gas tank whenever he asks for money. If he asks for additional funds, they always reply ';Sorry Dad, that's all I have to spare.';
Secondly, when ever their Dad runs short, they will sit down with him and discuss his spending habits %26amp; bills, and help him develop a strategy for reducing debt. This debt reduction plan may even include having a garage sale, or selling off a car.
You could try this with your inlaws, and even offer to pay for them to go in for credit counseling, but never, ever give them cash or co-sign on a loan. Once you start, you'll be setting yourself up for a lifetime of phone calls and visits from them whining for financial help.
My parents are financially irresponsible and want me to cosign a personal loan. What should I do?
Don't do it. Tell them you don't lend money to anyone, family included. They have made their bed and they should lie in it.
If they try to manipulate you, just tell them you'll prevent them from seeing their grandchildren.
You shouldn't touch this co-signer thingy with a 12 foot barge pole. The only family you are responsible for are the ones under your own roof.
Best wishes, and be strong.
Marcus,
NO, NO, NO and NO! Please do not cosign. It is like co-signing for an inexperienced teen. Practice tough love, much as they would for you if your roles were reversed. Sometimes you have to let them fall clear to the bottom before humility and life kicks in some reality. Your wife will have to understand. Refer them to a debt counselor/consolidation agency and tell them the buck stops here and now. They will be upset with you...What can you really say? I feel for you because you are between a rock and a hard place. Suggest mom and dad in law, health permitting, get a second job. I wish you loads of luck.
DO NOT DO IT! The fact that they need a cosigner at all at their age says it all. You would be jeopardizing your family's future. If you decide to give (lend) them a large amount of money, ask for a Second Trust deed against their house. That way, when they pass away, you may have an opportunity to recoup some of that money.
DO NOT DO IT!!! If they don't repay the loan, the lender will come after YOU and it will negatively affect your credit and will hurt your chances of your financial security in the future. As you said, they are very financially irresponsible and can get you down that path too...
Do not co-sign. Distance yourself from them as much as you can
Do NOT do it!!!!! In their 50s and needing a cosigner? That is sad.
Under no circumstances should you co-sign a personal loan for your inlaws. You already know that chances are they will default on this loan too and then you would be held liable 100% to pay it back.
Not to mention their ';late payments'; and default could hurt your credit score.
Simply tell them a little white lie:
Mainly that your own credit isn't good enough to qualify you as a Co-signer. Case closed. Let them move on to the next prospective family victim.
They will never learn financial responsibility if the family keeps bailing them out. And one more thing.... Never do financial deals with your family and best friends. It has an 80% chance of ruining your relationship with your inlaws and friends.
If you have the cash and feel sorry for them then send a money order to the loan sharks to keep their payments up to date.
But make sure that there is no way that this could be interpreted as you assuming responsibility for their payments. One reason for using a money order and not your personal checks.
Are parents allowed to go with a person to the boarding area of a plane?
I was just wondering if that's possible,because I'll probably end up getting lost if I have to go on my own after security. Is there a certain age where a person can't do that?Are parents allowed to go with a person to the boarding area of a plane?
For teens under 18, usually 1 parent is allowed to go to the gate. Stop at the airline ticket counter for the parent to get a pass to show at the security checkpoint.Are parents allowed to go with a person to the boarding area of a plane?
Yes parents can go with you to the gate. The just need to get a security clearance pass. It is very easy. After 12 you can fly alone, without having to have a stewardess stay with you, but your parents can still walk you to the gate. I am assuming that this is until you are 17. My daughter is 15 and I can still get a security pass to walk her to the gate when she goes to visit her dad. Also, the parent meeting you can also get a pass to meet you at the gate, although it is usually easier to just meet at baggage claim. Don't worry about it!
your parent or guardian can go past the security but not into the airplane to tell u bye. u have to be ten or older to fly by your self.
If you are not travelling then you cannot go beyond security.skin
For teens under 18, usually 1 parent is allowed to go to the gate. Stop at the airline ticket counter for the parent to get a pass to show at the security checkpoint.Are parents allowed to go with a person to the boarding area of a plane?
Yes parents can go with you to the gate. The just need to get a security clearance pass. It is very easy. After 12 you can fly alone, without having to have a stewardess stay with you, but your parents can still walk you to the gate. I am assuming that this is until you are 17. My daughter is 15 and I can still get a security pass to walk her to the gate when she goes to visit her dad. Also, the parent meeting you can also get a pass to meet you at the gate, although it is usually easier to just meet at baggage claim. Don't worry about it!
your parent or guardian can go past the security but not into the airplane to tell u bye. u have to be ten or older to fly by your self.
If you are not travelling then you cannot go beyond security.
How to hide a lip piercing from my parents?
Don't tell me not to do it because I already did it. Don't tell me to fess up either because I won't. Please help me people!
Just some ideas of how to hide it if only for a few days. I've heard of plastic retainers but what are they, by the way?How to hide a lip piercing from my parents?
Use a retainer. Like people said it's not good to put them in untill its healed, but it should be fine. When I got my lip pierced I put a retainer in it after a week of getting it pierced because I had work, and it worked fine and didn't affect my lip. The only thing you want to avoide is changing it all the time. You really shouldn't be going back and forth from the ring to a retainer until its healed. It makes the healing go slower since your always messing with it. And you have to clean it a lot more. But like I said I changed mine quit often for work and yeah it healed a little slower but it was all good.How to hide a lip piercing from my parents?
took the words right out of my mouth!! a plastic retainer is just like a regular lip ring accept its clear and flat and somebody has to literally be staring you down to see it! i think walmart has them! but go to your local piercing place and ask they should have them also!
also try medical tape and make up! my gf hid her nose ring for a month by doing this! basically you take a small piece of white medical tape over the lip stud and put foundation on top of it works every time. and again someone has to be literally staring you down to notice! good luck!
You don't.
If people can't notice a piece of tape on your face simply because it's covered by foundation, then they're blind. Who pierces their face and then after the fact tries to come up with a way to hide it from their parents? A smart person would've tried to think up a plan of attack beforehand. And then realized that it's stupid and not done it. Oh well, we can't all be smart.
ummmmm..........oh you can hide it at your friends house if she has a ring pierce thats ok to hide it there because there parents would be like what is this yadeyayayayade and you can take it of,put lotion or petroleuom jelly so your lip wont look red and junk then they would act like nothing hppened
get the smallest earring it possible, and of a light shade, then put cover up on it. When your parents ask, say it's a bad pimple. It may work for a while, but you can't hide a lip piercing forever.
ok i know this is going to sound stupid but it's the only thing i can think of right now lol... but a bandage over it then tell them you somehow cut your lip and if they ask to see just say it hurts to take it off.:)
You can't put a plastic retainer in it until it's healed.
They're clear studs,you can't see them but because they're plastic are no good for a healing piercing.
I honestly don't know how you can hide it.
you don't want to cover it up with makeup, because it could get into your lip and make it infected. i really don't know how you're planning on hiding it, its on your face, come on!
easyy peasy,
buy a clear bar from your piercer that you can screw the ball on the end of..
then just take the ball off around your parents.
thats how i hide mine from my teachers at school.
works so much better than a retainer =]
this is just really dumb.
its highly impossible.
small piece of medical tape and makeup!
Just some ideas of how to hide it if only for a few days. I've heard of plastic retainers but what are they, by the way?How to hide a lip piercing from my parents?
Use a retainer. Like people said it's not good to put them in untill its healed, but it should be fine. When I got my lip pierced I put a retainer in it after a week of getting it pierced because I had work, and it worked fine and didn't affect my lip. The only thing you want to avoide is changing it all the time. You really shouldn't be going back and forth from the ring to a retainer until its healed. It makes the healing go slower since your always messing with it. And you have to clean it a lot more. But like I said I changed mine quit often for work and yeah it healed a little slower but it was all good.How to hide a lip piercing from my parents?
took the words right out of my mouth!! a plastic retainer is just like a regular lip ring accept its clear and flat and somebody has to literally be staring you down to see it! i think walmart has them! but go to your local piercing place and ask they should have them also!
also try medical tape and make up! my gf hid her nose ring for a month by doing this! basically you take a small piece of white medical tape over the lip stud and put foundation on top of it works every time. and again someone has to be literally staring you down to notice! good luck!
You don't.
If people can't notice a piece of tape on your face simply because it's covered by foundation, then they're blind. Who pierces their face and then after the fact tries to come up with a way to hide it from their parents? A smart person would've tried to think up a plan of attack beforehand. And then realized that it's stupid and not done it. Oh well, we can't all be smart.
ummmmm..........oh you can hide it at your friends house if she has a ring pierce thats ok to hide it there because there parents would be like what is this yadeyayayayade and you can take it of,put lotion or petroleuom jelly so your lip wont look red and junk then they would act like nothing hppened
get the smallest earring it possible, and of a light shade, then put cover up on it. When your parents ask, say it's a bad pimple. It may work for a while, but you can't hide a lip piercing forever.
ok i know this is going to sound stupid but it's the only thing i can think of right now lol... but a bandage over it then tell them you somehow cut your lip and if they ask to see just say it hurts to take it off.:)
You can't put a plastic retainer in it until it's healed.
They're clear studs,you can't see them but because they're plastic are no good for a healing piercing.
I honestly don't know how you can hide it.
you don't want to cover it up with makeup, because it could get into your lip and make it infected. i really don't know how you're planning on hiding it, its on your face, come on!
easyy peasy,
buy a clear bar from your piercer that you can screw the ball on the end of..
then just take the ball off around your parents.
thats how i hide mine from my teachers at school.
works so much better than a retainer =]
this is just really dumb.
its highly impossible.
small piece of medical tape and makeup!
Our parents want me and my friend to have a structured activity after we got caught with alocohol?
They think that our boredom leads us to risky behavior. Both 15, girls. Any ideas?Our parents want me and my friend to have a structured activity after we got caught with alocohol?
I would say taht your parents are right. You have lost their trust for now, and it will take a long time to build that trust back up. Beleive me, you could have a lot worse 'punishments' thant his. Feel lucky, and also feel loved. Your parents could hav sent you t oa 'boot camp', or worse.Our parents want me and my friend to have a structured activity after we got caught with alocohol?
Read a book.
I'm serious! There's so much on this planet we can be learning instead of wasting our time, money and health...
There are so many things we can do to better ourselves and the world we live in.
Educate yourselves on the subject of alcohol (so you're not just doing it 'just because') or do types of community services.
Do anything as long as it's positive and productive.
Also, don't forget to thank your parents for their advice :)
I quote:
';Good Alchol is nothing but a Losing Poison !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
GET A STRUCTURED activity';
Actually Jennifer, alcohol is good for you, but drinking too much is bad for you. (Sorry to go off topic, I just wanted to point that out)
Yes, parents are correct. Seems that you and your friends make bad decisons when you have free time. You need more structure so that you will live to have a more happy and productive life.
Why not play soccer, tennis, or vollyball.
1. get magazines and cut out words, letters, or pictures to make collages.
2. if you have netflix, order a dance or work out video and try it.
3. bake a cake
4. redecorate your room
Yes it does. Its been proven to lead to pot, alcohol and other drugs. Find an activity to do and when your older you can drink.
Volunteer at the local animal clinic or animal shelter. They always need volunteers. Who doesn't like helping kittens and puppies?!
I don't think thats true. I know alot of very busy girls who go to dance 3 hours a day and they're always caught drinking. How about you just don't drink!!!
i agree - volunteer with a group in the town
or join a team (ball or hockey)
or, get jobs and get paid for your time. Save your money and go travel!
Dog walking? Babysitting? Volunteering at youth facilities in the area helping younger kids?
Go wash floors at the local detox facility.
Good Alchol is nothing but a Losing Poison !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
GET A STRUCTURED activity
Volunteering or Babysitting
I agree with your parents.
Try getting a job together, or get involved in a club at school.
Volunteer or get a job.
go to someone else's house to drink.
I would say taht your parents are right. You have lost their trust for now, and it will take a long time to build that trust back up. Beleive me, you could have a lot worse 'punishments' thant his. Feel lucky, and also feel loved. Your parents could hav sent you t oa 'boot camp', or worse.Our parents want me and my friend to have a structured activity after we got caught with alocohol?
Read a book.
I'm serious! There's so much on this planet we can be learning instead of wasting our time, money and health...
There are so many things we can do to better ourselves and the world we live in.
Educate yourselves on the subject of alcohol (so you're not just doing it 'just because') or do types of community services.
Do anything as long as it's positive and productive.
Also, don't forget to thank your parents for their advice :)
I quote:
';Good Alchol is nothing but a Losing Poison !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
GET A STRUCTURED activity';
Actually Jennifer, alcohol is good for you, but drinking too much is bad for you. (Sorry to go off topic, I just wanted to point that out)
Yes, parents are correct. Seems that you and your friends make bad decisons when you have free time. You need more structure so that you will live to have a more happy and productive life.
Why not play soccer, tennis, or vollyball.
1. get magazines and cut out words, letters, or pictures to make collages.
2. if you have netflix, order a dance or work out video and try it.
3. bake a cake
4. redecorate your room
Yes it does. Its been proven to lead to pot, alcohol and other drugs. Find an activity to do and when your older you can drink.
Volunteer at the local animal clinic or animal shelter. They always need volunteers. Who doesn't like helping kittens and puppies?!
I don't think thats true. I know alot of very busy girls who go to dance 3 hours a day and they're always caught drinking. How about you just don't drink!!!
i agree - volunteer with a group in the town
or join a team (ball or hockey)
or, get jobs and get paid for your time. Save your money and go travel!
Dog walking? Babysitting? Volunteering at youth facilities in the area helping younger kids?
Go wash floors at the local detox facility.
Good Alchol is nothing but a Losing Poison !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
GET A STRUCTURED activity
Volunteering or Babysitting
I agree with your parents.
Try getting a job together, or get involved in a club at school.
Volunteer or get a job.
go to someone else's house to drink.
How many chromosomes and chromosome pairs does the Parent cell have before undergoing mitosis?
Also i need to know how many choromosomes and chromosome pairs the Parent cell has before undergoing meiosis.How many chromosomes and chromosome pairs does the Parent cell have before undergoing mitosis?
If we are talking about humans, then all cells except the sex cells (and the red blood cells that lose their nuclei) have 46 chromosomes or 23 pairs. That is written as 2N=46, N=23. Mitosis is a process where you start with one cell, and end with two, and the two new cells have the same types and numbers of chromosomes than the original cell.
Meiosis is a different process, where you start with 46 chromosomes and 23 pairs, and end up with cells (gametes) with 23 chromosomes and one chromosome from each pair.
If we are talking about humans, then all cells except the sex cells (and the red blood cells that lose their nuclei) have 46 chromosomes or 23 pairs. That is written as 2N=46, N=23. Mitosis is a process where you start with one cell, and end with two, and the two new cells have the same types and numbers of chromosomes than the original cell.
Meiosis is a different process, where you start with 46 chromosomes and 23 pairs, and end up with cells (gametes) with 23 chromosomes and one chromosome from each pair.
To all parents - If your child is undecided about a career choice. What about paying to shadow a professional?
I'm starting a company and need to determine if parents or even high schooler's themselves are willing to pay a company to set them up with a professional in a field their interested in, they shadow this professional to determine if it's truly the right career for them before entering college. It might open their eyes, potentially preventing a career choice mistake.
Please help me out!To all parents - If your child is undecided about a career choice. What about paying to shadow a professional?
Nice idea, but a lot of people will do this for free. My son shadowed all over the place and nobody charged us. And it was a great way for him to learn things he thought he was interested in, he actually no longer wants any part of, and other things, he shadowed several more times to get a better flavor for it.To all parents - If your child is undecided about a career choice. What about paying to shadow a professional?
I agree with everybody else. You should never have to pay money to have your kid shadow a professional. People should care enough about the development and success of the next generation. Not sure how much this will help but here is a link I found.
I don't think that you need to pay for that. Many companies will do information interviews and shadowing at no cost.
Good idea
Bad implementation if charged
A lot of high schools and colleges already have programs that do this sort of thing for free.
No, I wouldn't pay. He'll get some work experience through his school, and it's free.
Please help me out!To all parents - If your child is undecided about a career choice. What about paying to shadow a professional?
Nice idea, but a lot of people will do this for free. My son shadowed all over the place and nobody charged us. And it was a great way for him to learn things he thought he was interested in, he actually no longer wants any part of, and other things, he shadowed several more times to get a better flavor for it.To all parents - If your child is undecided about a career choice. What about paying to shadow a professional?
I agree with everybody else. You should never have to pay money to have your kid shadow a professional. People should care enough about the development and success of the next generation. Not sure how much this will help but here is a link I found.
I don't think that you need to pay for that. Many companies will do information interviews and shadowing at no cost.
Good idea
Bad implementation if charged
A lot of high schools and colleges already have programs that do this sort of thing for free.
No, I wouldn't pay. He'll get some work experience through his school, and it's free.
Whats one of the best ways for a young parent to go when saving for your childs collage fund?
I am putting $100 dollars a month in my saving account! But is there a way where I could gain more growth than doing it like that!Whats one of the best ways for a young parent to go when saving for your childs collage fund?
Look into a 529 plan. Each state has its own plan. And you can use any plan in any state regardless of where you live. You receive preferential tax treatment, much like a Roth IRA. I chose the utah plan for my son. There's some links below that should help you.Whats one of the best ways for a young parent to go when saving for your childs collage fund?
In Canada,opt for a Registered Education fund.The government kicks in 20% of what you save,no better investment than that.Secondly,the interest or growth is taxed to your child when they get it out for their college education which usually is at a zero tax rate as they are not earning enough.
You should be saving for yor retirement first. Students can get financial help later when the time comes. I would open a savings account that offers a higher interest rate then the average small town bank. For example..ING direct or Wamu now offer a little over 4.50% APY.
Open a 529 plan. Every state has one and several states have 2 or 3 plans. Google college savings plans and look for 529. The money grows tax free as long as it's used for college.
You want to open a 529 College plan. This way you can pick a wide array of investments that grow tax free! Once your child is ready for college, all funds may be used tax free for any college expense.
As a bonus, some states let you use your contributions as a tax write-off at the end of the year! Check out this link and look around.
I like in Arkansas. The state lets me deduct up to $5000 off my taxes each year! I have been maxing this out and it makes for happy times come tax season.
Look into a 529 plan. Each state has its own plan. And you can use any plan in any state regardless of where you live. You receive preferential tax treatment, much like a Roth IRA. I chose the utah plan for my son. There's some links below that should help you.Whats one of the best ways for a young parent to go when saving for your childs collage fund?
In Canada,opt for a Registered Education fund.The government kicks in 20% of what you save,no better investment than that.Secondly,the interest or growth is taxed to your child when they get it out for their college education which usually is at a zero tax rate as they are not earning enough.
You should be saving for yor retirement first. Students can get financial help later when the time comes. I would open a savings account that offers a higher interest rate then the average small town bank. For example..ING direct or Wamu now offer a little over 4.50% APY.
Open a 529 plan. Every state has one and several states have 2 or 3 plans. Google college savings plans and look for 529. The money grows tax free as long as it's used for college.
You want to open a 529 College plan. This way you can pick a wide array of investments that grow tax free! Once your child is ready for college, all funds may be used tax free for any college expense.
As a bonus, some states let you use your contributions as a tax write-off at the end of the year! Check out this link and look around.
I like in Arkansas. The state lets me deduct up to $5000 off my taxes each year! I have been maxing this out and it makes for happy times come tax season.
What ideas can yall think of, to allow both parents to keep working FT and raise a baby?
Just trying to find a solution for mostly women so they don't have to drop or go PT ( that affect pay- and promotion) there hard fought for careers to become SAHM ?
What ideas can yall think of, to allow both parents to keep working FT and raise a baby?
I have a great idea, that parents can have the baby, and then have the babies go to daycare FT. The parents can work all week, fine dine, shop and be fab, and then on week-ends the children can come for lunch or dinner. Then be returned to the daycare, because we don't want the parents to miss out on all the vacations, sales, wine and cheese parties that they deserve. They deserve it right?
Felix yummi below-a baby's first crucial weeks are the first 260What ideas can yall think of, to allow both parents to keep working FT and raise a baby?
In all honesty, why are you thinking of having a baby and having both parents working? The only thing you'll have in common with it will be your genetics but thats as far as it goes. Babies require unbelievable amounts of affection and support.
The first answerer said for one of you to work days and the other nights. I know the baby would suffer, as would your relationship, and your sleep, and probably your jobs aswell. What if the baby has colic? It's quite common. You'll might get about 3 hours sleep a night too and you need to be able to cope.
Daycare is the only answer with a tiny bit of common sense, but can't it wait. My son isn't ready for daycare at 16 months yet (I think another year would be about right). Also I would think of the effects of it. The nanny probably won't be as attached as most mothers would be. Also if she/he looks after the baby as the main care giver, wouldn't the child be devistated if she moved away, left town, changed job or whatever. Can you think back to school when so many of the children who were disruptive or had bad grades, had parents that divorced.
Childcare needs to be taken seriously. If you are with a women who really demands to go out and work, I think she's going to get a reality check when it comes. I would suggest to split the time at home if she feels so strongly about it until the baby is at least 18 months.
Idea 1: Stop thinking of this as always 100% the women's responsibility. It takes two to make a baby.
Idea 2: On-site child care. Civilized countries have this, and it works well.
Idea 3: Stop penalizing any parent who spends time caring for their off-spring. Unless everyone is willing to say that this generation of babies is to be the last generation of humans on Earth, it needs to be possible for parents to parent.
Working opposite shifts doesn't work either. One reason is that the parents would not have many chances to see each other but another is that the person who works the later shift will have trouble getting enough sleep. I worked the graveyard shift for a year and that was the main problem for me. It's very noisy outside during the day. Not only do you have planes flying overhead but also you keep hearing the sounds of car alarms, traffic, weed whackers, construction equipment, and the beeping of trucks backing up. Then if you have children coming home from school, they make a lot of noise even when you ask them to be quiet when they come in. I used to tell my daughters not to bang on the front door when they got home but they always did it anyway.
Since most of the world can't afford to ';choose';, I find it quite silly. there is nothing wrong with daycare, if you personally visit a lot of them, just drop by at odd times, and see what is really going on, and also go at check-in and check-out times, and quiz the parents about how they feel about their daycare, without the employees in earshot, you can find a good one. Expensive private ';schools'; teach the same stuff, and don't guarantee that the teachers are any more loving or caring than the cheaper daycares. Children that are lucky enough to have a parent at home, often end up in kindergarten without any of the social skills that they would have learned by being around other kids in a daycare setting. I knew some kids in my son's kindergarten, that couldn't even grasp the waiting in line concept for the water fountain, or cried all day, because they had never been separated from their parents all day. Daycare helps these things happen before they are in real school, these days kindergarten goes straight into real teaching, whereas when I was litte, it was used as the separation learning time, but these days they expect all the children to have already acheived a different level. My child grew up to be an honor's student, with advanced placement, and very happy. Daycare did not adversely affect him at all. Call your church, do they have a daycare? Good luck, don't let anyone make you feel like you should have to give up your job, I had no choice if I wanted to feed my child, but it is still a good thing.
Well, other than paying someone else to look after your children, or possibly get a relative to look after them for free, I don't know what solutions there are. I don't particularly see why there should be any other solutions.
Personally, I think if a woman is set on having a full-time career, she would be better off not having children and just concentrating on the career. ';He travels fastes who travels alone, and that goes double for women'; as Florence King put it.
In my situation, the daddy's working full time, and I'm currently at home for the first few crucial weeks. As my baby is getting older and enjoys interacting with more people, my mother said she would look after him for 3 or 4 days while I'm at work, if it's not at a time that the dad's at home. I like that idea because I still get to see my fiance just as much, plus my baby gets time with his grandmother without spending TOO much time away from me.
How bout we focus on the child for a moment, instead of the parents. Who would the child prefer to be raising them? Some stranger or extended family member? Or one of the parents?
I'm not sure about you, but I can't think of anything healthier for the well being of a child - especially a baby - than to have a parent with them...nurturing and caring for their needs.
I'm sorry to be contrary, but I don't see that we need to be focussing on the parents' needs in this discussion - because really, thats all we ever really see. I would much rather see a discussion where we look to solutions to allow for one (father OR mother) parent to be home with the child. And if they aren't willing to do that - tell me - why did they want the child in the first place????
I talking with parents - new parents, in particular - we hear all kinds of stories about how changing the experience is, and how it is the greatest thing to ever happen to them. Funny - it wouldn't seem that way by how many are willing to move heaven and earth to keep their precious careers...hmmmm...
And - just to avoid all the nay-sayers....I'm not talking about those folks who NEED to work in order to keep a roof over their heads. Although, it does boggle the mind to see them having children when they are barely making ends meet as just a couple...
I think it can totally be done (I do it and coach plenty of women who do it), and here are some top tips that can help make this work (caveat here is that partner must be a true 50/50 partner in the deal):
1.Identify and stick to your priorities: Take the time with your partner to make a list of tasks you must accomplish weekly, monthly, and longer (quarterly or annually). With each item on your “must” list, include a deadline or a clear time commitment.
2.Be organized: Use the list you generated in #1 to organize your life and calendar. Email systems, phones, and PDAs can be a great help in this endeavor and travel with you. Coordinate your calendar with your partner or spouse to make sure all the tasks at home get covered. Discuss and develop a system for splitting up the domestic musts. For example, my husband and I have 2 kids and both work full-time. We’ve divvied up the weekly chores such that he does and folds all the wash and I do all the shopping and cooking.
3. Expect the Unexpected: Some morning when you or your partner has a really important meeting at work or a deadline, you’ll wake up to a flooded basement or a vomiting child and someone has to take one for the team. Agree in advance that you will trade off these sacrifice days, even though it will never be convenient for either of you. Keep track of theses days, and remember to respect one another’s careers!!! Of course, if its “your day” and your partner has a job interview for a great new position and you’re not under the gun, be flexible and thoughtful and be open to switching things around a bit- in other words, use common sense and be nice.
4. Save time by spending a little more money—In the long run, you have only two things to spend-time and money. If you want to save on one, you'll have to spend the other. Therefore, think seriously about investing in services that take care of some of the chores, such as housecleaning. Even having your house cleaned professionally once a month is a big help, and saves you a bunch of time! Many cities also have grocery delivery services that allow you to order groceries online and have them delivered to your home for a small (~10 dollars) fee.
5. Learn to say no—This goes for work and school. Clearly, there are some things you can’t say “no” to, such as when your boss asks you to do an important task or your baby needs to go to the doctor, but there are plenty of things you can say no to. One big one we’ve negotiated with our kids now that they're older is the number of non-school activities they do. Although there are nearly endless options and interests for kids in this arena, our kids get to choose 2 non-school activities (including weekend activities) each semester or school year. This reduces the chaos of oversheduling them and us, and assures that the kids have sufficient time for school work and just “hanging out”.
6. Ask for help—When there’s too much to do, ask for help at home or at work. This totally goes against the “Superparent” self-concept many of us have for ourselves, but we all know, deep-down, that we cannot do it all well all the time. One life-saver arrangement for our family is trading off care with another family on teacher in-service days at school. This reduces by half the number of days my husband and I have to cover when the kids are not in school, but still allows us to take advantage of some of those days to spend time with our kids and their friends.
6. Be kind to yourself and others- Remember the Golden Rule “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you?” Cliché as it may sound, I repeat this to myself frequently when I feel stressed, crabby, or ready to make a snarky remark. This goes double for your spouse or partner; you two are on the same team, and teams never win when there is infighting and dissent among the ranks. Be sure to take care of your relationship by making time together without kids, and without each other sometimes- everyone needs some “me” time, and no one more so that working parents!
This is a long answer, but for me and many women I know, this works. Daycare may still need to be part of the equation, but even that can be negotiated if you and your spouse have a family-freindly policy; flextime is your freind!
You know, in other cultures, it would be normal for both parents to work and the kids to stay with a stay at home aunt, or grandmother. Of course, other cultures have the elderly live at home, and not warehoused in nursing homes......
I was sent to my grandparents full time for the first 5 years of my life. I missed my mom, but I got full time, one on one education. I went to kindergarden able to read, name all of crayola's colors,print my name, say my numbers to 100 and add numbers ect. I have always found school easy and I credit my very patient grandparents who taught me instead of propping me in front of the tv
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To the people saying that the ';mom'; should get a reality check and stay with the baby.... that would have been great, but then we would have had nothing to eat. Welcome to reality. And please, refrain from calling me some kind of ';accident'; or ';unwanted.'; My mom tells me all the time the happiest day of her life was when I was born, and she would have given ANYTHING to be at home with me. It just wasn't possible.
And my primary care giver was my grand-father.... I have never really felt that I was deprived somehow because my mom didn't stay home with me for the first 18 months of my life.... I never felt that my mother had nothing more to offer society than being my caregiver..... and I was that obnoxious girl in elementary school that got all those good citizenship awards lol!
OH! and to the poster splitting time with her fiance and the baby's grandmother - good for you! Friends of mine are solving their infant-care delima that way - by sharing the time, they can both work 30hrs/wk, and the baby get to see Grandma! It's work, but I think you may have found the best possible solution! :)
My husband and I did this for awhile, until I chose the SAHM gig. We are both mental health professionals and my job had TONS of flexibility. He worked 7 am to 3 pm M-F and I worked 3:30pm to 8 pm M-F then did some work on the weekends when we were both home (Full time at my office is anything over 30 hours). We do a version of this now, our child is in all day Kindergarten, we are both at our same jobs, although I have changed positions dramatically--I work during the week, he works on the weekends. Social services is pretty flexible, I recommend it to anyone, also, more and more companies are willing to let SAHM telecommute--I have this option with my agency and use it ALOT. If you can work independently, telecommuting is the way to go. I haven't seen my office for 3 days, and all my projects are done! We chose to have a child, which for us, meant that WE wanted to raise her, not daycare. I understand that many fams have to work to make ends meet. We were blessed by flexible jobs and the fact that my parents live right next door. I wish there were an easy solution.
I've had friends go both routes. Some returned to their jobs as soon as 6 wks after the birth and some (like myself) have continued to stay at home. Career is the key word. If you have a salaried position, many corporations will welcome you back. If you work minimum wage or blue collar, chances are you're going to have to find a new job. The easiest thing in my opinion (if you don't want to return to work) is to cut out all extravagances and learn to budget). It's not impossible if you work at it.
blue: I've stayed at home w/both my boys (8 and 4) for the entire time and neither is socially awkward or inept. It totally depends on the way things are handled. You just have to be involved in some activities and teach them manners. SAHM's were the norm just 40 years ago. Both ways work if you're a good parent.
dont bother to find solutions for most women- they know how to have babies and work and look after them- find a solution for yourself- either dont have babies or look after them yourself while holding a job. Dont do it for the ladies- do it for yourself- probably take some tutoring course from the ladies who have done multitasking all along
Daycare or a nanny, then school. Yeah it's more expensive, but you have two incomes.
First, all career's are hard fought, not just women's. Second, if a woman (or man) does drop or go part time, it is because they choose to, no matter how much they complain about ';having'; to.
Total flexitime for men and women i.e. you make up your 40 hour week at any time of day or night, from home or work. Obviously this wouldn't work for many jobs (especially service industry) and really there is no easy way of giving mothers of newborns the flexibility that they need.
1. workplace day care
2. up to one year of mat leave, which works wonderfully in Canada
3. better health care
4. child benefits ONLY in the packages of working parents
both parents might want to be working 6 hrs/day rather than more and then BOTH can be real people instead of only employee slaves.
Government supported daycare centers like in France would be good.
one work at night, one work in morning.skin
What ideas can yall think of, to allow both parents to keep working FT and raise a baby?
I have a great idea, that parents can have the baby, and then have the babies go to daycare FT. The parents can work all week, fine dine, shop and be fab, and then on week-ends the children can come for lunch or dinner. Then be returned to the daycare, because we don't want the parents to miss out on all the vacations, sales, wine and cheese parties that they deserve. They deserve it right?
Felix yummi below-a baby's first crucial weeks are the first 260What ideas can yall think of, to allow both parents to keep working FT and raise a baby?
In all honesty, why are you thinking of having a baby and having both parents working? The only thing you'll have in common with it will be your genetics but thats as far as it goes. Babies require unbelievable amounts of affection and support.
The first answerer said for one of you to work days and the other nights. I know the baby would suffer, as would your relationship, and your sleep, and probably your jobs aswell. What if the baby has colic? It's quite common. You'll might get about 3 hours sleep a night too and you need to be able to cope.
Daycare is the only answer with a tiny bit of common sense, but can't it wait. My son isn't ready for daycare at 16 months yet (I think another year would be about right). Also I would think of the effects of it. The nanny probably won't be as attached as most mothers would be. Also if she/he looks after the baby as the main care giver, wouldn't the child be devistated if she moved away, left town, changed job or whatever. Can you think back to school when so many of the children who were disruptive or had bad grades, had parents that divorced.
Childcare needs to be taken seriously. If you are with a women who really demands to go out and work, I think she's going to get a reality check when it comes. I would suggest to split the time at home if she feels so strongly about it until the baby is at least 18 months.
Idea 1: Stop thinking of this as always 100% the women's responsibility. It takes two to make a baby.
Idea 2: On-site child care. Civilized countries have this, and it works well.
Idea 3: Stop penalizing any parent who spends time caring for their off-spring. Unless everyone is willing to say that this generation of babies is to be the last generation of humans on Earth, it needs to be possible for parents to parent.
Working opposite shifts doesn't work either. One reason is that the parents would not have many chances to see each other but another is that the person who works the later shift will have trouble getting enough sleep. I worked the graveyard shift for a year and that was the main problem for me. It's very noisy outside during the day. Not only do you have planes flying overhead but also you keep hearing the sounds of car alarms, traffic, weed whackers, construction equipment, and the beeping of trucks backing up. Then if you have children coming home from school, they make a lot of noise even when you ask them to be quiet when they come in. I used to tell my daughters not to bang on the front door when they got home but they always did it anyway.
Since most of the world can't afford to ';choose';, I find it quite silly. there is nothing wrong with daycare, if you personally visit a lot of them, just drop by at odd times, and see what is really going on, and also go at check-in and check-out times, and quiz the parents about how they feel about their daycare, without the employees in earshot, you can find a good one. Expensive private ';schools'; teach the same stuff, and don't guarantee that the teachers are any more loving or caring than the cheaper daycares. Children that are lucky enough to have a parent at home, often end up in kindergarten without any of the social skills that they would have learned by being around other kids in a daycare setting. I knew some kids in my son's kindergarten, that couldn't even grasp the waiting in line concept for the water fountain, or cried all day, because they had never been separated from their parents all day. Daycare helps these things happen before they are in real school, these days kindergarten goes straight into real teaching, whereas when I was litte, it was used as the separation learning time, but these days they expect all the children to have already acheived a different level. My child grew up to be an honor's student, with advanced placement, and very happy. Daycare did not adversely affect him at all. Call your church, do they have a daycare? Good luck, don't let anyone make you feel like you should have to give up your job, I had no choice if I wanted to feed my child, but it is still a good thing.
Well, other than paying someone else to look after your children, or possibly get a relative to look after them for free, I don't know what solutions there are. I don't particularly see why there should be any other solutions.
Personally, I think if a woman is set on having a full-time career, she would be better off not having children and just concentrating on the career. ';He travels fastes who travels alone, and that goes double for women'; as Florence King put it.
In my situation, the daddy's working full time, and I'm currently at home for the first few crucial weeks. As my baby is getting older and enjoys interacting with more people, my mother said she would look after him for 3 or 4 days while I'm at work, if it's not at a time that the dad's at home. I like that idea because I still get to see my fiance just as much, plus my baby gets time with his grandmother without spending TOO much time away from me.
How bout we focus on the child for a moment, instead of the parents. Who would the child prefer to be raising them? Some stranger or extended family member? Or one of the parents?
I'm not sure about you, but I can't think of anything healthier for the well being of a child - especially a baby - than to have a parent with them...nurturing and caring for their needs.
I'm sorry to be contrary, but I don't see that we need to be focussing on the parents' needs in this discussion - because really, thats all we ever really see. I would much rather see a discussion where we look to solutions to allow for one (father OR mother) parent to be home with the child. And if they aren't willing to do that - tell me - why did they want the child in the first place????
I talking with parents - new parents, in particular - we hear all kinds of stories about how changing the experience is, and how it is the greatest thing to ever happen to them. Funny - it wouldn't seem that way by how many are willing to move heaven and earth to keep their precious careers...hmmmm...
And - just to avoid all the nay-sayers....I'm not talking about those folks who NEED to work in order to keep a roof over their heads. Although, it does boggle the mind to see them having children when they are barely making ends meet as just a couple...
I think it can totally be done (I do it and coach plenty of women who do it), and here are some top tips that can help make this work (caveat here is that partner must be a true 50/50 partner in the deal):
1.Identify and stick to your priorities: Take the time with your partner to make a list of tasks you must accomplish weekly, monthly, and longer (quarterly or annually). With each item on your “must” list, include a deadline or a clear time commitment.
2.Be organized: Use the list you generated in #1 to organize your life and calendar. Email systems, phones, and PDAs can be a great help in this endeavor and travel with you. Coordinate your calendar with your partner or spouse to make sure all the tasks at home get covered. Discuss and develop a system for splitting up the domestic musts. For example, my husband and I have 2 kids and both work full-time. We’ve divvied up the weekly chores such that he does and folds all the wash and I do all the shopping and cooking.
3. Expect the Unexpected: Some morning when you or your partner has a really important meeting at work or a deadline, you’ll wake up to a flooded basement or a vomiting child and someone has to take one for the team. Agree in advance that you will trade off these sacrifice days, even though it will never be convenient for either of you. Keep track of theses days, and remember to respect one another’s careers!!! Of course, if its “your day” and your partner has a job interview for a great new position and you’re not under the gun, be flexible and thoughtful and be open to switching things around a bit- in other words, use common sense and be nice.
4. Save time by spending a little more money—In the long run, you have only two things to spend-time and money. If you want to save on one, you'll have to spend the other. Therefore, think seriously about investing in services that take care of some of the chores, such as housecleaning. Even having your house cleaned professionally once a month is a big help, and saves you a bunch of time! Many cities also have grocery delivery services that allow you to order groceries online and have them delivered to your home for a small (~10 dollars) fee.
5. Learn to say no—This goes for work and school. Clearly, there are some things you can’t say “no” to, such as when your boss asks you to do an important task or your baby needs to go to the doctor, but there are plenty of things you can say no to. One big one we’ve negotiated with our kids now that they're older is the number of non-school activities they do. Although there are nearly endless options and interests for kids in this arena, our kids get to choose 2 non-school activities (including weekend activities) each semester or school year. This reduces the chaos of oversheduling them and us, and assures that the kids have sufficient time for school work and just “hanging out”.
6. Ask for help—When there’s too much to do, ask for help at home or at work. This totally goes against the “Superparent” self-concept many of us have for ourselves, but we all know, deep-down, that we cannot do it all well all the time. One life-saver arrangement for our family is trading off care with another family on teacher in-service days at school. This reduces by half the number of days my husband and I have to cover when the kids are not in school, but still allows us to take advantage of some of those days to spend time with our kids and their friends.
6. Be kind to yourself and others- Remember the Golden Rule “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you?” Cliché as it may sound, I repeat this to myself frequently when I feel stressed, crabby, or ready to make a snarky remark. This goes double for your spouse or partner; you two are on the same team, and teams never win when there is infighting and dissent among the ranks. Be sure to take care of your relationship by making time together without kids, and without each other sometimes- everyone needs some “me” time, and no one more so that working parents!
This is a long answer, but for me and many women I know, this works. Daycare may still need to be part of the equation, but even that can be negotiated if you and your spouse have a family-freindly policy; flextime is your freind!
You know, in other cultures, it would be normal for both parents to work and the kids to stay with a stay at home aunt, or grandmother. Of course, other cultures have the elderly live at home, and not warehoused in nursing homes......
I was sent to my grandparents full time for the first 5 years of my life. I missed my mom, but I got full time, one on one education. I went to kindergarden able to read, name all of crayola's colors,print my name, say my numbers to 100 and add numbers ect. I have always found school easy and I credit my very patient grandparents who taught me instead of propping me in front of the tv
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To the people saying that the ';mom'; should get a reality check and stay with the baby.... that would have been great, but then we would have had nothing to eat. Welcome to reality. And please, refrain from calling me some kind of ';accident'; or ';unwanted.'; My mom tells me all the time the happiest day of her life was when I was born, and she would have given ANYTHING to be at home with me. It just wasn't possible.
And my primary care giver was my grand-father.... I have never really felt that I was deprived somehow because my mom didn't stay home with me for the first 18 months of my life.... I never felt that my mother had nothing more to offer society than being my caregiver..... and I was that obnoxious girl in elementary school that got all those good citizenship awards lol!
OH! and to the poster splitting time with her fiance and the baby's grandmother - good for you! Friends of mine are solving their infant-care delima that way - by sharing the time, they can both work 30hrs/wk, and the baby get to see Grandma! It's work, but I think you may have found the best possible solution! :)
My husband and I did this for awhile, until I chose the SAHM gig. We are both mental health professionals and my job had TONS of flexibility. He worked 7 am to 3 pm M-F and I worked 3:30pm to 8 pm M-F then did some work on the weekends when we were both home (Full time at my office is anything over 30 hours). We do a version of this now, our child is in all day Kindergarten, we are both at our same jobs, although I have changed positions dramatically--I work during the week, he works on the weekends. Social services is pretty flexible, I recommend it to anyone, also, more and more companies are willing to let SAHM telecommute--I have this option with my agency and use it ALOT. If you can work independently, telecommuting is the way to go. I haven't seen my office for 3 days, and all my projects are done! We chose to have a child, which for us, meant that WE wanted to raise her, not daycare. I understand that many fams have to work to make ends meet. We were blessed by flexible jobs and the fact that my parents live right next door. I wish there were an easy solution.
I've had friends go both routes. Some returned to their jobs as soon as 6 wks after the birth and some (like myself) have continued to stay at home. Career is the key word. If you have a salaried position, many corporations will welcome you back. If you work minimum wage or blue collar, chances are you're going to have to find a new job. The easiest thing in my opinion (if you don't want to return to work) is to cut out all extravagances and learn to budget). It's not impossible if you work at it.
blue: I've stayed at home w/both my boys (8 and 4) for the entire time and neither is socially awkward or inept. It totally depends on the way things are handled. You just have to be involved in some activities and teach them manners. SAHM's were the norm just 40 years ago. Both ways work if you're a good parent.
dont bother to find solutions for most women- they know how to have babies and work and look after them- find a solution for yourself- either dont have babies or look after them yourself while holding a job. Dont do it for the ladies- do it for yourself- probably take some tutoring course from the ladies who have done multitasking all along
Daycare or a nanny, then school. Yeah it's more expensive, but you have two incomes.
First, all career's are hard fought, not just women's. Second, if a woman (or man) does drop or go part time, it is because they choose to, no matter how much they complain about ';having'; to.
Total flexitime for men and women i.e. you make up your 40 hour week at any time of day or night, from home or work. Obviously this wouldn't work for many jobs (especially service industry) and really there is no easy way of giving mothers of newborns the flexibility that they need.
1. workplace day care
2. up to one year of mat leave, which works wonderfully in Canada
3. better health care
4. child benefits ONLY in the packages of working parents
both parents might want to be working 6 hrs/day rather than more and then BOTH can be real people instead of only employee slaves.
Government supported daycare centers like in France would be good.
one work at night, one work in morning.
What is the best way to help a single parent family without being offensive?
I don't mean giving them money, etc. There is just this lady I know that has three very young children, and my heart goes out to her every time I see her struggle in a grocery store, or at church or the park. I don't want her to think that I am disapproving of her parenting skills. I think she's an AWESOME mother!What is the best way to help a single parent family without being offensive?
Help her out when you see her struggling. I have done that before and I love it when other people help me out when I need it. It should not matter if she is a single mom. I've seen many two parent families and only one parent does everything. The only way she would think you are disapproving of her parenting skills is if you offered advice on how to change her current situation.What is the best way to help a single parent family without being offensive?
first you need to know if she needs help. But if you have clothes that don't fit your kids ask if she would like to go through them as you would rather give them to people you know will take care of them. it is a start and nor offensive. My friends and I pass clothes around our kids all the time
Good for you!!! As a single parent, when my child was younger something as simple as holding a door for me was greatly appreciated. Become friends first, if you see a need ask if you can help. If you are already her friend at that point she won't feel badly. Every once in awhile let her know how much you admire what she does - We all need encouragement..single, married, with or without children!
Then tell her the next time you see her. You would be amazed at how uplifting it can be to get praise.
If you see her struggling with groceries or something offer to help carry them. Ask her if she would like to meet up for coffee one day. Maybe she needs an adult friend to talk to sometimes.
It doesn't always have to be charity.
Can you start to make friends with her next time you see her? Strike up a conversation, and be really friendly. Then the next time, offer to help with bags. On the 3rd time, see if she wants to go for coffee or to the park with her kids. Once you become friends, you'll be able to help her without it seeming offensive.
Hats off to you for being such a nice person!!
Help her out when you see her struggling. I have done that before and I love it when other people help me out when I need it. It should not matter if she is a single mom. I've seen many two parent families and only one parent does everything. The only way she would think you are disapproving of her parenting skills is if you offered advice on how to change her current situation.What is the best way to help a single parent family without being offensive?
first you need to know if she needs help. But if you have clothes that don't fit your kids ask if she would like to go through them as you would rather give them to people you know will take care of them. it is a start and nor offensive. My friends and I pass clothes around our kids all the time
Good for you!!! As a single parent, when my child was younger something as simple as holding a door for me was greatly appreciated. Become friends first, if you see a need ask if you can help. If you are already her friend at that point she won't feel badly. Every once in awhile let her know how much you admire what she does - We all need encouragement..single, married, with or without children!
Then tell her the next time you see her. You would be amazed at how uplifting it can be to get praise.
If you see her struggling with groceries or something offer to help carry them. Ask her if she would like to meet up for coffee one day. Maybe she needs an adult friend to talk to sometimes.
It doesn't always have to be charity.
Can you start to make friends with her next time you see her? Strike up a conversation, and be really friendly. Then the next time, offer to help with bags. On the 3rd time, see if she wants to go for coffee or to the park with her kids. Once you become friends, you'll be able to help her without it seeming offensive.
Hats off to you for being such a nice person!!
How much is our personality is affected by our parents when growing up?
My mom is very judgmental and now i think back that i act in a similar manner. I know you can only blame your parents so much.How much is our personality is affected by our parents when growing up?
Personality is not affected by our parents. Character development is. And, even character is 80% genetic and 20% environmental (what we learn after birth from our surroundings and families and school and society and faiths and art and language and customs and expectations and such). That Nature/Nurture split traditionally was considered to be 50-50, but with modern medical imaging and new research methods, scientists are finding that 80-20 split to be closer to reality. As for personality, humans are neurologically wired per genetics. There are 16 main personalities. Conflicts arise between mother and daughter more often when their personality types closely match. Interesting, huh? Savor her. I miss mine horribly.
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well, i think they imapct us alot. However, you can change that by just having an open mind. :)
hope it helps!
As a parent, I believe you impact your kid's personalities a great deal. I always tried to instill an open mind with my two girls and taught them to be ladies. As they grew and became young women they developed their own personalites but still maintained a lot of what I instilled in them. We as parents are the ones our children model themselves after, we do our best, if we fail please don't hold that against us, we mean the best for you.
Personality is not affected by our parents. Character development is. And, even character is 80% genetic and 20% environmental (what we learn after birth from our surroundings and families and school and society and faiths and art and language and customs and expectations and such). That Nature/Nurture split traditionally was considered to be 50-50, but with modern medical imaging and new research methods, scientists are finding that 80-20 split to be closer to reality. As for personality, humans are neurologically wired per genetics. There are 16 main personalities. Conflicts arise between mother and daughter more often when their personality types closely match. Interesting, huh? Savor her. I miss mine horribly.
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well, i think they imapct us alot. However, you can change that by just having an open mind. :)
hope it helps!
As a parent, I believe you impact your kid's personalities a great deal. I always tried to instill an open mind with my two girls and taught them to be ladies. As they grew and became young women they developed their own personalites but still maintained a lot of what I instilled in them. We as parents are the ones our children model themselves after, we do our best, if we fail please don't hold that against us, we mean the best for you.
Can a parent claim credit for children living out of state?
My sister's two childre were livign in the caribean last year. She has custody and the kids are US Citizens. She supports them financially, but did not keep all her recipts from the money transfers. Any suggestions how she can prove finacial support?Can a parent claim credit for children living out of state?
I assume you are asking for tax purposes (that is, that your sister would like to claim her kids as dependents and get the additional exemptions on her tax return). If that's the case, she must meet 5 tests, the most important of which is that she must have provided more than half of their support. Generally speaking, this is not a big issue with the IRS - unless both parents claim the exemption. In the case of divorced parents, what the IRS cares about is that only one parent get the deduction. If your ex-brother in law doesn't claim the kids, your sisters should have no problem doing so. But, if he wants to claim them, then there is potentially a problem since only one of them can get that benefit.
The IRS definition of a dependent requires that all five of the following dependency tests be met:
Member of Household or Relationship Test. At least one of the following must be true:
The dependent lived with the taxpayer for the entire year as a member of the taxpayer's household, except for temporary absences. Temporary absences include attending school, taking vacations, business trips, military service, and hospital stays. (If the person is placed in a nursing home for an indefinite period of time to receive constant medical care, the absence is considered temporary.) The relationship between the taxpayer and the dependent must not violate local laws (e.g., zoning restrictions on the number of unrelated persons living together).
The dependent is related to the taxpayer in one of the following ways: child, parent, brother/sister, stepparent, stepchild, stepbrother/stepsister, half brother/half sister, grandparent, grandchild, son-in-law/daughter-in-law, mother-in-law/father-in-law, brother-in-law/sister-in-law. Also, if related by blood, relatives can include uncle/aunt and niece/nephew. Cousins do NOT meet the relationship test. Relationships established by marriage are not ended by death or divorce. Relatives do not have to be members of the taxpayer's household for the entire year. (There are special rules for children born during the year, adopted children, and foster children.)
Citizen or Resident Test. The dependent must be, for some part of the year, a US citizen or resident, or a resident of Canada or Mexico. Foreign students who stay with you as part of an international education exchange program generally do not qualify as dependents.
Joint Return Test. The dependent must be unmarried, married but not filing a joint return, or married filing a joint return only to claim a refund of withheld tax (neither the dependent nor spouse may claim personal exemptions on the joint return).
Gross Income Test. The gross taxable income of the dependent (all taxable income including money, property and services, unemployment compensation and certain scholarships, but not welfare benefits and not nontaxable Social Security benefits) may not exceed the exemption amount. In 2004 the exemption amount was $3,100. This test does not apply if the dependent is a child of the taxpayer and either under age 19 at the end of the year, or a full-time student under age 24 at the end of the year.
Support Test. The taxpayer must have provided more than half of the dependent's total support for the entire year. (Starting in 2005, the 50% support test only applies to qualifying relatives. For qualifying children, it is sufficient that the child not have provided more than half his/her own support.) Support includes food, clothing, shelter, education, medical and dental care, recreation, and transportation; as well as welfare, food stamps, and housing provided by the state. You must compare the dollar value of the support provided by the taxpayer with the total support the dependent received from all sources. (Note: There are special rules for dependents who receive support from multiple sources and for children of divorced or separated parents.) The support test considers all income, not just taxable income.
I assume you are asking for tax purposes (that is, that your sister would like to claim her kids as dependents and get the additional exemptions on her tax return). If that's the case, she must meet 5 tests, the most important of which is that she must have provided more than half of their support. Generally speaking, this is not a big issue with the IRS - unless both parents claim the exemption. In the case of divorced parents, what the IRS cares about is that only one parent get the deduction. If your ex-brother in law doesn't claim the kids, your sisters should have no problem doing so. But, if he wants to claim them, then there is potentially a problem since only one of them can get that benefit.
The IRS definition of a dependent requires that all five of the following dependency tests be met:
Member of Household or Relationship Test. At least one of the following must be true:
The dependent lived with the taxpayer for the entire year as a member of the taxpayer's household, except for temporary absences. Temporary absences include attending school, taking vacations, business trips, military service, and hospital stays. (If the person is placed in a nursing home for an indefinite period of time to receive constant medical care, the absence is considered temporary.) The relationship between the taxpayer and the dependent must not violate local laws (e.g., zoning restrictions on the number of unrelated persons living together).
The dependent is related to the taxpayer in one of the following ways: child, parent, brother/sister, stepparent, stepchild, stepbrother/stepsister, half brother/half sister, grandparent, grandchild, son-in-law/daughter-in-law, mother-in-law/father-in-law, brother-in-law/sister-in-law. Also, if related by blood, relatives can include uncle/aunt and niece/nephew. Cousins do NOT meet the relationship test. Relationships established by marriage are not ended by death or divorce. Relatives do not have to be members of the taxpayer's household for the entire year. (There are special rules for children born during the year, adopted children, and foster children.)
Citizen or Resident Test. The dependent must be, for some part of the year, a US citizen or resident, or a resident of Canada or Mexico. Foreign students who stay with you as part of an international education exchange program generally do not qualify as dependents.
Joint Return Test. The dependent must be unmarried, married but not filing a joint return, or married filing a joint return only to claim a refund of withheld tax (neither the dependent nor spouse may claim personal exemptions on the joint return).
Gross Income Test. The gross taxable income of the dependent (all taxable income including money, property and services, unemployment compensation and certain scholarships, but not welfare benefits and not nontaxable Social Security benefits) may not exceed the exemption amount. In 2004 the exemption amount was $3,100. This test does not apply if the dependent is a child of the taxpayer and either under age 19 at the end of the year, or a full-time student under age 24 at the end of the year.
Support Test. The taxpayer must have provided more than half of the dependent's total support for the entire year. (Starting in 2005, the 50% support test only applies to qualifying relatives. For qualifying children, it is sufficient that the child not have provided more than half his/her own support.) Support includes food, clothing, shelter, education, medical and dental care, recreation, and transportation; as well as welfare, food stamps, and housing provided by the state. You must compare the dollar value of the support provided by the taxpayer with the total support the dependent received from all sources. (Note: There are special rules for dependents who receive support from multiple sources and for children of divorced or separated parents.) The support test considers all income, not just taxable income.
Parents. I need advice on steps to take on proving to my parents that im responsible enough for a puppy?
Im 13, and my parents say i need to prove that im responsible enough for a puppy. So they decided to get me a fish. I have to keep it alive till they decide im ready for the next step up. And ideas on what that next step up pet would be? Please help.Parents. I need advice on steps to take on proving to my parents that im responsible enough for a puppy?
The problem with 'stepping up' with pets is the fact that you end up with a bunch of pets that still need daily care and attention and you will end up having no time for a puppy. Show your parents that you are committed to dogs. Spend some time helping out at your local animal shelter. Perhaps you can spend some time and effort raising donations for your local shelter. My step-daughter had 2 birthday parties (1 at her mom's for school friends and 1 at our house for friends and family) and her invitations stated that she would not be accepting birthday gifts for herself but would happily accept donations for the Humane Society (her idea). I went to the shelter's website and printed a list of needed items and mailed a copy with each invitation. We collected dog food, cat food, toys, treats and much needed cleaning supplies.
Spend some time researching different breeds so that you know what breeds or mixed breeds would fit your home, yard, family, schedule and lifestyle best. Learn all about training!!!!! Training any dog, but especially a puppy, takes more than just time and dedication. It takes knowledge about dogs - how they think and respond to our voices and more importantly, our body language. Then perhaps you can show your parents your dedication to dogs, not just having any old pet. You can even compromise and adopt a young adult dog (trust me, you WILL fall in love with a few at the shelter). A puppy requires a lot of time and constant work and has to be done by everyone in the household. A puppy is also a lot more expensive for your parents. A puppy needs a lot of trips to the vet for vaccinations (which is pretty costly) as well as surgery to be spayed or neutered. Any adult dog you adopt from a shelter will already be spayed or neutered. Good luck!Parents. I need advice on steps to take on proving to my parents that im responsible enough for a puppy?
A fish? Just tell them you know a dog is not all fun and games and that you WOULD help. I'm 13, and I'm the one giving my dog water, not my dad!
Ask your parents if you could possibly foster a puppy from a local animal shelter. That way your parents know its only temporary and you can prove to them that you are responsible enough for a puppy.
Animals should not teach responsibility...but, make sure you do extra chores around the house, without being asked and take REALLY good care of the fish!! Oh, and get an older dog(about 1-3 years) They are already houstrained, and socialized. Overall much easier to care 4, there are some really cute mutts in shelters, good luck!!
act a little more mature, do more chores, and do stuff when your not asked, like straightening up the house before they get home, also pet sit other animals anything you can get willl do even feeding a coulpe fish while you neighbors are away.
A cat
A dog is a BIG responsiblilty. You have to bathe them, walk them, clean their poo up, keep them from barking all night, crate train, house train them and more. I would start off with a rescued cat (not kitten) and in another two years, if you are doing good with your cat, consider asking them to add a pup to your clan.
no kid needs a puppy you have school and no time get a kitty
Im going through the same thing. I had 12 fish for about 2 years, then they began dying off. My one fish named ';Lucky'; lived for 6 years. But yeah, a fish is the first step. Maybe try parakeets. Thats what I have right now. It is a good start because you have to clean their cage every 2 days, and they need fed once a day. Kind of half the work you would put into a dog. If you do get a parakeet, get one, not two. We got 2 and they have bonded to eachother. If you get one (like my friend has) they will bond to you. You can let them out of the cage and carry them around on your shoulder! They r really cool. You should do some research. Also try Petfinder.com!
Good Luck!
well im not a parent like give it food every 2 hours or so it would stay alive oh and when you take it out to clean to bowl get a glass of water that ok
the next step up might be the puppy, you just have to show them that you can take care of a pet and are willing to do the not so fun parts of taking care of one.. puppys are cute and cuddly, BUT they are also a ton of work.. its not all playing.. you have to think of the cleaning up of the dog mess in the house during training, and you have to take them for walks etc.. For now, just take care of the fish, clean the bowl and feed it etc.. without being asked..and dont keep asking them constantly, that will just annoy them. Offer to help out around the house, or to do odd jobs for neighbors etc..so that when they do eventually let you have one you can offer to help pitch in with the vet bills etc..
The problem with 'stepping up' with pets is the fact that you end up with a bunch of pets that still need daily care and attention and you will end up having no time for a puppy. Show your parents that you are committed to dogs. Spend some time helping out at your local animal shelter. Perhaps you can spend some time and effort raising donations for your local shelter. My step-daughter had 2 birthday parties (1 at her mom's for school friends and 1 at our house for friends and family) and her invitations stated that she would not be accepting birthday gifts for herself but would happily accept donations for the Humane Society (her idea). I went to the shelter's website and printed a list of needed items and mailed a copy with each invitation. We collected dog food, cat food, toys, treats and much needed cleaning supplies.
Spend some time researching different breeds so that you know what breeds or mixed breeds would fit your home, yard, family, schedule and lifestyle best. Learn all about training!!!!! Training any dog, but especially a puppy, takes more than just time and dedication. It takes knowledge about dogs - how they think and respond to our voices and more importantly, our body language. Then perhaps you can show your parents your dedication to dogs, not just having any old pet. You can even compromise and adopt a young adult dog (trust me, you WILL fall in love with a few at the shelter). A puppy requires a lot of time and constant work and has to be done by everyone in the household. A puppy is also a lot more expensive for your parents. A puppy needs a lot of trips to the vet for vaccinations (which is pretty costly) as well as surgery to be spayed or neutered. Any adult dog you adopt from a shelter will already be spayed or neutered. Good luck!Parents. I need advice on steps to take on proving to my parents that im responsible enough for a puppy?
A fish? Just tell them you know a dog is not all fun and games and that you WOULD help. I'm 13, and I'm the one giving my dog water, not my dad!
Ask your parents if you could possibly foster a puppy from a local animal shelter. That way your parents know its only temporary and you can prove to them that you are responsible enough for a puppy.
Animals should not teach responsibility...but, make sure you do extra chores around the house, without being asked and take REALLY good care of the fish!! Oh, and get an older dog(about 1-3 years) They are already houstrained, and socialized. Overall much easier to care 4, there are some really cute mutts in shelters, good luck!!
act a little more mature, do more chores, and do stuff when your not asked, like straightening up the house before they get home, also pet sit other animals anything you can get willl do even feeding a coulpe fish while you neighbors are away.
A cat
A dog is a BIG responsiblilty. You have to bathe them, walk them, clean their poo up, keep them from barking all night, crate train, house train them and more. I would start off with a rescued cat (not kitten) and in another two years, if you are doing good with your cat, consider asking them to add a pup to your clan.
no kid needs a puppy you have school and no time get a kitty
Im going through the same thing. I had 12 fish for about 2 years, then they began dying off. My one fish named ';Lucky'; lived for 6 years. But yeah, a fish is the first step. Maybe try parakeets. Thats what I have right now. It is a good start because you have to clean their cage every 2 days, and they need fed once a day. Kind of half the work you would put into a dog. If you do get a parakeet, get one, not two. We got 2 and they have bonded to eachother. If you get one (like my friend has) they will bond to you. You can let them out of the cage and carry them around on your shoulder! They r really cool. You should do some research. Also try Petfinder.com!
Good Luck!
well im not a parent like give it food every 2 hours or so it would stay alive oh and when you take it out to clean to bowl get a glass of water that ok
the next step up might be the puppy, you just have to show them that you can take care of a pet and are willing to do the not so fun parts of taking care of one.. puppys are cute and cuddly, BUT they are also a ton of work.. its not all playing.. you have to think of the cleaning up of the dog mess in the house during training, and you have to take them for walks etc.. For now, just take care of the fish, clean the bowl and feed it etc.. without being asked..and dont keep asking them constantly, that will just annoy them. Offer to help out around the house, or to do odd jobs for neighbors etc..so that when they do eventually let you have one you can offer to help pitch in with the vet bills etc..
Why should parents who send their kids to private schools have to pay for a failed system?
Why should people who choose to opt out of a failing system pay for that system?Why should parents who send their kids to private schools have to pay for a failed system?
The politically correct response is that public education is available to everyone and therefore everyone is responsible for funding it. I believe that people should have the privilege of opting out of any failing endeavor, including public education. That would surely reduce classroom size, one of the big selling points for raising taxes to fund education.Why should parents who send their kids to private schools have to pay for a failed system?
While I don't agree with the ';Opting out'; option since everyone pays into the School System with their property taxes including people without kids. I feel that the Parents are entitled to use the portion of the money that the public would spend anyway for their students to put them in the school of their choosing. The Voucher Program...it saves tax payer money since most Private schools operate cheaper and provide a better education.
They shouldn't.
The US spends more money, per capita, on education than any other country on Earth. Yet the quality of education is nowhere near the highest.
The fact is that we need to get rid of the NEA and public education as a whole.
It is a failed system, and dumping more money into it, like Obama and the Congress are doing, is just throwing more taxpayer money down the toilet.
because i pay for a system that pays politicians that i didn't vote for..so if I don't pay for something I don't utilize, then I don't have to listen or follow any of the laws they make...
Public schools couldn't operate without taxes. I elected to send mine to private school but accepted the fact that it was incumbent upon me to do my duty as a citizen and pay school taxes.
The school system has not failed, it is the parent, or parents that have failed.
thats your problem. equal taxation for all.
We shouldn't.
You make an excellent point.
The politically correct response is that public education is available to everyone and therefore everyone is responsible for funding it. I believe that people should have the privilege of opting out of any failing endeavor, including public education. That would surely reduce classroom size, one of the big selling points for raising taxes to fund education.Why should parents who send their kids to private schools have to pay for a failed system?
While I don't agree with the ';Opting out'; option since everyone pays into the School System with their property taxes including people without kids. I feel that the Parents are entitled to use the portion of the money that the public would spend anyway for their students to put them in the school of their choosing. The Voucher Program...it saves tax payer money since most Private schools operate cheaper and provide a better education.
They shouldn't.
The US spends more money, per capita, on education than any other country on Earth. Yet the quality of education is nowhere near the highest.
The fact is that we need to get rid of the NEA and public education as a whole.
It is a failed system, and dumping more money into it, like Obama and the Congress are doing, is just throwing more taxpayer money down the toilet.
because i pay for a system that pays politicians that i didn't vote for..so if I don't pay for something I don't utilize, then I don't have to listen or follow any of the laws they make...
Public schools couldn't operate without taxes. I elected to send mine to private school but accepted the fact that it was incumbent upon me to do my duty as a citizen and pay school taxes.
The school system has not failed, it is the parent, or parents that have failed.
thats your problem. equal taxation for all.
We shouldn't.
You make an excellent point.
How many parents out there really sleep with their babies?
I know books and doctors say its not safe to sleep in the same bed as your child, but i'm wondering, how many out there really do sleep in the same bed as their babies. And how long did it last?How many parents out there really sleep with their babies?
I did, and still do on some nights. I started when my son was 6 weeks and we transitioned him to his crib when he was 6 months. Now I only put him in bed with my when he refuses to sleep in his crib. He's been having trouble the past week or so and has ended up in my bed.How many parents out there really sleep with their babies?
I do co-sleep but didn't start to until 6months or so. There are the positioners that keep the baby from rolling over. I used those but in the pack in play. I've read that once they can turn over byselves they are in longer danger of SIDS. I always heard that co-sleeping doesn't cause SIDS either.
I think it's up to the parents if they want to co-sleep or not. I really wish I didn't cause it's harder now for her to go to sleep on her own.
Many parents co-sleep. In Western culture we tend to go underground to avoid criticism. It's the easiest way to breastfeed a newborn, who wants to get out of a warm bed in the middle of winter! We have with both our children and they are both confident and secure children.
My son chose his own bed when he was 4 1/2, in hindsight I think co-sleeping really helped with his Asperger's syndrome as it developed his ability to enjoy physical contact more so than many of his peers. My daughter is still co-sleeping at 3+.
For safety resons you wouldn't do it if the parents were under the influence of alcohol or legal/illicit drugs or had a serious illness which effected their ability to be aware of their child while asleep.
I do when he needs to (sometimes he'll sleep in his co-sleeper next to the bed instead of in my arms next to me). he's 5 weeks old and I'll stop when he's ready. it is safe because they regulate their breathing with yours, which reduces the likelihood of SIDS and sleep apnea. everyone should try it - try napping with your baby while you're awake and you'll see their breathing matches yours when they're deep asleep.
The doctor that I followed wholeheartedly recommended the family bed. We did it and LOVED it. My husband was all for it. There were some rough nights but all in all, you definitely feel closer as a family and little ones tend to feel safer with mom and dad right there and therefore sleep better. You could do a smaller bed right next to yours if you think that would work better. Sex isn't a problem either. They're not in bed with you 24/7! If you do the family bed, put a covered guard rail up and have baby sleep between guardrail and mom instead of between mom and dad. Much safer that way. As far as how long it lasts? It varies for people. We allowed ours in our room until they were about 4. That doesn't mean they were in our bed...just in our bedroom - whether on a mattress on the floor or in a separate bed in our room. I have great memories of our kids sleeping in our room! You will too! Enjoy it!
My daughter sleeps with me part-time. She goes to bed in her crib, and when she wakes up the first time, whenever that may be, she is in bed with me the rest of the night. This allows us both to get back to sleep quicker.
Unlike most, we have a full-size bed so I can't usually sleep side by side. Plus that's uncomfortable to nurse that way for me. My daughter lays across me and I have always done pretty well at staying on my back. I recently bought a mesh rail for the bed so there are no accidents since she moves around a lot. Although she now pulls herself up so when she wakes up in the morning I have to be up before she flies over the edge lol.
When she was little I nursed in bed with her a lot but because I kept falling asleep I quit. Then once she got more ';self-sufficient'; with her movements we started again especially since she wasn't sleeping well from teething. We both sleep better the 2nd half of the night if she is with me than if I keep putting her back down after nursing. She's 8 months now.
I always said, I will never let my child sleep in my bed! Untill i had my second child. She was the worst sleeper ever, she would wake up every hour if in her crib. I couldnt take it any more and just let her sleep with us. I needed sleep and she slept like a baby when she was with me. She is 3 and still doenst sleep well in her own bed. I would say 3-4 days a week she comes to our bed to sleep but starte out in her own bed.
We still do at 10 months. We have the bed and crib attached to each other. A lot of the time, our son ends up taking up the bed and his daddy and I squeeze onto the couch at night. I'm trying to make it now to where we move him over into the crib area when we feel like going to bed so we can all share a sleep space.
I do.
Since about 4 weeks to current, he;s 8 months.
I have seen 3 different dr's with my son. The first, my family doctor, said that we are one of the few countries in the world who do not believe in co-sleeping but never codoned or condemned it.
The second, a partner of my doctor gave me a long lecture on the risks of co=sleeping. So.....he says no.
The 3rd, one of the toppediatricians in the midwest, also was a ped. in Europe, has never said anything about it one way or the other except that it might explain his frequent night nursings.
It's what worked for us and I was very against it.
Add: I have, in the beginning, woke up to find my son with the blanket pulled over him and a few times with my back turned to him. I get very little and light sleep with him in the bed but it's stitll better than the zero sleep I was gettin gwith him in his crib or bassinet.
many people slept with thier children even babies when the babies were sick. that is not a question of safety unless they do not know what they are doing. some of my family would sleep with them just because there were no crib and if they were breastfeeding. i can not see why that would be a problem of course my mother always said she would sleep better if we were not in the bed with her but then if we were sick then it was the other way around. if a person sleeps soundly it is not wise to do this. if they are taking meds that cause them to sleep so that it is hard for them to be woke up.
I sleep in bed with my babies. One pediatrician we had actually approved and pointed out that most of the world sleeps with their children. With my daughter, it lasted about six months or so and then I had to move her to her crib because I was pregnant and needed the room. My son is three weeks old and once he wake up from his initial put down, I bring him to bed with me.
I have slept with my babies. The plan was that they would sleep in their own beds but after those late night feedings it was just so nice to fall back to sleep with them next to me.After they were able to crawl around i was able to rest without fear of rolling on them.My kids would crawl into bed with me until they were about 8
Both of our sons slept in the bed with us when they were infants. Once they were around 6 months old they slept in a cosleeper thing right against the bed or in normal bassinet at least a few nights a week and the rest of the time in our bed. They went to their own rooms and cribs around 14/15 months. I think since they were used to sleeping in the bassinet already they both switched to their own crib/room very easily.
This is very similar to the cosleeper we used I'm not sure what you call these exactly?
http://www.amazon.com/gp/customer-media/…
I do! I love cuddling with my baby at night... and he loves sleeping with his mommy so it works out. He's 2 months old... and we will continue to do so until he consistently sleeps throughout the night and he can move to his own bed. I'm a light sleeper so i dont worry about rolling over on him.
Yep! We do. Our daughter co-slept for about 2 years. Her transition to her own bed went incredibly smoothly.
Our son is 10 months. He goes down in the crib, and when he wakes up for his feed, I bring him in with us. We'll handle the transition with our son the same as we did with our daughter.
I hope this helps!
I am currently still co-sleeping with my daughter, and she is 27mo. Daddy is deployed at the moment, so there's never been a real reason to change that..and frankly, both of us get a great night's sleep.
When he comes home (in two weeks...Yay!) we might try her toddler bed, but it won't be pushed, and if she's not ready, that's okay too.
I slept with my daughter from age 2 months to 5.5 months. It was very unsafe for ME. I was always worrying about her suffocating. She sleeps in a mini crib next to my bed and that works out much better. I sleep much better now knowing that she's safe.
We do, most of the time, since he was 2months old
Whenever we want time alone or to sleep more comfortably he's moved to his own bed but he likes to sleep with us, so we let him.
He's 13mo and we've never had a problem
My sister and my husband like co-sleeping, but I can't because I'm too worried I'll squish the baby. On the other hand, they worry when the baby is too far away from them... a very personal question with polarized opinions from the experts!
we did for at least the first 6 months, then moved to the pack and play in our room, then finally to her crib. she still comes in for snuggles around 4 am--she just turned 1 yr.
My son is four months old now and sleeps with me every night since he was born. I feel more safe knowing that he is right next to me if anything happens.
I do in the morning when my husband leaves. Just some cuddle time between mommy and baby.
Our daughter slept in bed with us usually half of the night from birth until about 5 months
We practice bed sharing in our family. Our daughter slept with us until a year old. :)skin
I did, and still do on some nights. I started when my son was 6 weeks and we transitioned him to his crib when he was 6 months. Now I only put him in bed with my when he refuses to sleep in his crib. He's been having trouble the past week or so and has ended up in my bed.How many parents out there really sleep with their babies?
I do co-sleep but didn't start to until 6months or so. There are the positioners that keep the baby from rolling over. I used those but in the pack in play. I've read that once they can turn over byselves they are in longer danger of SIDS. I always heard that co-sleeping doesn't cause SIDS either.
I think it's up to the parents if they want to co-sleep or not. I really wish I didn't cause it's harder now for her to go to sleep on her own.
Many parents co-sleep. In Western culture we tend to go underground to avoid criticism. It's the easiest way to breastfeed a newborn, who wants to get out of a warm bed in the middle of winter! We have with both our children and they are both confident and secure children.
My son chose his own bed when he was 4 1/2, in hindsight I think co-sleeping really helped with his Asperger's syndrome as it developed his ability to enjoy physical contact more so than many of his peers. My daughter is still co-sleeping at 3+.
For safety resons you wouldn't do it if the parents were under the influence of alcohol or legal/illicit drugs or had a serious illness which effected their ability to be aware of their child while asleep.
I do when he needs to (sometimes he'll sleep in his co-sleeper next to the bed instead of in my arms next to me). he's 5 weeks old and I'll stop when he's ready. it is safe because they regulate their breathing with yours, which reduces the likelihood of SIDS and sleep apnea. everyone should try it - try napping with your baby while you're awake and you'll see their breathing matches yours when they're deep asleep.
The doctor that I followed wholeheartedly recommended the family bed. We did it and LOVED it. My husband was all for it. There were some rough nights but all in all, you definitely feel closer as a family and little ones tend to feel safer with mom and dad right there and therefore sleep better. You could do a smaller bed right next to yours if you think that would work better. Sex isn't a problem either. They're not in bed with you 24/7! If you do the family bed, put a covered guard rail up and have baby sleep between guardrail and mom instead of between mom and dad. Much safer that way. As far as how long it lasts? It varies for people. We allowed ours in our room until they were about 4. That doesn't mean they were in our bed...just in our bedroom - whether on a mattress on the floor or in a separate bed in our room. I have great memories of our kids sleeping in our room! You will too! Enjoy it!
My daughter sleeps with me part-time. She goes to bed in her crib, and when she wakes up the first time, whenever that may be, she is in bed with me the rest of the night. This allows us both to get back to sleep quicker.
Unlike most, we have a full-size bed so I can't usually sleep side by side. Plus that's uncomfortable to nurse that way for me. My daughter lays across me and I have always done pretty well at staying on my back. I recently bought a mesh rail for the bed so there are no accidents since she moves around a lot. Although she now pulls herself up so when she wakes up in the morning I have to be up before she flies over the edge lol.
When she was little I nursed in bed with her a lot but because I kept falling asleep I quit. Then once she got more ';self-sufficient'; with her movements we started again especially since she wasn't sleeping well from teething. We both sleep better the 2nd half of the night if she is with me than if I keep putting her back down after nursing. She's 8 months now.
I always said, I will never let my child sleep in my bed! Untill i had my second child. She was the worst sleeper ever, she would wake up every hour if in her crib. I couldnt take it any more and just let her sleep with us. I needed sleep and she slept like a baby when she was with me. She is 3 and still doenst sleep well in her own bed. I would say 3-4 days a week she comes to our bed to sleep but starte out in her own bed.
We still do at 10 months. We have the bed and crib attached to each other. A lot of the time, our son ends up taking up the bed and his daddy and I squeeze onto the couch at night. I'm trying to make it now to where we move him over into the crib area when we feel like going to bed so we can all share a sleep space.
I do.
Since about 4 weeks to current, he;s 8 months.
I have seen 3 different dr's with my son. The first, my family doctor, said that we are one of the few countries in the world who do not believe in co-sleeping but never codoned or condemned it.
The second, a partner of my doctor gave me a long lecture on the risks of co=sleeping. So.....he says no.
The 3rd, one of the toppediatricians in the midwest, also was a ped. in Europe, has never said anything about it one way or the other except that it might explain his frequent night nursings.
It's what worked for us and I was very against it.
Add: I have, in the beginning, woke up to find my son with the blanket pulled over him and a few times with my back turned to him. I get very little and light sleep with him in the bed but it's stitll better than the zero sleep I was gettin gwith him in his crib or bassinet.
many people slept with thier children even babies when the babies were sick. that is not a question of safety unless they do not know what they are doing. some of my family would sleep with them just because there were no crib and if they were breastfeeding. i can not see why that would be a problem of course my mother always said she would sleep better if we were not in the bed with her but then if we were sick then it was the other way around. if a person sleeps soundly it is not wise to do this. if they are taking meds that cause them to sleep so that it is hard for them to be woke up.
I sleep in bed with my babies. One pediatrician we had actually approved and pointed out that most of the world sleeps with their children. With my daughter, it lasted about six months or so and then I had to move her to her crib because I was pregnant and needed the room. My son is three weeks old and once he wake up from his initial put down, I bring him to bed with me.
I have slept with my babies. The plan was that they would sleep in their own beds but after those late night feedings it was just so nice to fall back to sleep with them next to me.After they were able to crawl around i was able to rest without fear of rolling on them.My kids would crawl into bed with me until they were about 8
Both of our sons slept in the bed with us when they were infants. Once they were around 6 months old they slept in a cosleeper thing right against the bed or in normal bassinet at least a few nights a week and the rest of the time in our bed. They went to their own rooms and cribs around 14/15 months. I think since they were used to sleeping in the bassinet already they both switched to their own crib/room very easily.
This is very similar to the cosleeper we used I'm not sure what you call these exactly?
http://www.amazon.com/gp/customer-media/…
I do! I love cuddling with my baby at night... and he loves sleeping with his mommy so it works out. He's 2 months old... and we will continue to do so until he consistently sleeps throughout the night and he can move to his own bed. I'm a light sleeper so i dont worry about rolling over on him.
Yep! We do. Our daughter co-slept for about 2 years. Her transition to her own bed went incredibly smoothly.
Our son is 10 months. He goes down in the crib, and when he wakes up for his feed, I bring him in with us. We'll handle the transition with our son the same as we did with our daughter.
I hope this helps!
I am currently still co-sleeping with my daughter, and she is 27mo. Daddy is deployed at the moment, so there's never been a real reason to change that..and frankly, both of us get a great night's sleep.
When he comes home (in two weeks...Yay!) we might try her toddler bed, but it won't be pushed, and if she's not ready, that's okay too.
I slept with my daughter from age 2 months to 5.5 months. It was very unsafe for ME. I was always worrying about her suffocating. She sleeps in a mini crib next to my bed and that works out much better. I sleep much better now knowing that she's safe.
We do, most of the time, since he was 2months old
Whenever we want time alone or to sleep more comfortably he's moved to his own bed but he likes to sleep with us, so we let him.
He's 13mo and we've never had a problem
My sister and my husband like co-sleeping, but I can't because I'm too worried I'll squish the baby. On the other hand, they worry when the baby is too far away from them... a very personal question with polarized opinions from the experts!
we did for at least the first 6 months, then moved to the pack and play in our room, then finally to her crib. she still comes in for snuggles around 4 am--she just turned 1 yr.
My son is four months old now and sleeps with me every night since he was born. I feel more safe knowing that he is right next to me if anything happens.
I do in the morning when my husband leaves. Just some cuddle time between mommy and baby.
Our daughter slept in bed with us usually half of the night from birth until about 5 months
We practice bed sharing in our family. Our daughter slept with us until a year old. :)
What can parents do to help their daughter who have mental disorder?
My 20 years old daughter, Soo Hui has been having mental disorder since 2004. My wife and I had being trying all kind of ways to help her. But until now still haven't find any useful way to take care of her. All we do now is pray and hopefully someone can really give a help or opinons to us in handle this problems.
My daughter is a very quite person since she aged around 13 as far as I know. She seldom mix with other peopel. All the while, she is alone and do things by herself. People are hard to communicate with her even my family members as she seldom respone to us when we ask her something. Until one day in year 2004, her behaviour start to change drastically. She start to get angry easily when something go wrong and throw things in the house... Things get worst as we had ignored her for a time and now not know how to handle it.What can parents do to help their daughter who have mental disorder?
She needs to see a professional. You could begin with a visit to the local emergency room next time she acts out. They will help you to get her the help she may need.
Also, I must recommend to you that you should not use a person's actual real name in these public areas. It is a violation of her privacy and it could actually result in someone taking advantage of her or cost her her job or friendships. Try to keep your daughter's private business confidential. We don't need to know her name.What can parents do to help their daughter who have mental disorder?
My heart goes out to you........It is so hard sometimes to understand what is going on in our kids minds. It sounds like it could be alot of things, so my best advice is to take her to a psychiatrist, counselor or psycologist and go from there.
I have a daughter that was diagnosed with selective mutism. It was rough at first, but with therapy (no drugs!) and counseling she is doing great. She is talking to people, and living like a normal child. She is still very sensitive, and gets frightened easy, but she is learning how to deal with it. Good luck, I will pray for you and your family.
Always see a good psychiatrist. N love her no matter wat. I was such a daughter
You shouldn't have ignored her. Take her to a hospital for a physical exam and to see a psychologist or psychiatrist. Maybe something happened to her that she isn't telling anyone. I hope nothing happened to her to put her in this state of mind. Encourage her to be more outgoing. Good Luck!
If you find that even patient communication doesn't seem to help, I think it's time for you to meet with your family doctor to discuss a course of action.
She might be dealing with a physiological issue that could be remedied with medication, or maybe the doctor could recommend a psychiatrist or behavior analyst to help with your daughter's particular case.
You've made the first step in realizing that you need a little advise, so continue and don't give up. I wish you the best of luck.
My mom has a severe mental condition called Schizophrenia, we went to a Crisis Center and they offered her daytime group therapy, it is free. If she is put on medications and you cannot afford them, ask what medical you may be offered to cover the costs. She definately needs some kind of help, find a crisis center in your area. She probably does not have schizophrenia but she has something wrong.
Have you taken her in to see a therapist?
She needs to be seen by a therapist. Someone that is non-biased and can talk to you daughter to find out what her issues are. Your daughter will probably benefit from regular counseling sessions and perhaps medication as well.
I am the mom of a daughter with Bipolar and I am Bipolar as well. Without counseling and medication, I wouldn't be able to function.
You need to take her to a psychiatrist, if she will go. The time to have taken her was at age 13 when she became mentally ill. You had the right to take her then. Now, she is an adult and you do not have the right any longer UNLESS she hurts herself or others. Then, you can call the police, have her arrested and put into a mental hospital. If you live in the U.S. call your local chapter of NAMI (National Alliance for the Mentally Ill). They can tell you what your options are. If you live outside the U.S., ask a doctor what you can do. Good luck and God Bless you.
they have to be more careful about them%26amp;just show more love to be happy
My daughter is a very quite person since she aged around 13 as far as I know. She seldom mix with other peopel. All the while, she is alone and do things by herself. People are hard to communicate with her even my family members as she seldom respone to us when we ask her something. Until one day in year 2004, her behaviour start to change drastically. She start to get angry easily when something go wrong and throw things in the house... Things get worst as we had ignored her for a time and now not know how to handle it.What can parents do to help their daughter who have mental disorder?
She needs to see a professional. You could begin with a visit to the local emergency room next time she acts out. They will help you to get her the help she may need.
Also, I must recommend to you that you should not use a person's actual real name in these public areas. It is a violation of her privacy and it could actually result in someone taking advantage of her or cost her her job or friendships. Try to keep your daughter's private business confidential. We don't need to know her name.What can parents do to help their daughter who have mental disorder?
My heart goes out to you........It is so hard sometimes to understand what is going on in our kids minds. It sounds like it could be alot of things, so my best advice is to take her to a psychiatrist, counselor or psycologist and go from there.
I have a daughter that was diagnosed with selective mutism. It was rough at first, but with therapy (no drugs!) and counseling she is doing great. She is talking to people, and living like a normal child. She is still very sensitive, and gets frightened easy, but she is learning how to deal with it. Good luck, I will pray for you and your family.
Always see a good psychiatrist. N love her no matter wat. I was such a daughter
You shouldn't have ignored her. Take her to a hospital for a physical exam and to see a psychologist or psychiatrist. Maybe something happened to her that she isn't telling anyone. I hope nothing happened to her to put her in this state of mind. Encourage her to be more outgoing. Good Luck!
If you find that even patient communication doesn't seem to help, I think it's time for you to meet with your family doctor to discuss a course of action.
She might be dealing with a physiological issue that could be remedied with medication, or maybe the doctor could recommend a psychiatrist or behavior analyst to help with your daughter's particular case.
You've made the first step in realizing that you need a little advise, so continue and don't give up. I wish you the best of luck.
My mom has a severe mental condition called Schizophrenia, we went to a Crisis Center and they offered her daytime group therapy, it is free. If she is put on medications and you cannot afford them, ask what medical you may be offered to cover the costs. She definately needs some kind of help, find a crisis center in your area. She probably does not have schizophrenia but she has something wrong.
Have you taken her in to see a therapist?
She needs to be seen by a therapist. Someone that is non-biased and can talk to you daughter to find out what her issues are. Your daughter will probably benefit from regular counseling sessions and perhaps medication as well.
I am the mom of a daughter with Bipolar and I am Bipolar as well. Without counseling and medication, I wouldn't be able to function.
You need to take her to a psychiatrist, if she will go. The time to have taken her was at age 13 when she became mentally ill. You had the right to take her then. Now, she is an adult and you do not have the right any longer UNLESS she hurts herself or others. Then, you can call the police, have her arrested and put into a mental hospital. If you live in the U.S. call your local chapter of NAMI (National Alliance for the Mentally Ill). They can tell you what your options are. If you live outside the U.S., ask a doctor what you can do. Good luck and God Bless you.
they have to be more careful about them%26amp;just show more love to be happy
What are some tips about moving out of parents home to own place?
What are some things I should start doing to plan to move in own place?What are some tips about moving out of parents home to own place?
Save as much $ as you can. You will be amazed at how much money things will add up to. Keep your credit in order. You may want to be on the look-out in the thrift-stores and store sales for household items you can use.What are some tips about moving out of parents home to own place?
Saving money for things you forgot or didn't know about like a shower curtain or utility deposit.
Decide on your style of decorating, do you require everything to be perfect? If you demand perfection it is expensive so you will need to save longer. If you will make due with what you can get tell all your family you are accepting their old furniture and other household items if they replace what they have now.
The used furniture was great for my nephew I gave him a sectional and his grandma gave him her table and chairs. They were good enough for us but we wanted to buy and giving him our old stuff was good for everyone. He loves the dining room but replaced the sectional when he had the money. Even if you only keep things a year or two at least you can budget for the replacements.
Most aunts and grandmas will have some towels or something they want you to have. When they offer don't insult their stuff just say you already have that taken care of then go buy your own. Or accept then when you buy your own you can Freecycle the gifts or offer them back the the giver.
hi- steveko is totally on target when he says to save as much money as you can and to keep your credit score as high as you can ( your credit score affects everything from getting a job to insurance rates to even renting a storage unit!)
as far as furnishing your place cheaply, ask your parents and your parent's friends about stuff they want to get rid of but just don't want to throw away. as people tend to accumulate so much stuff they will welcome a chance to get rid of it without feeling wasteful.
lastly,and this is really important, learn to cook! the biggest budget buster is eating out. go food shopping with your mom now and get acquainted with prices of various items and notice how much more pre prepared and convenience foods cost.
Save as much $ as you can. You will be amazed at how much money things will add up to. Keep your credit in order. You may want to be on the look-out in the thrift-stores and store sales for household items you can use.What are some tips about moving out of parents home to own place?
Saving money for things you forgot or didn't know about like a shower curtain or utility deposit.
Decide on your style of decorating, do you require everything to be perfect? If you demand perfection it is expensive so you will need to save longer. If you will make due with what you can get tell all your family you are accepting their old furniture and other household items if they replace what they have now.
The used furniture was great for my nephew I gave him a sectional and his grandma gave him her table and chairs. They were good enough for us but we wanted to buy and giving him our old stuff was good for everyone. He loves the dining room but replaced the sectional when he had the money. Even if you only keep things a year or two at least you can budget for the replacements.
Most aunts and grandmas will have some towels or something they want you to have. When they offer don't insult their stuff just say you already have that taken care of then go buy your own. Or accept then when you buy your own you can Freecycle the gifts or offer them back the the giver.
hi- steveko is totally on target when he says to save as much money as you can and to keep your credit score as high as you can ( your credit score affects everything from getting a job to insurance rates to even renting a storage unit!)
as far as furnishing your place cheaply, ask your parents and your parent's friends about stuff they want to get rid of but just don't want to throw away. as people tend to accumulate so much stuff they will welcome a chance to get rid of it without feeling wasteful.
lastly,and this is really important, learn to cook! the biggest budget buster is eating out. go food shopping with your mom now and get acquainted with prices of various items and notice how much more pre prepared and convenience foods cost.
Any ideas on what to do for my parents 25th Anniversary suprise party?
I know to use silver. I just dont know what to do for food and decorations.Any ideas on what to do for my parents 25th Anniversary suprise party?
Go to a dollar store or Big Lots, and get some clear glass vases/jars in different sizes. You can buy bags of iridescent pebbles at the dollar store (by the candles or floral supplies), and put a couple of inches in each vase; stand a silver candle up in each one. Do a simple crepe runner down the table, under the vases, in blue or black, and sprinkle silver metallic glitter or confetti down it.... You can probably find cheap silver chargers for under the plates at Big Lots, if you're having a sit-down dinner. Napkins can be tied with silver mylar ribbon ... I'd have some appetizers: Spinach Dip; veggie %26amp; dip tray; fruit platter ... and whatever main dish you're comfortable making:} A casserole or lasagna would be easiest, with a green salad. Have some platters and tiered trays with small cookies, mini-cheesecakes, chocolate-covered strawberries, brownies out - even if you're having a cake .... Have fun! (Our 25th is in Jan., but if my daughters are planning anything, that's a REAL surprise to me!)Any ideas on what to do for my parents 25th Anniversary suprise party?
You could kind of ''recreate'; their wedding reception. Ask family members what was served at their wedding and have menu reflect that. Or, if you still live nearby, organize the party to be at the same restaurant where he proposed, or something meaningful like that... Also, for decorations, you could (and I think should) find and enlarge some of their wedding photos, and print them at poster size (shutterfly.com does this). I'd use 'silver' as a guide for decorations, or also use their wedding colors. A slideshow of photos makes a nice keepsake and great entertainment for the evening. And you should make a playlist or CDs of songs they love, including their wedding songs. Have fun...
You could have it catered or at a restaurant. For my grandparents 50th we had it at a restaurant, fancy place where you can rent a party room out.
The site below shows you different decorations for 25th year.
Silver plates/cups, silvery table clothes...
have a 3 or 4 course here are some idears
starters
tomato and baisl soup
garlic bread or dough balls
prawns in a chill sauce
fruit plater
main
steck and pepersauce with chips and veg
roast chicken
spagette bolgaase
curry and nan
roast beef
toad in the hole
dessert
ice cream sundee in a glass with sauce and sprikles and a sparkler
a picture cake
apple pie
sponge cake
all so have like nuts or appetizers when they come in
or a take ot if ur not good cook
good luck
Go to a dollar store or Big Lots, and get some clear glass vases/jars in different sizes. You can buy bags of iridescent pebbles at the dollar store (by the candles or floral supplies), and put a couple of inches in each vase; stand a silver candle up in each one. Do a simple crepe runner down the table, under the vases, in blue or black, and sprinkle silver metallic glitter or confetti down it.... You can probably find cheap silver chargers for under the plates at Big Lots, if you're having a sit-down dinner. Napkins can be tied with silver mylar ribbon ... I'd have some appetizers: Spinach Dip; veggie %26amp; dip tray; fruit platter ... and whatever main dish you're comfortable making:} A casserole or lasagna would be easiest, with a green salad. Have some platters and tiered trays with small cookies, mini-cheesecakes, chocolate-covered strawberries, brownies out - even if you're having a cake .... Have fun! (Our 25th is in Jan., but if my daughters are planning anything, that's a REAL surprise to me!)Any ideas on what to do for my parents 25th Anniversary suprise party?
You could kind of ''recreate'; their wedding reception. Ask family members what was served at their wedding and have menu reflect that. Or, if you still live nearby, organize the party to be at the same restaurant where he proposed, or something meaningful like that... Also, for decorations, you could (and I think should) find and enlarge some of their wedding photos, and print them at poster size (shutterfly.com does this). I'd use 'silver' as a guide for decorations, or also use their wedding colors. A slideshow of photos makes a nice keepsake and great entertainment for the evening. And you should make a playlist or CDs of songs they love, including their wedding songs. Have fun...
You could have it catered or at a restaurant. For my grandparents 50th we had it at a restaurant, fancy place where you can rent a party room out.
The site below shows you different decorations for 25th year.
Silver plates/cups, silvery table clothes...
have a 3 or 4 course here are some idears
starters
tomato and baisl soup
garlic bread or dough balls
prawns in a chill sauce
fruit plater
main
steck and pepersauce with chips and veg
roast chicken
spagette bolgaase
curry and nan
roast beef
toad in the hole
dessert
ice cream sundee in a glass with sauce and sprikles and a sparkler
a picture cake
apple pie
sponge cake
all so have like nuts or appetizers when they come in
or a take ot if ur not good cook
good luck
How do you have a family with divorced parents? Also what do you tell your kids about grandma and grandpa?
My parents are divorced and its not going to be the same as im used to around the holidays. No more family activities such as putting up lights and the tree or baking cookies? When i have kids what am i supposed to tell them? That grandma and grandpa are not together and they each have their own place and someone else they love?How do you have a family with divorced parents? Also what do you tell your kids about grandma and grandpa?
My parents are divorced. My dad lives out of state and my mom is just a couple of hours away. My daughter is 6 years old and knowing that my parents aren't together has never really been a big issue. When she asked, I told her that my dad lives in Tennessee. It is too far for him to come visit us. She has never questioned why grandma isn't married to him. But she has questioned why people get divorced, and I told her that sometimes people realize that they don't love each other the right way to be married. When that happens - they get a divorce. It usually ends up with them being happier than they would be if they were fighting all the time, and it gives them the chance to find someone they can be in love with. ... This rule applies to grandparents too. Durring a talk similar to this is also a good time to mention that divorce is still sad though, and that is why it is important to make sure you found the right person before getting married. (and if they are old enough, you could change it to ';before having sex or getting married';)
You are right. It won't be the same when you do activities such as putting up a tree and baking cookies. But you can still create good memories between your kids and your parents. When the holidays are here, the most important thing to me is that I make sure my daughter and I enjoy the preparations together. If my mom gets to come help, even better. If not, we invite over friends, neighbors, or other relatives. And last year my daughter and I got ready for Christmas by ourselves. It was still a special time.
You can save a few activities for each parent. Like you could have the kids bake cookies put up a tree. The other could go out with y'all to ride a train or find a wagon ride to go see Christmas lights. ... There are plenty of things to choose from. They could even just cuddle up with a book or movie and a cup of hot chocolate.
Don't worry. It will be ok. Even the cloud of divorce has its silver lining. And kids adjust well to this kind of stuff. Especially when they are raised with it just being the way things are.How do you have a family with divorced parents? Also what do you tell your kids about grandma and grandpa?
In my case my mother passed away before my daughter was born.......
my parents were divorced when I was 3 and my father is remarried.
My 5 year old daughter knows that ';Grandpa'; is mummy`s father and that mummy`s mother died (she has visited the grave). ';Nana'; is not mummy`s mother but she is Auntie .........`s mummy (my step-sister)
I never really explained about divorce in our case.....and it doesn`t seem to be a problem. Actually the bad feelings I have for my step-mother don`t apply when it comes to my daughter. She may not be my mother, but she is certainly my daughters grandmother.
Once you have your own children, YOU are in charge of making traditions (which is so much fun!!) You can take what you liked from growing up and add others as you go.
I am sure you feel so sad about the loss of the family and family traditions you knew - but your child will not feel that. If everyone behaves well, you will have 3 sets of loving grandparents (I believe you should give the step-parents the grandparent title, even if you don`t give the parent title)
Just because your parents are divorced doesnt mean that you cant have those things that you love about holidays .. the lights, the cookies. It may not be exactly the same but you can still do them with your mom and with your dad. You cant change anything .. it is what it is .. so just enjoy those things that you've always enjoyed.
When you're a parent someday .. tell your kids the truth .. that grandma and grandpa loved each other but werent able to make it together. It stinks that you'll have to make choices about where to go etc. but, again, you cant change it. All you can do is make the most of what you do have. I was angry and hurt for a long time after my parents. I always felt i had to choose one over the other when it came to holidays . and that felt unfair. But .. eventually you just have to let it go. I came to just be glad that i had both of my parents .. even if they werent together.
Good luck ...
You tell them the truth.
My parents are divorced. My dad lives out of state and my mom is just a couple of hours away. My daughter is 6 years old and knowing that my parents aren't together has never really been a big issue. When she asked, I told her that my dad lives in Tennessee. It is too far for him to come visit us. She has never questioned why grandma isn't married to him. But she has questioned why people get divorced, and I told her that sometimes people realize that they don't love each other the right way to be married. When that happens - they get a divorce. It usually ends up with them being happier than they would be if they were fighting all the time, and it gives them the chance to find someone they can be in love with. ... This rule applies to grandparents too. Durring a talk similar to this is also a good time to mention that divorce is still sad though, and that is why it is important to make sure you found the right person before getting married. (and if they are old enough, you could change it to ';before having sex or getting married';)
You are right. It won't be the same when you do activities such as putting up a tree and baking cookies. But you can still create good memories between your kids and your parents. When the holidays are here, the most important thing to me is that I make sure my daughter and I enjoy the preparations together. If my mom gets to come help, even better. If not, we invite over friends, neighbors, or other relatives. And last year my daughter and I got ready for Christmas by ourselves. It was still a special time.
You can save a few activities for each parent. Like you could have the kids bake cookies put up a tree. The other could go out with y'all to ride a train or find a wagon ride to go see Christmas lights. ... There are plenty of things to choose from. They could even just cuddle up with a book or movie and a cup of hot chocolate.
Don't worry. It will be ok. Even the cloud of divorce has its silver lining. And kids adjust well to this kind of stuff. Especially when they are raised with it just being the way things are.How do you have a family with divorced parents? Also what do you tell your kids about grandma and grandpa?
In my case my mother passed away before my daughter was born.......
my parents were divorced when I was 3 and my father is remarried.
My 5 year old daughter knows that ';Grandpa'; is mummy`s father and that mummy`s mother died (she has visited the grave). ';Nana'; is not mummy`s mother but she is Auntie .........`s mummy (my step-sister)
I never really explained about divorce in our case.....and it doesn`t seem to be a problem. Actually the bad feelings I have for my step-mother don`t apply when it comes to my daughter. She may not be my mother, but she is certainly my daughters grandmother.
Once you have your own children, YOU are in charge of making traditions (which is so much fun!!) You can take what you liked from growing up and add others as you go.
I am sure you feel so sad about the loss of the family and family traditions you knew - but your child will not feel that. If everyone behaves well, you will have 3 sets of loving grandparents (I believe you should give the step-parents the grandparent title, even if you don`t give the parent title)
Just because your parents are divorced doesnt mean that you cant have those things that you love about holidays .. the lights, the cookies. It may not be exactly the same but you can still do them with your mom and with your dad. You cant change anything .. it is what it is .. so just enjoy those things that you've always enjoyed.
When you're a parent someday .. tell your kids the truth .. that grandma and grandpa loved each other but werent able to make it together. It stinks that you'll have to make choices about where to go etc. but, again, you cant change it. All you can do is make the most of what you do have. I was angry and hurt for a long time after my parents. I always felt i had to choose one over the other when it came to holidays . and that felt unfair. But .. eventually you just have to let it go. I came to just be glad that i had both of my parents .. even if they werent together.
Good luck ...
You tell them the truth.
Can you deduct student loan interest if your parents are paying them?
The loans are in my name but my parents help pay them back, does that mean I can't deduct the interest from my tax return?Can you deduct student loan interest if your parents are paying them?
If they are in your name, you get the deduction. The loan company reports the interest in the name of the borrower. They don't care who pays. It means your parents can't claim the interest deduction.Can you deduct student loan interest if your parents are paying them?
your student loan is an adjustment to income... if your parents paid..then im guessing it wasnt an adjustment to your income :) so no, you cant write that off :)
If they are in your name, you get the deduction. The loan company reports the interest in the name of the borrower. They don't care who pays. It means your parents can't claim the interest deduction.Can you deduct student loan interest if your parents are paying them?
your student loan is an adjustment to income... if your parents paid..then im guessing it wasnt an adjustment to your income :) so no, you cant write that off :)
How do i gain forgiveness from my parents?
Today i got into an argument with my parents. It escalated and i called my mom a *****. I didnt mean it, it sorta just came out. How do i get forgiveness from my parents?How do i gain forgiveness from my parents?
Apologize to her and your Father then ask them what your punishment should be.
Take it like a man!How do i gain forgiveness from my parents?
1) If you're really sorry, apologize from the heart. They'll see it.
2) analyze the argument that led to the name-calling, if you were at fault, apologize for that first. It will show true contrition.
3) Begin with ';Mom (or whatever you call her) I'm sorry I called you a bad name, I was angry, and really didn't mean it. I really don't think that of you...... Man, the rest is up to you, I mean what do you really think of her? If you're for real, they'll forgive you, if you mend your ways.
I never have called my parents such a name.
But I have said hurtful things in the past.
They always except a hug and kiss, they never rejected it.
The best forgiveness is the one they will have for you when you realized you made a mistake and never again say that.
Just ask for it. You probably hurt your mom's feelings big time, but if you apologize and truly mean it, she'll forgive you.
my goodness dude! jeez. learn to respect your parents first. they brought you into this world, and they took care of your silly adolescent behind. apologize from the heart.
apologize and pray about it:)
Jesus loves you
ask for it. Your parents should understand you were mad. It make take a while but you'll get there.
just say sorry and take the punishment!skin
Apologize to her and your Father then ask them what your punishment should be.
Take it like a man!How do i gain forgiveness from my parents?
1) If you're really sorry, apologize from the heart. They'll see it.
2) analyze the argument that led to the name-calling, if you were at fault, apologize for that first. It will show true contrition.
3) Begin with ';Mom (or whatever you call her) I'm sorry I called you a bad name, I was angry, and really didn't mean it. I really don't think that of you...... Man, the rest is up to you, I mean what do you really think of her? If you're for real, they'll forgive you, if you mend your ways.
I never have called my parents such a name.
But I have said hurtful things in the past.
They always except a hug and kiss, they never rejected it.
The best forgiveness is the one they will have for you when you realized you made a mistake and never again say that.
Just ask for it. You probably hurt your mom's feelings big time, but if you apologize and truly mean it, she'll forgive you.
my goodness dude! jeez. learn to respect your parents first. they brought you into this world, and they took care of your silly adolescent behind. apologize from the heart.
apologize and pray about it:)
Jesus loves you
ask for it. Your parents should understand you were mad. It make take a while but you'll get there.
just say sorry and take the punishment!
What are some tips on convincing your parents to let you get a dog?
I already have a dog but its 8 yrs old. and i have been dieng to get a small dog that i can have all to myself.What are some tips on convincing your parents to let you get a dog?
Crap on the floor, then clean it up yourself to show them how responsible you are. Hope this helps! Good luck!What are some tips on convincing your parents to let you get a dog?
If you already have one dog, and clean up after it and take care of it, then that should do it right there. Plus, 2 dogs are really not that much more work than 1 dog. In fact, when i got my second dog, my first dog became much less demanding of me. Also with an older dog, sometimes it helps them to get a younger dog in the house. My in-laws had an 11 year old dog that was very lethargic and then got a puppy and their 11 year old became much more energetic and happy. If they are not sure, talk to a dog foster agency about letting you foster a dog. Your parents might be more amenable to a fostering than buying a dog outright. Plus you can help keep a dog from being possibly euthanized and free up other foster parents. If you prove to your parents with the foster dog that you are capable of taking care of 2 dogs, then they might let you either adopt your foster, or let you get your own after the foster puppy is adopted out. Good luck!
Well for starters, how about trying the following:
#1 Cleaning your room and making sure that it STAYS clean and tidy.
#2 Making sure that your homework is done and handed in on time.
#3 Sweep the floors in the living room and kitchen without your parents asking you to.
#4 Wash and/or dry the dishes.
#5 Do not fight and argue with your sisters %26amp; brothers.
#6 Eat what you are given and don't whine or make ';yuck'; faces when given it.
#7 Don't talk rudly to adults
#8 Always share with other kids.
#9 Go to bed when you are told to.
#10 Research the pet and breed you want to be 100% certain that it is the right one for you.
# 11 Ask them about getting this new pet in a nice way and don't beg and whine about it.
If 100% sure that if you give those a try, they will see that you are serious about wanting to add a this pet to your life and family. :)
Well if you took or take care of that dog really well and still take care of business then i say thats is your strongest point tell them that responsibility is the key to structure and patience. and then remind them how well you were doing with this one dog.
There ya go:
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Best of luck.
Be very clean!
Bring Home Good Grades
Show Them You Are Responsible
STRESS THE ISSUE OVER AND OVER THAT YOU DESERVE A DOG MORE SO THAN WANT 1
You show them how responsible you are, do well in school (if your doing bad they would want you to focus more)
yes i agree with the above poster. tell them it will help you learn responsibility which teaches patience and structure.
Tell them it teaches responsibility and many other qualities
Have good grades.
Crap on the floor, then clean it up yourself to show them how responsible you are. Hope this helps! Good luck!What are some tips on convincing your parents to let you get a dog?
If you already have one dog, and clean up after it and take care of it, then that should do it right there. Plus, 2 dogs are really not that much more work than 1 dog. In fact, when i got my second dog, my first dog became much less demanding of me. Also with an older dog, sometimes it helps them to get a younger dog in the house. My in-laws had an 11 year old dog that was very lethargic and then got a puppy and their 11 year old became much more energetic and happy. If they are not sure, talk to a dog foster agency about letting you foster a dog. Your parents might be more amenable to a fostering than buying a dog outright. Plus you can help keep a dog from being possibly euthanized and free up other foster parents. If you prove to your parents with the foster dog that you are capable of taking care of 2 dogs, then they might let you either adopt your foster, or let you get your own after the foster puppy is adopted out. Good luck!
Well for starters, how about trying the following:
#1 Cleaning your room and making sure that it STAYS clean and tidy.
#2 Making sure that your homework is done and handed in on time.
#3 Sweep the floors in the living room and kitchen without your parents asking you to.
#4 Wash and/or dry the dishes.
#5 Do not fight and argue with your sisters %26amp; brothers.
#6 Eat what you are given and don't whine or make ';yuck'; faces when given it.
#7 Don't talk rudly to adults
#8 Always share with other kids.
#9 Go to bed when you are told to.
#10 Research the pet and breed you want to be 100% certain that it is the right one for you.
# 11 Ask them about getting this new pet in a nice way and don't beg and whine about it.
If 100% sure that if you give those a try, they will see that you are serious about wanting to add a this pet to your life and family. :)
Well if you took or take care of that dog really well and still take care of business then i say thats is your strongest point tell them that responsibility is the key to structure and patience. and then remind them how well you were doing with this one dog.
There ya go:
http://answers.yahoo.com/search/search_r鈥?/a>
This question gets asked about 200 times a day.
Best of luck.
Be very clean!
Bring Home Good Grades
Show Them You Are Responsible
STRESS THE ISSUE OVER AND OVER THAT YOU DESERVE A DOG MORE SO THAN WANT 1
You show them how responsible you are, do well in school (if your doing bad they would want you to focus more)
yes i agree with the above poster. tell them it will help you learn responsibility which teaches patience and structure.
Tell them it teaches responsibility and many other qualities
Have good grades.
What kind of gift to give to parents adopting a six year old child?
I have friends who are adopting a child who they have been foster parents to for 2 years. I have seen many gifts for couples adopting a baby, but none for older adoptions. Is it appropriate to give a gift to the child, the parent, both or a gift for the whole family? And what to give? I want to be thoughtful but not inappropritate. Any suggestions would be appreciated.What kind of gift to give to parents adopting a six year old child?
Maybe a voucher to go to a photographer and have a family portrait done. It could be the centre piece of their homeWhat kind of gift to give to parents adopting a six year old child?
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it is definitely appropriate to give a gift and mark the joyous occasion. I am a lover of books and look for any opportunity to give books. A six yr old is definitely old enough for lots of great books -- that he can read to himself shortly if not already and also ones that can be read to him. Picture books and chpater books are appropriate. There are so many really good ones!! Megatooth (about giant sharks from the dinsaur era), One Morning in Maine (about losing a tooth), Charlotte's Web, Little Bear, Frog and Toad.
In my experience I have seen people give each of the family members a separate gift, and also do a family gift (since it鈥檚 about celebrating becoming/being a family). The last adoption I was part of was that of 2 sisters that were 7 %26amp; 9 one of the gifts they were given (each their own) was a family tree picture frame that included their birth and adoptive families. If the birth family is not involved I would try to find/include/or at least leave some space for pictures of the child prior to the adoption. As you well know these kids are starting new but they are still of their past and need to embrace all of who they are and where they come from. I thought that was just darling and thoughtful. Also you could go to one of those keepsake shops and get something with an engraving on it for each or the whole family. Passes to water and amusement parks and other family friendly places are always good too. You could name a star after the child or family. The family portrait is a good idea too. The savings bonds and things are good but are never really appreciated, and are impersonal; and you never know what the child is gonna do or be like when they are old enough to cash it in. Gift certificates get used for little insignificant things, and again not very personable.
I guess my feeling is that a gift that everyone enjoys and can endure over time to reflect the memory is most appropriate, since it is truly a family celebration. Although I bet if you threw in a coupon for a night of babysitting the parents would really like that as well. (There鈥檚 likely to be no more respite care after adoption.) Best wishes to your friend鈥檚 new family. You made me smile; love hearing about permanent placements that that have happy endings.:-)
Sarcastic answer--tranquilizers
Serious answer--a gift card to Blockbuster and a gift basket with popcorn and snacks, or a gift card to the local movie theater. Stuff they can do as a family.
Books! DVD's, gift certificates for sure. One of the best gift certificates is one to Target. The store has so many items that mom and dad can choose what they really need for him and get more bang for the buck. One of the best gifts of all for an adoptee and their family is the loving support of friends and family. Educate yourself on adoption. There is an ';adoption language'; that most are not prepared for. The do's and don'ts, on what to say and ';how'; to say it. If you have children, educate them as well.
GET SOMETHING THAT A 6 YEAR OLD LIKES.
AND IF YOU WHAT TO GET SOMETHING FOR THE WHOLE FAMILY DO THAT TOO. YOU CAN GIVE A GIFT CARD FOR THE FAMILY TO USE AS THEY NEED IT. IF THE 6 YRS OLD IS A BOY YOU CAN GET HIM CARS,ARMY MAN,WRESTING FIGURES.BUT IF IT IS A GIRL.THEN GET DOLLS,CLOTHES,OR JUST TAKE THEM SHOPPING WITH YOU TO PICK SOMETHING OUT.
Give them a gift card to get a family picture taken together. Or a pass for a family outing.... zoo, park.... museum.
a statue of david...i dont know
what about movie passes or dinner gift cert. that way they can celebrate together as a family.
you could also try certificates to roller skating, amusement parks, campgrounds, water parks or any other place like that in your area. it may be a nice way for them to get out as a family
wish them the best of luck
A nice scrapbook for them to record many more family memories to come.
I have found that a tactful gift choice is a gift certificate from an appropriate store. Maybe you know a child's clothing store that they go to, or perhaps they're Walmart junkies. Try to think of something personalized that will really be useful to them.
A great option for parents who are environmentally conscious or conservation minded is to make a donation in their name to a charity (there's a great one that gives farming animals to poor families), or to buy an acre of rainforest in the child's name. Always be sure to include a thoughtful card. Try a specialty stationary store instead of just getting one at the pharmacy - you can find really nice customized cards at specialty stores that will really show that you made the extra effort. Good luck!
How about a frame or even a gift certificate to have family pictures made! Great question though...
I guess any gift would be appreciated. But I think a family gift would be nice. Perhaps a gift certificate to a restaurant for all to enjoy. Or for movie rentals or circus tickets or some other family event.
You could buy for both the family and the child. Maybe a family gift could be a picture frame with the date of the adoption, you could even include a photo of the happy complete family if you have one.
For the child you could buy what you would buy any other child, clothes, toys, Savings Bonds, etc. They have actually had adoption baby showers before, but if you wanted to you could get some other friends together and throw the family a adoption/welcome to the family party and have people bring gifts.
Please extend Congratulations to your friends on their newest addition.
I would think the best way to go, would be a gift for the family. Something fun like movie passes or a gift certificate for dinner.
What about a book about parenting? Or if the boy is interested in sports you could give him some sports equipment suitable for his age.
If you are looking for a gift idea for the family, I do agree with the other responders about something for the family to do together or a professional portrait gift card. One of the favorite gifts we received for our adoption was a Precious Moments Adoption figurine because the child is shown as a ';child'; and not a baby.
If you are looking for a gift for the parents, how about a gift certificate for dinner and an offer to babysit?!?! The stress of adoption is very great and it will be such a huge relief once the adoption is final. It might be a nice treat to give them a night to themselves also.
Good luck to you.
Gift card to Toys R Us or a clothing store.....Old Navy, Gap.....kids go through clothes and shoes like nobody's business.....and you can never have enough toys!!
When I was adopted many moons ago, they had just come out with a scrapbook type thing called My Adoption. It was very unique for that time because it was the EARLY 1970's and adoption was still very ';hush hush';.
Get one for them. It's great because Mom and Dad can record literally EVERYTHING in there. I'm pretty certain you can get them a book stores, card shops, scrapbook stores, etc.
I still have mine. It has EVERYTHING from who was there when I came home, what I wore, what my home looked like, and even a ';reception sign in'; from fellow family's and friends.
the gift of the child alone is the best gift anyone could ever recieve...
You have some really good answers already.
Personally, when I have a friend that is having a baby or am invited to a kid's birthday party I buy the kids US Savings Bonds.
For the new parents, you could to a ';certificate'; for them to have a night out alone, a house cleaning, a dinner made for them. Just something nice that will give them somewhat of a break from their daily routine.
Something that they can use as a marker for the occasion, you can get trees planted in peoples names, or give them a tree to plan in their garden.
i think any token will do, but the most important of all is your moral support, love, appreciation, and the idea of ';being there'; in this kind of situation
Since the child is older maybe a gift certificate or money towards their education like a savings bond or see if they have a savings account for him or her.
something sentimental,such as
a visit to a professional photographer
a scrapbook of ';momentos'; from the last 2 years
a poem written by yourself?!
a pet?!
So far as I know, there are no limitations, It's really up to you--If in doubt-give money, that way the family will probably get something for the child.
Maybe a voucher to go to a photographer and have a family portrait done. It could be the centre piece of their homeWhat kind of gift to give to parents adopting a six year old child?
You can also try and engraved or personalized git at http://www.engravedwell.com
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it is definitely appropriate to give a gift and mark the joyous occasion. I am a lover of books and look for any opportunity to give books. A six yr old is definitely old enough for lots of great books -- that he can read to himself shortly if not already and also ones that can be read to him. Picture books and chpater books are appropriate. There are so many really good ones!! Megatooth (about giant sharks from the dinsaur era), One Morning in Maine (about losing a tooth), Charlotte's Web, Little Bear, Frog and Toad.
In my experience I have seen people give each of the family members a separate gift, and also do a family gift (since it鈥檚 about celebrating becoming/being a family). The last adoption I was part of was that of 2 sisters that were 7 %26amp; 9 one of the gifts they were given (each their own) was a family tree picture frame that included their birth and adoptive families. If the birth family is not involved I would try to find/include/or at least leave some space for pictures of the child prior to the adoption. As you well know these kids are starting new but they are still of their past and need to embrace all of who they are and where they come from. I thought that was just darling and thoughtful. Also you could go to one of those keepsake shops and get something with an engraving on it for each or the whole family. Passes to water and amusement parks and other family friendly places are always good too. You could name a star after the child or family. The family portrait is a good idea too. The savings bonds and things are good but are never really appreciated, and are impersonal; and you never know what the child is gonna do or be like when they are old enough to cash it in. Gift certificates get used for little insignificant things, and again not very personable.
I guess my feeling is that a gift that everyone enjoys and can endure over time to reflect the memory is most appropriate, since it is truly a family celebration. Although I bet if you threw in a coupon for a night of babysitting the parents would really like that as well. (There鈥檚 likely to be no more respite care after adoption.) Best wishes to your friend鈥檚 new family. You made me smile; love hearing about permanent placements that that have happy endings.:-)
Sarcastic answer--tranquilizers
Serious answer--a gift card to Blockbuster and a gift basket with popcorn and snacks, or a gift card to the local movie theater. Stuff they can do as a family.
Books! DVD's, gift certificates for sure. One of the best gift certificates is one to Target. The store has so many items that mom and dad can choose what they really need for him and get more bang for the buck. One of the best gifts of all for an adoptee and their family is the loving support of friends and family. Educate yourself on adoption. There is an ';adoption language'; that most are not prepared for. The do's and don'ts, on what to say and ';how'; to say it. If you have children, educate them as well.
GET SOMETHING THAT A 6 YEAR OLD LIKES.
AND IF YOU WHAT TO GET SOMETHING FOR THE WHOLE FAMILY DO THAT TOO. YOU CAN GIVE A GIFT CARD FOR THE FAMILY TO USE AS THEY NEED IT. IF THE 6 YRS OLD IS A BOY YOU CAN GET HIM CARS,ARMY MAN,WRESTING FIGURES.BUT IF IT IS A GIRL.THEN GET DOLLS,CLOTHES,OR JUST TAKE THEM SHOPPING WITH YOU TO PICK SOMETHING OUT.
Give them a gift card to get a family picture taken together. Or a pass for a family outing.... zoo, park.... museum.
a statue of david...i dont know
what about movie passes or dinner gift cert. that way they can celebrate together as a family.
you could also try certificates to roller skating, amusement parks, campgrounds, water parks or any other place like that in your area. it may be a nice way for them to get out as a family
wish them the best of luck
A nice scrapbook for them to record many more family memories to come.
I have found that a tactful gift choice is a gift certificate from an appropriate store. Maybe you know a child's clothing store that they go to, or perhaps they're Walmart junkies. Try to think of something personalized that will really be useful to them.
A great option for parents who are environmentally conscious or conservation minded is to make a donation in their name to a charity (there's a great one that gives farming animals to poor families), or to buy an acre of rainforest in the child's name. Always be sure to include a thoughtful card. Try a specialty stationary store instead of just getting one at the pharmacy - you can find really nice customized cards at specialty stores that will really show that you made the extra effort. Good luck!
How about a frame or even a gift certificate to have family pictures made! Great question though...
I guess any gift would be appreciated. But I think a family gift would be nice. Perhaps a gift certificate to a restaurant for all to enjoy. Or for movie rentals or circus tickets or some other family event.
You could buy for both the family and the child. Maybe a family gift could be a picture frame with the date of the adoption, you could even include a photo of the happy complete family if you have one.
For the child you could buy what you would buy any other child, clothes, toys, Savings Bonds, etc. They have actually had adoption baby showers before, but if you wanted to you could get some other friends together and throw the family a adoption/welcome to the family party and have people bring gifts.
Please extend Congratulations to your friends on their newest addition.
I would think the best way to go, would be a gift for the family. Something fun like movie passes or a gift certificate for dinner.
What about a book about parenting? Or if the boy is interested in sports you could give him some sports equipment suitable for his age.
If you are looking for a gift idea for the family, I do agree with the other responders about something for the family to do together or a professional portrait gift card. One of the favorite gifts we received for our adoption was a Precious Moments Adoption figurine because the child is shown as a ';child'; and not a baby.
If you are looking for a gift for the parents, how about a gift certificate for dinner and an offer to babysit?!?! The stress of adoption is very great and it will be such a huge relief once the adoption is final. It might be a nice treat to give them a night to themselves also.
Good luck to you.
Gift card to Toys R Us or a clothing store.....Old Navy, Gap.....kids go through clothes and shoes like nobody's business.....and you can never have enough toys!!
When I was adopted many moons ago, they had just come out with a scrapbook type thing called My Adoption. It was very unique for that time because it was the EARLY 1970's and adoption was still very ';hush hush';.
Get one for them. It's great because Mom and Dad can record literally EVERYTHING in there. I'm pretty certain you can get them a book stores, card shops, scrapbook stores, etc.
I still have mine. It has EVERYTHING from who was there when I came home, what I wore, what my home looked like, and even a ';reception sign in'; from fellow family's and friends.
the gift of the child alone is the best gift anyone could ever recieve...
You have some really good answers already.
Personally, when I have a friend that is having a baby or am invited to a kid's birthday party I buy the kids US Savings Bonds.
For the new parents, you could to a ';certificate'; for them to have a night out alone, a house cleaning, a dinner made for them. Just something nice that will give them somewhat of a break from their daily routine.
Something that they can use as a marker for the occasion, you can get trees planted in peoples names, or give them a tree to plan in their garden.
i think any token will do, but the most important of all is your moral support, love, appreciation, and the idea of ';being there'; in this kind of situation
Since the child is older maybe a gift certificate or money towards their education like a savings bond or see if they have a savings account for him or her.
something sentimental,such as
a visit to a professional photographer
a scrapbook of ';momentos'; from the last 2 years
a poem written by yourself?!
a pet?!
So far as I know, there are no limitations, It's really up to you--If in doubt-give money, that way the family will probably get something for the child.
What are some characteristics of a good parent?
I am taking a research course and we need to do some qualitative research. If you could come up with as many characteristics as possible I would appreciate it!
Thanks for helping!What are some characteristics of a good parent?
Good luck! I loved my research course.
A good parent is authoritative (as opposed to authoritarian) - they set guidelines for their children, yet allow enough latitude for the children to discover things on their own.
Consistency - the child absolutely knows what his/her boundaries are.
Communication - a good parent explains things to his children instead of simply saying ';because I said so.';
Openness - a good parent is open to allowing his children to have new experiences to expand their worlds
Unconditional love - a good parent can communicate to his children that he loves them no matter what. When the child disobeys or fails, the child needs to know that it is the action that the parent is displeased with, and not the child himself.
I hope this isn't too esoteric.What are some characteristics of a good parent?
Patience, reasonability, sense of humour, sense of fun, enough time for child...
loving, caring, affectionate, understanding, dependable
understanding, supportive, willing to spend time everyday with the child,
A good listener
Open %26amp; honest
Fair
Nuturing
Loving
Sets reasonable boundries / rules
Able to talk to your child without alot of anger
Sets a reasonable path for your child to follow
Supporting the child's views of his/her own path.
Teaching good values %26amp; respect
responsible
honest
flexible
accepting
non-judgmental
supportive
ethical
patient
hard-working
practical
intelligent
active
thoughtful
spending time w/ your child. Letting them know you love and care for them. Praising. Talking w/ them. Not spanking. Hugging them also. Actually do stuff that they like too not just you
the ability to dispense unconditional and constant hugs, kisses and ';i love yous !!!';
Thanks for helping!What are some characteristics of a good parent?
Good luck! I loved my research course.
A good parent is authoritative (as opposed to authoritarian) - they set guidelines for their children, yet allow enough latitude for the children to discover things on their own.
Consistency - the child absolutely knows what his/her boundaries are.
Communication - a good parent explains things to his children instead of simply saying ';because I said so.';
Openness - a good parent is open to allowing his children to have new experiences to expand their worlds
Unconditional love - a good parent can communicate to his children that he loves them no matter what. When the child disobeys or fails, the child needs to know that it is the action that the parent is displeased with, and not the child himself.
I hope this isn't too esoteric.What are some characteristics of a good parent?
Patience, reasonability, sense of humour, sense of fun, enough time for child...
loving, caring, affectionate, understanding, dependable
understanding, supportive, willing to spend time everyday with the child,
A good listener
Open %26amp; honest
Fair
Nuturing
Loving
Sets reasonable boundries / rules
Able to talk to your child without alot of anger
Sets a reasonable path for your child to follow
Supporting the child's views of his/her own path.
Teaching good values %26amp; respect
responsible
honest
flexible
accepting
non-judgmental
supportive
ethical
patient
hard-working
practical
intelligent
active
thoughtful
spending time w/ your child. Letting them know you love and care for them. Praising. Talking w/ them. Not spanking. Hugging them also. Actually do stuff that they like too not just you
the ability to dispense unconditional and constant hugs, kisses and ';i love yous !!!';
What happens if your under 18 and Parent cannot show up for minors subpoena?
If i am not able to make it to a different county for a court subpoena what happens to my parent? If my parent needs to be at work? What are the consequences. I dont think being arrested pertains to me though or my mom and we only got a phone call and no subpoena delivered. I am not in trouble but need to show up against someone. So no case is against me.What happens if your under 18 and Parent cannot show up for minors subpoena?
I take this to mean you are a witness in a case against someone else, if so %26amp; you have not been served a subpeona to appear you do not have to attend. A request by phone is just that - a Request. So there should not be any consequences. You need to take into account though whether - a) this was a serious crime b) how important is your testimony to the case c) how not testifying would effect the outcome of the case (such as an innocent person be convicted, or a criminal not be convicted)
Mainly, how relevant is your info. in the case, are there other witnesses who will disclose the same facts you are attesting too. If it were a major case %26amp; your statements were detremental to the case I would think a subpeona would be involved. Either way- good luck %26amp; I am glad the case is not against you, keep it that way - keep setting a good example for the other youth in our society.
I take this to mean you are a witness in a case against someone else, if so %26amp; you have not been served a subpeona to appear you do not have to attend. A request by phone is just that - a Request. So there should not be any consequences. You need to take into account though whether - a) this was a serious crime b) how important is your testimony to the case c) how not testifying would effect the outcome of the case (such as an innocent person be convicted, or a criminal not be convicted)
Mainly, how relevant is your info. in the case, are there other witnesses who will disclose the same facts you are attesting too. If it were a major case %26amp; your statements were detremental to the case I would think a subpeona would be involved. Either way- good luck %26amp; I am glad the case is not against you, keep it that way - keep setting a good example for the other youth in our society.
Parents: What age did you let your teenager start going to real parties?
Im asking because, my 16 year old daughter frequently gets invited to parties, but I make her turn them down because I dont want her there. She's a good kid (gets good grades, doesnt drink, smoke, do drugs, etc) I just dont feel comfortable with it.
she thinks Im being unfair because she really wants to go to a party just to hang out with friends and see what its like.
so, what age did (or would) you let your kids go to real parties?Parents: What age did you let your teenager start going to real parties?
Uhmm, i think you should start lettting her go.
I mean, she's 16. She is capable of driving and
she's almost an adult. If she's a good kid, you
should trust her. If you don't let her go, how is
she ever going to get the feel of stuff like that?
Just saying, but its your choice. your the parent.
:DParents: What age did you let your teenager start going to real parties?
Well when I was a teenager my mother started let me go to parties that involved just my group of friends (guys/girls) from 8th grade on. It didn't do me any harm at all, we just all hungout and listened to music and ate pizza. It's good to be social, if she stays hibernated away from social life she will get self conscious as time goes on. I personally think it's great that my mom trusted me early on, it always made us have a stronger relationship, I could tell her anything. Your acting as though you don't trust her, she is a young women now you have to have faith that she will make the right decisions in life. You can't hold her down forever so you need to let her go off on her own where she is in situations that she has to make decisions on her own. It's best that way, even if it is hard, it's life.
I would let her at 16 but first id talk to her about everything how drinking and drugs makes kids do thinks that in their right mind they would never do and that girls don't plan on getting pregnant and that she is responsible for the decisions she makes in her life shes the one that will have to pay if her reputation is ruined let her go on trial bases you pick her up you have to have trust in her or she will go wild when she gets older
Pff, your lucky at 16 shes not sneaking out to go to parties
Let her go, the more you stop her from experiencing life without any good reasons why she shouldn't, the sooner she will rebel and be resentful.
Trust me, I used to be 16. It'd be very easily for her to go without you knowing.
Learning is about doing new things and making mistakes. Sheltering her at home from the big bad world of temptation is not going to help her in the real world.
You should let her go. If you know that she doesn't drink...smoke...do drugs and is a good student then why are you so worried? I know that it is a little scary but you are going to have to let go sometime and have to let her go to parties and stuff. Just tell her that you are going to call her two three times and that she better answer..that kind of thing. I would say that her age is about right...16-17...take care and hope I helped some!!
I wouldnt let her go unless you knew the parent and they were going to be there. girls get drugged and raped, it's not a joke. Im not paranoid, I was raped as a teenager, by a friend I had known for yrs and trusted. Even now as an adult woman I get groped at bars and even the supermarket. You can't just trust people. Even if you trust your daughter be skeptical of her friends
16.
if she doesn't drink, smoke, do drugs, etc. then what are you worried about? she sounds like she has a good head on her shoulders and can handle herself while hanging out with friends.
i remember when i moved to a new school when i was 17 and was invited to a party by the most popular guy in school. i wanted to go but couldn't (i had a cold). i was never invited to one again. i feel like if i had just gone to that party i would've made some friends and been more accepted. instead, i ended up hanging out with ';the rejects'; and pot heads
Our 18 year old still doesn't go......unless it's a party at our house with our friends and family, and then he can invite his friends too. :-)
I would say 16 OR 17, it depends on how mature a teenager is, meaning: they should know how to back up if someone offers them drugs, alcohol , or fags (cigarettes). And, just trust her, tell her this is her one and only chance, and she better behave at the party.
I'd say that you should get all the details you can before letting her go. Don't go crazy though. the basics and if you think of anything suspicious because of the ';guest list'; than dig a little deeper. But be wary, there may be things she's hiding, but she sounds responsible.
I probably started going to the odd party when I was 16 or 17. But then I was only allowed ';a drink or two'; but that was it. And of course if I was a little liberal mixing my drinks then I could suffer the hangover the next day while carrying on with the daily routine.
i am personally 18 and never went to a party, and i still would forbid her, hanging with ';friends'; could be bad and alot of the time at parties girls end up having sex or doing stuff because of peer pressure don't do it.
If you dont let her go eventually she will just sneak out. You want her to trust you, and by forbidding her from doing something she isnt going to trust you with the big stuff.
The more you forbid the more she will want to do it.
Your better off to trust her and at least know where she is.
Otherwise, she'll just sneak out or ';sleep over'; at a friends house.
Wouldn't you rather know the truth?
let her live as a damn teenager. your a teenager for a reason, to **** up.
At that age just give her a curfew, and make sure she still gets good grades.
if your daughter is responsible, then i think you should let her go if she's 16.
just let her go.
I let my son start at 16. There still has to be a parent.
I know this was addressed to perents but i would feel bad if i didn't let u know something. Im almost 20 years old. When i was in high school i went to maybe 2 parties at the most. and they weren't with my parents permission. But my point is if u don't let her go then she will stop asking u for permission and just ';spend the night at a friends house'; if u know what i mean. Im not saying let her have her way allll the time but a party every now and then doesn't hurt just tell her the reasons that you don't want her to go and tell her to check in with you! because you sitting at home wondering if ur little girl is safe isn't a fun feeling for u! im sure! and tell her if she wants to go to the party then she has to check in with u, calling, only because u want her to be safe because you love her very much! I know as a mother that it's hard because your stuck between wanting her to be happy and doing the right thing but now that im older, i thank my parents for being so strict with that! THINK IF I WOULD HAVE GOTTEN PREGNANT AND NOT BEEN ABLE TO FINISH HIGH SCHOOL! OMG! thats why the calling is a good thing it keeps u, her parent, in her head so if she even thinks about doing something bad she will have u in her head and she will feel bad about ';disappointing u!'; but anyways i guess my point is i think u have every right in the world to keep her from these parties because they are PRETTY BAD in this genoration! but then again taking her away from them all together isn't helping her make her own GOOD decisions and have the ';experience of high school'; but i am doing just fine as a 20 year old not having gone to any parties! lol another thing is if she doesn't get to go, one of my close friends totally went off the deep end. the second she turned 18 she went crazy sleeping with all these guys, drinking etc. her parents held on SO TIGHT that she didn't have any breathing room, once they had no control over her, she took a turn for the worst! so its going to be a hard decision for you and i wish u the best of luck with ur daughter! i hope some of the things i said helped you in some way!
My mom started allowing me to go to parties at 16 (her argument: If I could get a job I could party, so I got a part time job) She also had me check in every few hours, and always reminded me I'm smart and I know the difference between right and wrong, basically she reminded me to use my judgment. Make sure your daughter knows now matter what happens she can call you and you won't be mad, in the case something did go wrong she should know you will help and you will still love her no matter what. Or that's its ok just simply to say ';pick me up'; or a code word if things get out of hand. I had a code with my Mom if I called and hit the key on the phone 3 times she would come get me without questions. I think this will me the most important thing for you... knowing your daughter is ok.
she thinks Im being unfair because she really wants to go to a party just to hang out with friends and see what its like.
so, what age did (or would) you let your kids go to real parties?Parents: What age did you let your teenager start going to real parties?
Uhmm, i think you should start lettting her go.
I mean, she's 16. She is capable of driving and
she's almost an adult. If she's a good kid, you
should trust her. If you don't let her go, how is
she ever going to get the feel of stuff like that?
Just saying, but its your choice. your the parent.
:DParents: What age did you let your teenager start going to real parties?
Well when I was a teenager my mother started let me go to parties that involved just my group of friends (guys/girls) from 8th grade on. It didn't do me any harm at all, we just all hungout and listened to music and ate pizza. It's good to be social, if she stays hibernated away from social life she will get self conscious as time goes on. I personally think it's great that my mom trusted me early on, it always made us have a stronger relationship, I could tell her anything. Your acting as though you don't trust her, she is a young women now you have to have faith that she will make the right decisions in life. You can't hold her down forever so you need to let her go off on her own where she is in situations that she has to make decisions on her own. It's best that way, even if it is hard, it's life.
I would let her at 16 but first id talk to her about everything how drinking and drugs makes kids do thinks that in their right mind they would never do and that girls don't plan on getting pregnant and that she is responsible for the decisions she makes in her life shes the one that will have to pay if her reputation is ruined let her go on trial bases you pick her up you have to have trust in her or she will go wild when she gets older
Pff, your lucky at 16 shes not sneaking out to go to parties
Let her go, the more you stop her from experiencing life without any good reasons why she shouldn't, the sooner she will rebel and be resentful.
Trust me, I used to be 16. It'd be very easily for her to go without you knowing.
Learning is about doing new things and making mistakes. Sheltering her at home from the big bad world of temptation is not going to help her in the real world.
You should let her go. If you know that she doesn't drink...smoke...do drugs and is a good student then why are you so worried? I know that it is a little scary but you are going to have to let go sometime and have to let her go to parties and stuff. Just tell her that you are going to call her two three times and that she better answer..that kind of thing. I would say that her age is about right...16-17...take care and hope I helped some!!
I wouldnt let her go unless you knew the parent and they were going to be there. girls get drugged and raped, it's not a joke. Im not paranoid, I was raped as a teenager, by a friend I had known for yrs and trusted. Even now as an adult woman I get groped at bars and even the supermarket. You can't just trust people. Even if you trust your daughter be skeptical of her friends
16.
if she doesn't drink, smoke, do drugs, etc. then what are you worried about? she sounds like she has a good head on her shoulders and can handle herself while hanging out with friends.
i remember when i moved to a new school when i was 17 and was invited to a party by the most popular guy in school. i wanted to go but couldn't (i had a cold). i was never invited to one again. i feel like if i had just gone to that party i would've made some friends and been more accepted. instead, i ended up hanging out with ';the rejects'; and pot heads
Our 18 year old still doesn't go......unless it's a party at our house with our friends and family, and then he can invite his friends too. :-)
I would say 16 OR 17, it depends on how mature a teenager is, meaning: they should know how to back up if someone offers them drugs, alcohol , or fags (cigarettes). And, just trust her, tell her this is her one and only chance, and she better behave at the party.
I'd say that you should get all the details you can before letting her go. Don't go crazy though. the basics and if you think of anything suspicious because of the ';guest list'; than dig a little deeper. But be wary, there may be things she's hiding, but she sounds responsible.
I probably started going to the odd party when I was 16 or 17. But then I was only allowed ';a drink or two'; but that was it. And of course if I was a little liberal mixing my drinks then I could suffer the hangover the next day while carrying on with the daily routine.
i am personally 18 and never went to a party, and i still would forbid her, hanging with ';friends'; could be bad and alot of the time at parties girls end up having sex or doing stuff because of peer pressure don't do it.
If you dont let her go eventually she will just sneak out. You want her to trust you, and by forbidding her from doing something she isnt going to trust you with the big stuff.
The more you forbid the more she will want to do it.
Your better off to trust her and at least know where she is.
Otherwise, she'll just sneak out or ';sleep over'; at a friends house.
Wouldn't you rather know the truth?
let her live as a damn teenager. your a teenager for a reason, to **** up.
At that age just give her a curfew, and make sure she still gets good grades.
if your daughter is responsible, then i think you should let her go if she's 16.
just let her go.
I let my son start at 16. There still has to be a parent.
I know this was addressed to perents but i would feel bad if i didn't let u know something. Im almost 20 years old. When i was in high school i went to maybe 2 parties at the most. and they weren't with my parents permission. But my point is if u don't let her go then she will stop asking u for permission and just ';spend the night at a friends house'; if u know what i mean. Im not saying let her have her way allll the time but a party every now and then doesn't hurt just tell her the reasons that you don't want her to go and tell her to check in with you! because you sitting at home wondering if ur little girl is safe isn't a fun feeling for u! im sure! and tell her if she wants to go to the party then she has to check in with u, calling, only because u want her to be safe because you love her very much! I know as a mother that it's hard because your stuck between wanting her to be happy and doing the right thing but now that im older, i thank my parents for being so strict with that! THINK IF I WOULD HAVE GOTTEN PREGNANT AND NOT BEEN ABLE TO FINISH HIGH SCHOOL! OMG! thats why the calling is a good thing it keeps u, her parent, in her head so if she even thinks about doing something bad she will have u in her head and she will feel bad about ';disappointing u!'; but anyways i guess my point is i think u have every right in the world to keep her from these parties because they are PRETTY BAD in this genoration! but then again taking her away from them all together isn't helping her make her own GOOD decisions and have the ';experience of high school'; but i am doing just fine as a 20 year old not having gone to any parties! lol another thing is if she doesn't get to go, one of my close friends totally went off the deep end. the second she turned 18 she went crazy sleeping with all these guys, drinking etc. her parents held on SO TIGHT that she didn't have any breathing room, once they had no control over her, she took a turn for the worst! so its going to be a hard decision for you and i wish u the best of luck with ur daughter! i hope some of the things i said helped you in some way!
My mom started allowing me to go to parties at 16 (her argument: If I could get a job I could party, so I got a part time job) She also had me check in every few hours, and always reminded me I'm smart and I know the difference between right and wrong, basically she reminded me to use my judgment. Make sure your daughter knows now matter what happens she can call you and you won't be mad, in the case something did go wrong she should know you will help and you will still love her no matter what. Or that's its ok just simply to say ';pick me up'; or a code word if things get out of hand. I had a code with my Mom if I called and hit the key on the phone 3 times she would come get me without questions. I think this will me the most important thing for you... knowing your daughter is ok.
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